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Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 7:42:42 PM

CatdeMedici

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So I thought this might be for Mistress' then I thought well, let's see what any of the L/ladies think--

How do hormones affect your Dominance or submission? If at all...

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 7:53:50 PM

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This is a good question... I find that hormone surges make me more aggressive (and the antidepressants help curb that too!) so if I am having a Moment, I really have to watch myself so DangerDom doesn't become FecklessDom! I can't say that I am more dominant, but I do feel more PRIMAL.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 7:58:15 PM

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I ask for more fanning and window opening... hot flashes, ya know... Then that leads to showers... and massages... Just thinking of it, I think I may need to feed soon. Other than that... no difference.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 8:03:42 PM

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I get more aroused if I meet the right Dom, sub or switch. I cannot tell if its my hormones or not (since I am going through perimenopause).

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 9:08:33 PM

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For the week before I get my period I go through this hyper-emotional/hormonal state. I tend to cry during physical contact. It's probably the only time I really feel submissive, but it makes the boyfriend a bit uncomfortable. I tend to cry for any increase in emotion- no matter if the emotion is happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, etc. so I tend to think, like most men, it confuses him. Due to medical reasons, I can no longer go on hormonal birth control of any kind. I used to be on the pill and it helped to curve my swings, but such as life. Nothing I can do except wait it out.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 9:42:17 PM

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I am much more emotional and become a difficult submissive, over-reacting to everything. It doesn't seem to adversely affect my Domme side, however.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/8/2009 11:56:41 PM

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starting the day before my period starts, and then for (at least) a few days after, I'm a brat as a sub or a bitch as a Dominate.. More so then normal. Unless I get tired, then I just don't react to anything, except to go to bed..

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 12:24:48 AM

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I go insane. Batshit insane. I abstain from being dominant or submissive. Estrogen and I don't get along. If I can realize I am being hormonal I wait to judge everything. Once, I was absolutely infuriated that the grass in a ditch was growing the wrong way (or so I thought).

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 3:48:25 AM

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Most of the time the most it does is make me more sensitive which causes me to just want to retreat from interaction with people except on a "need to" basis. I found that simply being aware of what was causing any emotional extreme, allowing myself to feel it, while watching myself, knowing that the reaction was primarily hormones and not a sensible reaction to whatever triggered those feelings..........all helped me to avoid over reacting and forcing my shit onto others. Just being aware and watching. Then pampering myself a little more, nice meals, chocolate, red wine, soaking baths, lots of sleep.

All of that helped keep the casualty count to a minimum.

But lord help anyone that was stupid enough to need discipline. I could have easily commited cold blooded murder at times, without an ounce of remorse. Fortunate for all, most of that is past me now. The world can breath a sigh of relief, one less couldabeenacoldbloodedkiller on the loose.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 5:20:02 AM

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My hormones affect me for around a 10-5 days before the start of the period.

Does anyone renember that MacDonald spot with the baby that is crying and smiling, crying and smiling?

That is me in that time. Wild mood swings and 1 day where i feel like i could bite somebodys head up (heard that expression the first time in England and thought it is extremely fitting, not sure about the up?). If i bottom these days are dangerous because everything is felt stronger, on the 1 aggressive day i would not dominante somebody, because it is hard enough to control me on that day as it is.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 6:14:08 AM

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I just had to come back and say "batshit insane" is the funniest thing I have ever heard!

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 6:27:56 AM

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Menopause is a b*tch!! It can start anywhere from age 30-60 and last for several years. I can say unequivocally that there is nothing undignified about standing in the kitchen with your head in the freezer.

Hot flashes will melt the make-up right off your face and the styling mousse out of your hair. The 'flash to bang" ratio is reduced to nanoseconds - 'batshit insane' is an excellent way to express it LOL! I get chocolate or someone gets hurt. The house thermostat gets played like a slot machine. PVC and leather can't come off fast enough. God(dess) help the person brave enough to say 'Yanno - you should just chill!'

I can agree with LadyH about the aggressive/feral part. I perceive it as a great opportunity to get with Worf for some raucous, structure-threatening, no-holds-barred throwdown because I'm not sure the human male is load-tested for those conditions !

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 7:06:17 AM

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OH YA I am affected..

I am one year into...no moon juice cycles..and get all fukked up..

There are times when I am all ready for my boy to come over and suddenley..oops no energy...

at first I thought.
."Fuk

I am getting old. noooooooooo"
then I realized ya I am..so hay deal with it..

I try to organize around moods...and energy so for the time until I have live in again I insist on a consistent time..for many reasons including prep. for mood and energy wise..
ON top of this I have diabetes soooooooo take maintanence to live each day for sure

I use all natural stuff..so far..black cohosh..exercise..green tea..spirulina.. and recently released 100 lbs..etc..

I have no lubrication problems or sex drive issues..
in fact the older I get the higher it goes..

I have memory problems..and focus issues I never had before

"Let see where is that vibrator..what's that I hear..??
over there over there..IN the sub!" ahhaha

I can be a Galactic Bitch...or Nurturing Earth MOther but hay is still fits my profile ahahahha

hard core play ..........hugs and kisses

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 7:08:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsFlutter

Menopause is a b*tch!! It can start anywhere from age 30-60 and last for several years. I can say unequivocally that there is nothing undignified about standing in the kitchen with your head in the freezer.

Hot flashes will melt the make-up right off your face and the styling mousse out of your hair. The 'flash to bang" ratio is reduced to nanoseconds - 'batshit insane' is an excellent way to express it LOL! I get chocolate or someone gets hurt. The house thermostat gets played like a slot machine. PVC and leather can't come off fast enough. God(dess) help the person brave enough to say 'Yanno - you should just chill!'

I can agree with LadyH about the aggressive/feral part. I perceive it as a great opportunity to get with Worf for some raucous, structure-threatening, no-holds-barred throwdown because I'm not sure the human male is load-tested for those conditions !

Which is why I laugh everytime I think of Celeste's (Bita) tag line...."Never mess with a menopausal sadist".

So far, it hasn't been too horrible for me. The hot flashes are much better than they were a year and more ago. I think I am about over all the whatever crap. There is light at the end of the tunnel ladies!

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 7:21:23 AM

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I get super moody just before and just after my period starts. For me that tends to come out as tears...and bratting (or bitchy if you ask Sir). I just don't want to be a sub anymore at that time- it's all about me! It affects more than my submission though, it changes my level of pain tolerance. I'm never a heavy masochist but at that time of the month you can't even pull hair without starting the waterworks. In general I try and hide in my room until I'm fit for human society again...

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 7:46:55 AM

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My cycle is very irregular (starting into peri-menopause) and I find that the day before I am extremely emotional and go through bouts of just wanting to cry. Now when I feel like that I just hope that the next day I will start, but since the time between is getting longer and longer sometimes it is a false indicator. In that mood I find that I need positive attention more, am more likely to feel unfulfilled, and definitely get frustrated more easily. In actions I am about as far from a brat as you will ever find, but in thoughts it is a different story.

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 7:48:07 AM

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well I'm on hormone replacement therapy at the moment & its made me kind of loopy, definitley affects me in submission too. if anything it makes me more rebelious & slightly cheeky, one Dom is avoiding me completely until it all levels off & I wouldnt blame him! = )

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 8:50:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

So I thought this might be for Mistress' then I thought well, let's see what any of the L/ladies think--

How do hormones affect your Dominance or submission? If at all...

Prey tell, what are Hormones???

Ahaa I know it is when you refuse to pay a whore/hore ... and she moans/mones! Yes? In that case I'd be telling the useless bugger to pay my girl or feel my wrath and lose his dangly bits....

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 8:59:40 AM

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YOU crack Me up!

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RE: Hormones--al--or not - 6/9/2009 10:31:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Which is why I laugh everytime I think of Celeste's (Bita) tag line...."Never mess with a menopausal sadist".

So far, it hasn't been too horrible for me. The hot flashes are much better than they were a year and more ago. I think I am about over all the whatever crap. There is light at the end of the tunnel ladies!

They go away?
well DAYUMN now I need to find an age machine n grow a couple of decades..

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