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dreamerdreaming -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 6:22:37 AM)
I don't care about height at all. I care about the person. They can't help their height, just as they can't help their age. I've dated guys 5'2" and less. Incidentally, they were quite well hung... So you can't tell what's in a guy's pants by looking at how tall he is. But again, I don't care about that, I care about the person. Just thought I'd mention it because maybe there are women looking for big tall guys assuming they'll be well endowed, and they're looking right past the short guys who are. To reiterate: height is not a factor for me. I like like littlesarbonn for his fascinating, wonderful personality, for example. I don't care how tall he is. It just doesn't matter. What matters about him is his compassion, his wisdom, his honesty, etc. What matters is who he is inside.

OsideGirl -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 7:29:10 AM)
I don't equate height with Dominance. Master is 6'2". His closest friend is 5'7" and is one of the dominant people that I know. I've dated men under 6 feet tall and it was because of who they are. That said, I'm more attracted to tall men. I think part of it that some of my family is quite tall. My grandfather (whom I adored) was 6'5". Out of his grandchildren, I'm one of the shortest at 5'6". My brother is the shortest boy at 6'1". The tallest boy is 6'8". Even the girls are tall at 5'11" and 6'.

pixidustpet -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 8:07:43 AM)
height doesnt mean so much to me. now, being short (i'm 5'1"), i'm not going to tower over many people. [:)] that said, TheEngineer is well over a foot taller than i am (he's 6'3") and that's fine. wolf was 5'5" and that was fine too. kitten

littlesarbonn -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 9:16:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn Height is one of those things that no matter what you do, it's still going to be a factor with some people. I'm 5'5", and I realize that is a negative with some women. Rather than focus on it or even care, I don't think hardly a second thought about it. If some woman actually believes she's going to find a better partner than me because the other person is taller, then she's as bad as any guy that thinks a woman with a cute ass is much more suitable a mate than one with not so cute of one. It's that sort of thing that causes someone to have to feel inadequate when in reality it's someone else's stupidity at being so tied to physical necessities that I realize I'm far better off without someone like that in the first place. You may not have meant to be insulting, but it sounds like a bitter tirade more than 'I'm happy with my lot in life.' I, personally, wouldn't be sexually attracted to you because of your height, and sex and attraction is a huge deal to me and I wouldn't have a relationship with someone who I'm not turned on for. Saying that my need to be sexually attracted to a man is stupid is insulting, but maybe you mean that you don't like people who are only focused on physical features? If my height means you're not attracted to me in the slight, why would you care what I have to say about those who discriminate based on height? I'd no more be attracted to you as someone who feels height is too important to discount than you would be to someone like me who is not within your height standards. All that's really left is semantics.

MsFlutter -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 9:18:25 AM)
Most folks ('cept jockeys and the occasional 7th grader) are taller than I am. While I'm still intrigued by height, it is no longer the deal-breaker it once was. Now that I look back on it, most of the tall guys I've known have been real pricks. *I'm 5'2".. but I look* a lot taller when they are on their knees.... ;)**

velvetvixen -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 10:23:51 AM)
I've been with Doms and men in general who are at my height or an inch or so shorter. In terms of their ability to dominate, no I did not notice any difference that could be correlated to height. In general, I am drawn to taller Doms, but I haven't been in a situation where I would be with a Dom who was significantly shorter than I am. I hope I wouldn't rule them out based on height alone. I'm 5'9" on a good day. happy day vv

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 10:28:24 AM)
My slave Hugh was 6'7" to my 5'5". David was maybe 5'7". Is there a correlation between height and submission? I do like men that are larger than me, there is more of them to cuddle! I like having someone that can be my bodyguard! Beyond that, there is no height requirement. If I like someone, I like him.

kitastrophe33 -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 11:00:03 AM)
I like my partner to be tall enough that I can put on my hooker heels and still be shorter than him. My boyfriend now is 6'3, (to my 5'6) so even in heels, he's lots taller than me. There is such a thing as too tall though. I dated a guy who was 6'6 once. The extra 3 inches he has on my current boyfriend made him officially too tall. It was hard to kiss him, and hard to look him in the eyes during sex. I'm sure he'd be great for some of you taller girls, but a full foot taller was uncomfortable. Obviously, height doesn't actually reflect one's dominance. But it probably does affect how I perceive them. When a guy is significantly bigger and stronger than me, I feel vulnerable, and thus more dominated. But I've got a bit of a rape fantasy, so that physical domination is a bigger deal for me than it might be for others.

ShaharThorne -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 11:55:13 AM)
I am 5'6" and my last relationship was 6'. We were both switches so that did not influence our relationship. I am more prone to being dominated by guys around my height, once by a guy for 11+ years who was 5'4" (he enjoy spanking my asp a lot...hehehe). In reality, tis not the height but the personality that attracts me.

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 12:06:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici Call Me a brat, I do care, I am 5'7", 5'10 in heels--I am very uncomfortable with someone shorter than I am--vanilla or otherwise. I don't think that height and Dominance go hand in hand, but in My hand, he better be taller. I'm shorter then you, but fell the same way in a relationship... but it's something I can get used to with time.

Lockit -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 12:07:10 PM)
I like men of all sizes... but extra large men are very attracted to me and me to them... I love the way they move when not a bull in a china shop! But I also love the fit of a smaller man when we dance... so each has their own attraction to me. I mostly go for the person on the inside. If dominance went by height.. I would so be in trouble! Thankfully it has nothing to do with anything. Haven't ya heard? Dynomite comes in small packages! That is a truth I live in my shortness... I may be shorter... but I can jump (practically fly) damn it! [:D]

KateyCaine -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 1:41:38 PM)
my beloved Master Charles is 6 foot 1, about a foot taller than i am. Mind you, almost everyone is taller than me!! [;)] k.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 3:08:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper In the vanilla dating and sex world, height is universally an asset for men. It comes first: TALL, dark and handsome. Its shallow for a man to desire a woman who is on the thin side, a trait she can have some control over, however, it is not shallow for a woman to want a tall man, a trait guys can do very little to alter.

dove967 -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 3:11:23 PM)
Well, seeing as I'm only 4'8" finding a partner taller than me has never been much of an issue......lol It sure does make role play and spanking kinky as hell, though! dove

SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 4:25:58 PM)
I once had a discussion with some guy friends of mine and said that short was the worst thing in the world to be if you're a guy. They disagreed. We then put an email together and had our female friends rank in order worst to least worst between bald, short, gray, slightly chubby. The overwhelming response from our female friends was short was the worst and bald second worst, by large margins, then chubby followed closely by gray. Obviously not scientific with a lot of room to interpret which is what, but interesting none the less.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 4:46:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper In the vanilla dating and sex world, height is universally an asset for men. It comes first: TALL, dark and handsome. Its shallow for a man to desire a woman who is on the thin side, a trait she can have some control over, however, it is not shallow for a woman to want a tall man, a trait guys can do very little to alter. spoken by a 6'2" tall man. [:D]

Delphinus -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 5:07:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper In the vanilla dating and sex world, height is universally an asset for men. It comes first: TALL, dark and handsome. Its shallow for a man to desire a woman who is on the thin side, a trait she can have some control over, however, it is not shallow for a woman to want a tall man, a trait guys can do very little to alter. I don't think it's shallow. One is attracted to what one is attracted to. I'm only 5'1" so pretty much everyone is taller than me. I don't really notice height - probably because...everyone is taller than me.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 5:13:07 PM)
It really doesn't matter to me as a dom. I'm more worried about whether or not we get along.

DavanKael -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 5:19:42 PM)
I care about height. I used to call any men under 6' "short" and still have a very strong bias for at least average, preferrably at least 6'. Build comes into play sometimes and can 'make up for' a lesser height. I prefer a male partner to be physically imposing (Not toward me) and I feel more protected by someone who is taller/powerfully built. I find it extremely difficult to imagine being with someone who is below 5'7" and the only reason I'm citing that short is because I had a relationship with someone that short and felt comfortable. I'm 5'. Davan

IronBear -> RE: Height (6/8/2009 5:23:40 PM)
FR I honestly have no idea on this. never asked, been asked nor heard any discussion when I was ambling about the local scene. I'm 6'3" 135kgs (about 285 lbs) without too much fat,. although I want to drop 35 kgs of body fat and replace it with 35 kgs of toned muscle which will happen when they decide to replace my knees).. Virtually all my wives and lovers have been in the 5' to 5'4" mark but not due to my preferences rather than to they attracted me for other reasons such as looks, intelligence and mostly personality.

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