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How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 12:40:45 PM

thatstheway

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As the story goes and so does life, life goes on, move on, and get over it. I beg to differ in my case. Almost 2 years ago I met a mistress at Club XIT. I felt something as she flogged me for the first time, as it was my first. And as she grabbed me with her hands after and felt chills go down my spine. I need to regain the trust of this beautiful mistress as I need her more than I think. I crave the feeling of her whip against my back like a rat does cheese. I disrespected he and accused her of doing something that shall not be discussed in here. But the point is, I am the reason that communication was cutoff and I am the one that was unable to fix it. She gave me another chance and I was unable to fulfill it on my behalf. What is there that I can do to get her back?

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 12:46:53 PM

CatdeMedici

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First time, shame on you---second time, shame on Me---third time? Sorry NFW--you blew it, learn from it and move on.

Contrary to many opinions, we are NOT stupid, needy, or doormats--oh and the ratio of those who WILL behave are about 1000 to 1.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 12:49:51 PM

thatstheway

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I understand and respect what you are saying how I made my self look bad and disrespected my mistress on more than one occasion. I understand I may not deserve another chance, but I would do anything to get another one and ensure my mistress no more mistakes or mess ups on my behalf.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 12:57:58 PM

CarrieO

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Just curious...is this the same domme you mention in this thread....

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2255471/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2255471

and this one...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2297282/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2297282

Maybe it's time to move forward and learn from the mistakes you made.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:00:01 PM

thatstheway

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Yes, it is the same mistress. Thank you for your input, it is very much appreciated. I wish I could move on, but it is hard to match what this mistress has with the others I meet.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:06:16 PM

subtlebutterfly

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She gave you a chance you blew it up she told you to piss off.

Take the fkin hint and stop being a stalker.

..and yes I'm moody in case you're wondering however you do sound like ........ in all the other posts too so. You had it coming.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:08:26 PM

thatstheway

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You all are right. I give up.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:16:44 PM

RedMagic1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly
She gave you a chance you blew it up she told you to piss off.

Actually, according to him on the other thread, he told her to piss off first... but that was because he was afraid since he had fallen in love with her. But now, he knows he really is in love with her, so would do anything for her. I might have gotten that wrong, though. Situations like this give me a headache.

Most women I know just luuuuvvvvvvv a man who brings drama and instability into their lives.

Dude. Two words: no chance. Spend more time at the gym, join a yoga class, and take lots of cold showers.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:31:02 PM

subtlebutterfly

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yes the first time..but I'm talking about the second chance, maybe I misread..but well..anyhow..my opinion stands.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 1:32:48 PM

LadyHibiscus

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There are no second chances in my world. One of the very few times I follow directions is when someone tells me to fuck off!

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 2:14:50 PM

StoneFox

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Actually, I believe he's seeking a THIRD chance.

If I was that mistress, I would say no way as well. And I agree with subtlebutterfly...after a while, it just makes him into a stalker. That's the stuff restraining orders are made from. F*ck that noise.

Guy, move on.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 2:19:31 PM

MidnightKat5000

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As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And more often than not they are bigger and better. Chin up.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 2:36:15 PM

YourhandMyAss

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Then you should of done what was asked of you, it was a simple request for you to post on collarme, from what I understand, and you chose not to do it, and there for you must not really be all that hardpressed to find someone her equal or ya wouldn't of been gambling her away like that.

quote:

ORIGINAL: thatstheway

Yes, it is the same mistress. Thank you for your input, it is very much appreciated. I wish I could move on, but it is hard to match what this mistress has with the others I meet.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 2:54:07 PM

DarkSteven

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Dude, you fell for the first woman who flogged you, infatuation. You've had two years to get past her. Do it and make up for lost time.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 3:19:50 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thatstheway
I wish I could move on, but it is hard to match what this mistress has with the others I meet.

Well, no one you meet will be like her, and you can hang on to stalkerish behavior as long as you want to avoid intimacy with anyone new. But, it's your life to waste (alone or in jail).

And what she said....

quote:

CatdeMedici
First time, shame on you---second time, shame on Me---third time? Sorry NFW--you blew it, learn from it and move on.

M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 6/6/2009 3:22:32 PM >

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 3:35:08 PM

BossyShoeBitch

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Do you realize how rare that is for a submissive male to have an experience like you were lucky enough to have right out of the gate like that? ESPECIALLY because it wasn't like you went to a Pro Domme. There are men on here that have been fantasizing about an experience like that their entire lives and never experience it.

I gave you a huge opportunity at a second chance, but you blew it again. I even had HouseBitch walk you through your assignment, almost step by step, but you failed to follow almost any of my instructions.

You might want to try looking at this from a different angle:

You walked into a BDSM club at 19 years old for the first time and met 2 beautiful Dommes.

You were cute and because ASD wanted to see me do it, I flogged you, beat you, and spent a little time with you. Then I saw you once or twice after that night.

Why not consider yourself richer for the experience and move on?

Here's a few clues as to why there will NEVER be anything between you and I.

Clue #1: You have a pessimistic, victim's mentality. I view you as unpredictable, volatile, and a slacker. Why not go to college, support yourself completely, change your attitude from, "Poor me. All of my friends have let me down," to "Everyone has their own shit and their own lives to live and it's all good." You know all those pain in the ass things your parents bug you about? They are right. You are wrong. Do what they say.

Clue #2: In case you failed to notice, I am more than 20 years older than you and frankly, I am just not a Cougar.

Clue #3: If you want to be with a woman like me, become the kind of man that attracts woman like me.

And just to answer the last 50 or so random texts you have sent me asking me how I am:

I'm doing great.

(edited to add: *obviously in reply to the OP, not DarkSteven*)

< Message edited by BossyShoeBitch -- 6/6/2009 3:38:54 PM >

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 3:38:31 PM

Arpig

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How do you get her back? You don't.
You got her back once already, then you went and fucked up again. One of the differences between being with a domme and dating a vanilla woman is that a domme is far less likely to put up with repeated fuck-ups.
You fucked it up, cry in your beer, beat yourself up over it as you lay in bed at night some, and then get over it.

< Message edited by Arpig -- 6/6/2009 3:56:49 PM >

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 3:59:15 PM

littlesarbonn

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Consider yourself really lucky already. Hell, I'd settle for a first chance right now.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 4:07:22 PM

LotusSong

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quote:

What is there that I can do to get her back?

There isn't. In this dynamic, the WOMAN makes the advances if she wants you back.

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I'm not your type.
I'm not inflatable.

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RE: How do I get her back? - 6/6/2009 5:26:18 PM

DarkSteven

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Actually, you managed to get a second chance. I'm impressed. Care to share with us how you did that?

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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