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Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/11/2009 12:40:23 PM

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*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

*ARE you situational?

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/11/2009 1:20:27 PM

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GQ,

What great questions...thanks for asking them.

*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

Switching for me is having the ability to express different traits, in different situations that are parts of my whole.

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

I'm still learning what my percentages are.

*ARE you situational?

I can be.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

I can and do, which is unsettling for some people (myself included!).

Identifying as a switch, for me, is more than being a bottom or a top. It goes beyond D/s and bdsm too. I liken it to being able to tap into different symbolic aspects of my psyche/self...The Mother/Daughter/Whore/Goddess and yes, sometimes top/bottom/Domme/sub.
I'm a gemini and as such I've always felt a second side to who/what I was at any given time. In a bdsm&D/s sense, switch described this feeling perfectly.

Of course, I'm still very much a work in progress.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/15/2009 9:06:14 AM

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I don't have multiple personalities, or a percentage split for D/s or topping/bottoming.

I can switch between top and bottom with the same person within the same scene, but so far, I haven't felt both dominant and submissive toward the same person. I very rarely interact with anybody on a D/s basis - I've had 3 D/s relationships, including my current one. The others were egalitarian kinky - top, bottom, or switch.

I don't understand what you mean by "situational."

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/15/2009 5:33:10 PM

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For me, it depends on my partner. I usually align myself one way with one person, so it's difficult for me to switch with the same partner - though it has happened, and what fun!

I'm learning more about myself constantly, but I'd say I'm dominant with most people - 80% maybe? - and when I do find someone I can submit to, it's compulsive. I could top them, but not Domme. I can switch with my current partner to an extent. Since he does like to be manhandled but he's not very submissive and I get tired of being in charge, I have been submitting more, and definitely enjoying it.

I am bisexual as well, and I'd say I'm about 70% hetero and 30% not - I do prefer men, but a beautiful funny woman gets me every time :)

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/15/2009 6:51:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

*ARE you situational?

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

GQ

I don't think my 'personality' changes at all.

The approximate "percentage" of Dom vs sub for me, it might be even... I haven't had enough experience with both sides yet to really tell.

Not sure what "situational" is asking, if you mean does Dom vs Sub depend on / vary based on the situation, then yes.. If I'm being dominant, submissive, or going back and forth between them, just depends on my mood / whoever I'm playing with /etc.. I'm open to either side (or both sides) with anyone who I would be playing with.

As far as switching during a scene, that's something I'm very interested in doing.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/20/2009 11:43:51 AM

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Personaiity is always the same, as much as we show the same face to the same person. For me its more in how I'm reading my partner - There have been times when in the middle of things you can tell your partner would rather be in the other role, so I switch. Of course my partners have all been submissive with the willlingness to be dominant once in a great while, and then only to a certain point. Course thats why I'm here to broaden my horizens

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/20/2009 6:09:06 PM

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*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?
****< giggles > Thank you, this is fantastic! :> Positions can be D or s. My personality is my personality, though in differing situations, I may allow different aspects to Dominate.
*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s
****I've not thought about a percentage in a long time. I would say that most fundamentally, I am s- but find pleasure in bieng D- at times as well.
*ARE you situational?
****A switch situationally? I kinda use the term because it's inclusive. Certainly different relationships have different dynamics.
*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?
****Sure could.
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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/21/2009 2:10:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

*ARE you situational?

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

GQ

I think there is an element of personality change.
When I am dominant it is absolute and I resent that sparkle in his eye that rings of a warning bell that he's about to take over.
Yes, we do switch within a session if I show so much as a moment of weakness when I am dominating him then he will take that opportunity to role change and so when I do dominate I have to remain one hell of a tough nut and that amounts to a personality change in me.
I wouldn't have it any other way. I love the strength of this dynamic and the unpredictability of it.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/21/2009 6:27:46 AM

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*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

Switch positions

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) Generally 50/50 though with a specific person it might vary. If the woman were REALLY into being the Top, I could get into being 80% bottom.

*ARE you situational? I have been with a few women.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home? I have switched with the same person many times in the same day, even spending the whole day talking, listening to music, and switching ... for about 14 hours. :o (long time ago)

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/24/2009 9:59:21 PM

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If the partner I am with is receptive to it, I am able to switch mid-scene, or even minute by minute. I wouldn't do that with anyone other than another switch, though, and only if that person was comfortable with it.

I can be in both headspaces simultaneously, with the same person, even. It's all aspects of the same thing to me.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 6/25/2009 9:05:14 PM

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I know that I'm more sub than dom but I am defiantly switch. Sometimes, there's this dominance that comes on me and it's defiantly different from my normal self at least a little. I do Switch with my mate even sometimes in the middle of something. He's very understanding and honestly, I think since he's slightly more on the dom side and I'm slightly more sub it works out well.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/17/2009 5:58:12 PM

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in my limited experience with my love, we just switch positions. I found when we try to be very serious about it all then personalities tend to get skewed but since we normaly both just have fun and laugh the whole way through, keep it light hearted, there isint any room for us to change anything but whos holding the *insert random implement of pain here*

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/26/2009 5:43:37 PM

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When my boyfriend and I first got together he told me he was a switch that preferred sub position, but since I'm sub he would be dominant for me. He told me I don't have a mean bone in my body. But since then I'm learning to take a dom position with him though I still consider myself sub, it's to pleasure him and the turn on I get from that is what keeps me going.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/27/2009 3:01:25 PM

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Excellent thread, GQ; these are questions I've been trying to battle inside my brain for a while, it's great to have an excuse to actually write down my thoughts - maybe that will clear them up a little for me.

*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?
This actually depends - if you ask me as a person, outside of a situational context, I'd say that when I switch I give room to different traits of my personality in a lot of cases. My Dominant side supposedly seems older than my 29 years, while my submissive side can often seem far younger - even when I am not indulging in age-play. Think insecure 14/15yearold, maybe. In a situation with another switch it's more that I/we feel the need to switch positions, and it's generally a very playful thing, often with physical triggers being pushed in addition to more subtle means such as looks and words. With me, for example, pulling my hair will most often render me pretty helpless if the person doing it is even remotely in my strength-range, which can be annoying as hell then and there, but is also a great part of the fun.

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
I think I will always be predominantly a submissive when it comes to an established relationship, especially one that is 24/7. I just can't see myself as the Dominant partner. On the 'playground', though, to put it somewhat flippantly, I think I'll become more of a Domina with time than I am now - atm I'd say I am about 70/30 % there as well. I am much more of a playful sadist than the kind of Domina I wish for to own me (even if I still have issues with thinking of myself as chattel...), even if I do have the more 'Domina-who-takes-care-of' thing as well. Yes, I know this is a longer reply than what you most likely had in mind.

*ARE you situational?
YES. Very much so.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or "roles" in a home?
Yes. I love switching 'within sessions', even if I can get really tired after. It's very much a part of who I am, and I would miss it desperately, I think, in a completely monogamous relationship where my S.O did not switch.

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/27/2009 5:51:29 PM

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*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

I am a giant ball of stuff, and it's all one "personality". I am all things, at all times, but what happens to be in the forefront happens to be what is appropriate at that time for my surroundings.

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

Would have to say split down the middle 50/50, since I have no lean to one more than the other.

*ARE you situational?

I am human. I am me, and I am me in every situation that I am in. The situation has a role in how I treat the situation, and what happens to be appropriate for my own actions in that situation. I do not consider any of it necessarily separate, or compartmentalized. I treat work as work, chill time as chill time, etc, etc. I apply the same to wherever I am, and whoever I am around. I gauge the people and the situation and the mood and I adjust accordingly. Same thing goes for my personal life married to my switch husband. We flow like water to whatever happens to be going on at any given time.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

Yep, have, and will continue to do so, as long as the mood goes that way. It's comfortable for me (and hardly comfortable for everyone, that much I know.) and it's comfortable for my husband, and it compromises nothing that we feel about our personal dynamic. It just works for us.

GQ

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/27/2009 9:12:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

I switch personalities. I am a very dual natured person. Not a split, somehow it's all integrated. I am Dom or sub according to the person I am with, although I do tend to be somewhat moody. For instance, even though I am with my sub, I might not be in a Domme mood.

*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

My basic personality is primarily dominant; my sexual orientation is primarily submissive.

*ARE you situational?

Not really.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

I have never done so, though I am not philosophically opposed to the idea.

GQ

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/27/2009 9:44:38 PM

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FR, after read thru

I'm pretty fluid. That kinda sums up a lot of it, that & a bit of a song: 'I'm every woman, it's all in me' . ..... I've always felt like I host multitudes of perspectives in myself . .. .. . The details of how they're expressed depend on the situation . .. .. .

Given that, I'm a pretty dominant person who will take control & run things if I feel the need & the desire & no one else is doing it . ... . .. & I like topping, it's fun & I like acquiring topping skills of all kinds . . . ..

But I like bottoming better. & I'm more interested in pursuing submission, relationship-wise, tho' it's a much scarier & seemingly more elusive target . ..... Much of my initial explorations of kink have been from a dominant / top space as that felt 'safer' . . ... & I've had sufficient experience to become rather cautious & picky about who I let top me & how . . ... But relinquishing control is such a relief, when I can . ... . .

As for switching in a scene or from day-to-day with a given partner, that would really depend on the partner . .... Topping & bottoming, yeah, can go from one to the other quite fluidly, but the D/s stuff, I don't know . .. . Would really depend on the relationship . ... . Tho' I have great doubts about how many people are 100% pure one thing or another, & a lot of stuff seems as much a matter of perspective as anything else; I'm pretty good at juggling multiple perspectives simultaneously . .. .

Great thread, Gypzy! It was quite informative to read thru it . .. ..

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RE: Do you switch Positions or Personalitiies? - 7/28/2009 4:20:24 AM

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*If you identify as a SWITCH do you feel you switch positions or actual "personalities"?

It would be positional.
*Do you feel you know the aprox % of your D-s switch "parts" inside?
eg) I am 80% s

100% dominant, 1% bottom. Bottoming for me is purely a sexual kink. I am as "submissive" as a tidal wave. And yes, I know I just added up to 101%

*ARE you situational?

Not sure I understand what you're saying.

*Can/DO you switch in one session/playtime or
"roles" in a home?

Can, yes, do, no.

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