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RE: Coming out - 6/8/2009 6:43:53 PM

kitastrophe33

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Oye, the OP said they were old, not stupid...lol. I dunno, I'd go with binding when you're places that you care about what people think. Maybe mom will be cool with it all. Maybe she'll all of a sudden have a crisis wondering what she did wrong. (Not sayin she did ANYTHING wrong, just saying she might think something like that).

I'm pretty sure that there is no easy way to come out like that. I mean, people don't even talk openly about vanilla sex. It's going to be hard.

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Bind your breasts so they look flatter and wear loose sweaters. I'm more curious as to what your employer thinks of the new you.

But depending on the physical and mental conditions of the 80 year olds, it may not be necessary to say anything. Forgetfulness could be your friend here.

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RE: Coming out - 6/8/2009 7:14:45 PM

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I'd be wary of disclosing too much to the elderly too ... how would you feel if one then had a heart attack? I'd be going with the binding and wearing loose clothes that disguise the growths, and trying to look as masculine as possible when around them. Without being unkind, it may not be a longterm problem with them at that age! In My case, I couldn't disguise that I was leaving hubby 2 and moving in with Master ... but I didn't tell Mum He was Master (she would have had heart failure for sure as she was a radical woman's rights type!). However she could see for herself that I was SO much happier and she thanked Him herself for bringing back her "real" daughter, and that knowledge that I was happy was all she needed to die at ease.

The younger members of the family are a different matter, and only you know how tolerantly they've been raised! Might be an idea if you know any transgender people to ask them how they handled it with their families. From ones I've known, yes it's a 9-day wonder, but for the most part, most people get used to it and cope. However some family members do find it more difficult as "Dad" is no longer "Dad" in their eyes ... it's the risk you are taking. I do think you and your Mistress should have discussed this thoroughly before you started on the pills. I'm also surprised someone is prescribing them for you without having gone through these psychological aspects with you?

Good luck anyway!
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RE: Coming out - 6/9/2009 2:35:42 AM

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Thanks for all the replies.

Just to clarify a few points.
First we don't need to work so we don't. So there is no issues with bosses etc.
Our daughter knows we 'do things a bit different' so she's no real problem. Hubby is another matter.
Mothers are open minded but still! Both over 80 and very with it. Neither are fools.
My working life was spent as a high pressure alpha male that folks feared and respected. If only they knew what my 'real' life was.
Breast? Well over the years we have slowly stepped up the whole senario. Breast were just another step in the journey. We live a few days drive away from anyone who knows us and only see family every few months so it hasn't been a real problem. I think we can hide the breasts for a while yet but the day will come when they will become obvious.

For those who think we are 'irresponsible' I can only guess that your motives are not the same as ours. I'm not in it for sex! I'm addicted just as a gambler or drug addict is addicted. I can't explain what drives me to be what I am. I only know that I need to be what I wasn't born to be. I'm very lucky to have a partner who has seen me, over the years, try to rid myself of the addiction all to no avail. So rather than fight it we have learned to use the addiction to the best of our abilities.

I see being made to be a sissy no differently to those who are made to be a pet, a slave, a goth or any other 'kink'. Only the outer layer is different. I also beleive there is a differnce between those, like me, who are complelled to be dominated from those who are just looking to enhance their sexual experience. I only wish I could be a weekend submisive!

Again thanks for the answers.

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RE: Coming out - 6/9/2009 12:25:18 PM

Lockit

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Wow... I'm not sure I've ever heard anyone explain things the way you just have. Using the word addiction to justify, excuse, give reason for whatever isn't what I would call a good idea. I don't much respect addictions and often what an addict will focus on or allow to keep an addiction going, I just cannot see as good.

Your last sentence or so are very interesting to me. Some are compelled to be dominated and some are only using it for the sexual experience who are weekend kinksters basically and one group is better than the other the way you make it sound and you are in the better group. Wow... So you are addicted, compelled and are justified. You make yourself sound helpless.

So what was the question or problem? Seems you have it all figured out.

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RE: Coming out - 6/9/2009 5:34:02 PM

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Oye, the OP said they were old, not stupid...lol. I dunno, I'd go with binding when you're places that you care about what people think. Maybe mom will be cool with it all. Maybe she'll all of a sudden have a crisis wondering what she did wrong. (Not sayin she did ANYTHING wrong, just saying she might think something like that).

I'm pretty sure that there is no easy way to come out like that. I mean, people don't even talk openly about vanilla sex. It's going to be hard.

My father is 82, he isn't stupid but he has lost a great deal of mental acumen. In my experience, having buried elderly parents, grandparents, in laws etc, it is not uncommon for them to have eyesight problems and memory problems. Perhaps you ought to do some research on geriatrics.

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