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Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:07:22 AM

oldboy333

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hello Sirs..i am a 24 yr old sissy slave and i happened to find a Master at last 3 months ago. He is just the one whom i dreamed of and is equally wonderful in real life as a Master. But i do have the following problems and i doubt how i will be able to carry on and my relationship with my Master and progress as a slave. i would be very grateful if i find the answers of these questions which i face before me....(i have visited Him only once till now, though we had talked many times on phone)

1) we live in the same city, but it takes at least 2 hours to reach his place and by the time i reach his place, i feel thoroughly exhausted.

2)also the place at which we can meet is a small, dingy office of His. The place doesn't have any bathroom where i could clean up myself.
He is a small time businessman. Outside his office is a main road where there is constant hustling of vehicles and people. i generally would have preferred quiet, peaceful place. i specially fear if someone on the road notices me with His cum on my hair or like that.

3)i am very feeble healthwise, can't bear strong smells. i doubt if i remain healthy after rimming his ass, drinking his piss and gagging on his dick, all which he demands from me..

4) i also can't go to his place whenever He feels like(He has told me to visit Him at least once a week). i come from a very traditional family and my parents are always concerned about my whereabouts and thus i can't keep a thing secret from them as they always know my daily schedule. what do i tell my parents if i have to go to his place every week, which will mean at least 5-6 hours out of their sight.

i want to serve him very much and be his slave, whenever i get time to meet him. Could i be able to make progress as a slave with Him?

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:18:17 AM

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the place at which we can meet is a small, dingy office of His

Why can you not meet at his house, could he be married and hiding the wife from you. If this was a nilla thing for you would you not find this strange? Master/slave does not mean toss all your brains out the window, there are many warning signs in your message that you pointed out, think about it.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:48:05 AM

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Aside from the fact that he may be married it sounds like there are other compatibility issues: his desires don't match your needs.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:49:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: oldboy333

hello Sirs..i am a 24 yr old sissy slave and i happened to find a Master at last 3 months ago. He is just the one whom i dreamed of and is equally wonderful in real life as a Master. But i do have the following problems and i doubt how i will be able to carry on and my relationship with my Master and progress as a slave. i would be very grateful if i find the answers of these questions which i face before me....(i have visited Him only once till now, though we had talked many times on phone)

1) we live in the same city, but it takes at least 2 hours to reach his place and by the time i reach his place, i feel thoroughly exhausted.

2)also the place at which we can meet is a small, dingy office of His. The place doesn't have any bathroom where i could clean up myself.
He is a small time businessman. Outside his office is a main road where there is constant hustling of vehicles and people. i generally would have preferred quiet, peaceful place. i specially fear if someone on the road notices me with His cum on my hair or like that.

3)i am very feeble healthwise, can't bear strong smells. i doubt if i remain healthy after rimming his ass, drinking his piss and gagging on his dick, all which he demands from me..

4) i also can't go to his place whenever He feels like(He has told me to visit Him at least once a week). i come from a very traditional family and my parents are always concerned about my whereabouts and thus i can't keep a thing secret from them as they always know my daily schedule. what do i tell my parents if i have to go to his place every week, which will mean at least 5-6 hours out of their sight.

i want to serve him very much and be his slave, whenever i get time to meet him. Could i be able to make progress as a slave with Him?

Oldboy,

You may be a slave, but you're a voluntary slave. You have the right to agree to initial terms. Your health, travel, and other obligations are not to be discarded because they present an inconvenience to him. Especially the health issue.

I'm glad you're coming to terms with leaving this person. Not because I want you to leave, but because I want you to realize that a bottom holds an Ace up his sleeve. You CAN leave. Threatening your partner that you'll leave is VERY unhealthy, but knowing you can leave gives the courage to demand what it is you want from the relationship.

Knowing you could leave, if you wanted to, frees you to ask for what you want.

So I'm going to inspire you to think that you're more of an asset in the relationship. If you two broke it off, what would happen? You'd both be looking for something else.

What does he offer?
A dingy office with a bustling street outside.
A cock to suck, ass to rim... (Like the 500 million other guys don't?)
A dismissive and indifferent attitude.

What do you offer?
Willing to travel.
Eager to please, physically and otherwise.
Willing to compromise.

Tell him what you want. He's clearly not the "most perfect dream guy ever." He's got it good... A girly comes to his work, sucks him off, and gets the hell out. Don't confuse that with him training, teaching, and caring for you.

I don't like being a homewrecker, I don't like suggesting upheaval, but knowing you have power in your relationship could spur you to demand your basic sex slave rights.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 3:28:58 PM

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His office has NO bathroom??? Where does HE go when he has to go? Is that even legal?

If your health is so poor and you're so medically fragile, why is a dom who demands ass-rimming, piss-drinking, and chokes you with his dick what you dreamed of?

And, if you're 24 and your parents still need to know your whereabouts 24/7, sorry, but that's NOT a traditional family, at least in this hemisphere, it's a dysfunctional one. If you're not ready to make your own life yet, your odds for making it as a slave aren't too good.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 3:39:42 PM

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What's that adage about a square peg and a round hole?

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 3:41:46 PM

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quote:

He is just the one whom i dreamed of and is equally wonderful in real life as a Master. But i do have the following problems and i doubt how i will be able to carry on and my relationship with my Master and progress as a slave.

How exactly is he the one you have dreamed of and is equally as wonderful in real life with all the issues you just gave. Sounds to me like you settled for what you could get and are seeing the realities of what happens when you do that.

As for your Family, If you have to explain your whereabouts to anyone and the idea of doing so has the ability to cause issues in the relationship then you need to take your own inventory because it would seem one of tha major problems is on your side of the fence not his.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 3:48:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

How exactly is he the one you have dreamed of and is equally as wonderful in real life with all the issues you just gave.

10 points.

I was going to address this and then changed my mind.

If he's precisely what you've dreamed of, then all of these obstacles are presumably desirable...in which case there's no problem

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:03:33 PM

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Is that even legal?

Umm, I take it you have never been to India. It is a wonderful country, I worked there for a while, but bathrooms aren't, as of yet, their forte.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:26:48 PM

StoneFox

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Ahhhh, he's in India! That DOES make sense now! Often young men that age still live at home.

But my opinion is this: OP... if you still live at home, have serious health issues that you need to get under control (who knows if you even disclosed these to your Master?), are still closeted about your sexuality, and can't come and go or host as you please from your own home...then you are not ready to be anybody's slave.

In the same regard, I don't thing your Master is ready to dominate anyone. I agree with the others that it sounds like he's hiding something if you have to meet in his crappy office all the time. He's probably closeted too and possibly married and cheating.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/11/2009 7:35:39 PM

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i am very feeble healthwise, can't bear strong smells. i doubt if i remain healthy after rimming his ass, drinking his piss

Excuse me. Didn't YOU list on YOUR profile that you are interested in and like to do watersports and serve as a toilet slave? Perhaps your interests were all fantasy and now you've discovered that maybe you are not so interested in these activities nor do you like them as much as you thought you did. Sounds to me that your Master is giving you what you asked for and now you are complaining. You have choice. You can keep going to see your Master or you can say NO and stop. However, I would suggest changing your profile to reflect your newfound aversion to watersports and being a toilet slave.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/12/2009 1:35:17 PM

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Well, I confess I didn't look at his profile, and my little mind just answered the OP though it was written from this country. My bad, I take back the bathroom comment, and the dysfunctional family one.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/12/2009 3:31:56 PM

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I agree with peppermint - your profile contradicts your posted issues here. Also your profile indicates that you are ready to be owned and enslaved - if you have to ask permission to be out of your parents eyesight you are not any where near ready to be anyone's slave. However, I also think he is married.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/12/2009 5:41:10 PM

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Well, I confess I didn't look at his profile

The reason I don't even try to reply to the OP, much though I would like to, is that there truly is a cultural chasm here. The nearest I have been to a sissy boy in a third world country is when, in Indonesia, a colleague discovered he had just taken two banshees up to his room, and we barged up the stairs to get them out of the building before he damaged them beyond repair. He had to be quarantined three days later anyway - I am not kidding.

These practices are so taboo, over there, and hygiene so lacking, I can only imagine how hard it must be to be what the OP is. I went to India on assignment, and as I am on immuno-suppressants, my doctor told me to get tested for tuberculosis upon return. Sure enough, I was positive, spent nine months on antibiotics. And this is just from breathing the air..

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/12/2009 11:43:32 PM

BarnacleBill

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Hmmm point being, watch your ass in Indo-China area and get all the damn shots before you go.

To the OP sounds like he doesnt need a bathroom with you around? And did you tell him about your fragile health? Seems to me your arent being honest with him either.

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/13/2009 6:25:03 AM

ranja

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1. He should arrange transport for you
2. Take a bottle of water and some wipes with you
3. stop moaning and get on with it
4. the more regular your absence is the easier it is to excuse yourself, find an alibi like a hobby that nobody else is interested in...tell them you are attending a poetry class or something...

if you still think everything is too difficult, find an easier arrangement

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RE: Problems in relationship with Master - 6/13/2009 8:09:25 AM

oldboy333

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hi. thanks a million to all of you, who spent their precious on my post and gave me valuable advice.. after you all posting your comments, i have become a bit wiser and now have answers with me thanks to you all.

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