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Addressing the past? - 6/6/2009 2:57:32 PM

servanttony

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i realise this isn't friends re-united etc but i wonder if a certain person is out there.

when i frist entered bdsm in 2000, i was owned by a Bay Area Domina, who would be roughly 29 - 32 now, under the name of bayprincess, or something to similar effect. Anyway, i am a brit, and at the time i had not played before, so asked her permission to play r/l. to cut a long story short the relationship ended with a prediction from her, that i would end up as nothing more than a cuckold slave. I also did some website work for her friend also bay area at the same time.

i just seek to address the balance, and make contact with the past.

i apologise for any intrusion on your time.

your humble servant tony.

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/6/2009 6:32:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: servanttony

i realise this isn't friends re-united etc but i wonder if a certain person is out there.

when i frist entered bdsm in 2000, i was owned by a Bay Area Domina, who would be roughly 29 - 32 now, under the name of bayprincess, or something to similar effect. Anyway, i am a brit, and at the time i had not played before, so asked her permission to play r/l. to cut a long story short the relationship ended with a prediction from her, that i would end up as nothing more than a cuckold slave. I also did some website work for her friend also bay area at the same time.

i just seek to address the balance, and make contact with the past.

i apologise for any intrusion on your time.

your humble servant tony.

(Well.....I feel better).

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/7/2009 2:22:39 PM

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I'm curious has her prediction come true?

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/7/2009 2:29:52 PM

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no it hasn't ... one of the things i wanted to say to her lol.

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/7/2009 2:31:53 PM

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Have you considered using the search function on the other side? If she's on the site and still in the same location, it may be a way to find if she has a profile here or not.

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/7/2009 2:50:43 PM

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Lady Pact, yes tried that. i've messaged a few Dominas who looked they might be her, but haven't had any luck. also tried other sites like fetlife. the message board is kind of a last resort (no offence)

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/7/2009 7:05:30 PM

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Not offended at all. (Believe Me. It takes a lot more than that.) Was just hoping to throw a suggestion out there that may have been of use to you. Best of luck.

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/13/2009 3:57:53 PM

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Here is a asubject I know of, as it took me years to address an issue from my childhood, and to help me raech peace with it, went to the lengths of forgiving the perpetrator of this act but only within my mind. And that helped me, and to further get over and get past it I found myself wanting to roleplay a particular scene which is not totally remaniscent of hurt but it does allow me certain controls within me about it all.
Now, we all know that forgive is not he same as forget, and I will not forget but I did allow myself to come to terms with the situation as an adult and even smile at times. It sounds like you might like to investiagte the same sort of effort for yourself so that you will be able to find a way to move-on within yourself from this. Its about forgiving oneself for the thoughts and feelings you have. It might seem difficult at first but you need to keep going with it, do not give up. If you can, get a bit of help with a counsellor to chat to as I think the chatting might just present you with a chance to say things without fear of repercussions etc. Please do let me know if this helps you or you want some clarification of what I'm saying?

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RE: Addressing the past? - 6/13/2009 9:04:50 PM

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Every relationship is a chance for a new beginning. The past is past, learn from it and move forward. We all do, somehow. That prediction was just her opinion, not destiny.

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