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RE: Secondary relationships...would you, could you, etc? - 6/8/2009 4:58:47 PM

sblady

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Now what I'd like to know is, as submissives would you consider serving someone NON-sexually that had a mate? Does what I've described above seem reasonable/unreasonable to your individual perspectives? Yeah, I'm taking a survey

I had a similar discussion with my Sir over the weekend. Yes, I absolutely could serve someone non-sexually who had a mate.

That person would have to acknowledge that my "service" would be based upon approval of my Sir. That's the only issue I foresee as the Dominant "play partner" may feel they're submitting to my Sir.

Edited to add: This was simply a discussion between my Sir and I and not something that may actually happen.

< Message edited by sblady -- 6/8/2009 5:04:56 PM >

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RE: Secondary relationships...would you, could you, etc? - 6/8/2009 5:53:22 PM

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Now what I'd like to know is, as submissives would you consider serving someone NON-sexually that had a mate? Does what I've described above seem reasonable/unreasonable to your individual perspectives? Yeah, I'm taking a survey

Yes, I would do that - so long as all parties on all sides were on board.

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RE: Secondary relationships...would you, could you, etc? - 6/9/2009 1:14:35 AM

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Yeah...I was thinking that too...that it might work as long as everyone was approving and communication was good.
And of course, what another poster said...to make sure the guy I take on doesn't fall in love.

To be honest, I'm not even totally opposed to taking on a female submissive and I'm not into women sexually at all. Sometimes for me, the D/s dynamic is more connecting then a sexual one so maybe that's also a possibility for someone who wants a play partner for bdsm activities while on "single down-time".

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RE: Secondary relationships...would you, could you, etc? - 6/9/2009 9:10:39 AM

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When i was still searching and wasn't sure what for, for awhile i had a casual, married FWB and there was an agreed-upon "don't fall in love" rule. It worked for both of U/us then. After i realized what i really needed/wanted, it no longer worked. Now, i would never do it, even with E/everyone above board and in-the-know. i need the "sexual/romantic element" included.....i want the whole pie, and i have it now with Sir.

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