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SlaveGirlNihel -> i have a question.. (6/11/2009 2:00:43 PM)
how do you handle your Master wanting a new slave along with you when it was never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed?

antipode -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 3:16:57 PM)
quote: never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed? Take the emotion out of it, if someone breaks a contract without negotiation, you are no longer bound by that contract. In general, if you master does this, knowingly, you were mistaken in your original assessment of him. Outta there.

littlewonder -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 3:17:47 PM)
We talk it over but to be honest...I probably couldn't handle it and I think it would probably end the relationship.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 3:18:33 PM)
Was it included in the contract that it would not happen, or was it just not mentioned at all? In my mind, that would make a difference. i think if it was not mentioned at all He is free to do what He wants, as He is the Master. If it was included in the contract that it would not happen, i think the slave would have a choice.....either go along with it or leave the relationship. i realize i may get flak for this answer, but oh well.

Aileen1968 -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 3:20:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveGirlNihel how do you handle your Master wanting a new slave along with you when it was never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed? He would have one slave and it wouldn't be me.

pixidustpet -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:04:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveGirlNihel how do you handle your Master wanting a new slave along with you when it was never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed? He would have one slave and it wouldn't be me. this. entirely. kitten

DesFIP -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:25:48 PM)
Wish them both a short and happy relationship. Whether you went into this agreeing it was a monogamous relationship, and now he's changed the ground rules, or even if you didn't specifically address it but have been monogamous and he knows you aren't poly, he's no longer wanting the relationship that you entered, that you want. If he has already found someone, he's a liar and a cheat and deserves no nice sentiments. If he has changed over the years and now needs a poly relationship, wish him good luck and explain you are no longer sufficiently compatible to continue. If he just wants to try it once to live out a fantasy, ask him if this fantasy is worth ending the relationship and the years he will need to spend trying to get two other girls. If yes, wish him luck. If not, allow him to dream while watching porn.

ShaharThorne -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:37:31 PM)
Why does the Master think he can handle more than one slave. Each slave has a personality and the Master has to deal with each and every personality. Which brings up the question of how the heck did the sultans in the Ottoman Empire kept all 4 of his wives and numerous comely slaves happy?

SlaveGirlNihel -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:45:03 PM)
W/we talked about it saying that if it would ever come up that He wouldn't do it until i was ready and im FAR from ready to deal with another girl in the house. W/we are kinda talking about it but im not sure whats going to happen. i have already stated that if another slave was to come into the relationship and i wasnt ready i would be gone

CatdeMedici -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:51:16 PM)
Take your shoes, step in a pile of dog shit, lift it, smell it-- If it smells like shit, I can guarantee you--it is.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:56:47 PM)
Uhh...you could just say "no". I guess that's just me though.

SlaveGirlNihel -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:56:56 PM)
heh i dont even know what to say to that

SlaveGirlNihel -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 4:58:18 PM)
quote: Uhh...you could just say "no". I guess that's just me though. quote: ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly Uhh...you could just say "no". I guess that's just me though. i have and W/we are going to talk more when company leaves our convo kinda got ended when a friend came over

Pyrmidon -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 5:00:29 PM)
Obviously, can only speak for myself...Myself says, and I quote, "A Master must devote his attention to his girl!! (Singular)" It is unfair to the slave, as well as myself, if I am trying to divide attention between two or more girls. One at a time is the sane, sensible approach to the issue. And am not sure the sultans of old did keep their wives, slaves and concubines happy, consistently.. It is rumored that a lot of homosexual activity took place among the many ladies in the seraglio..

SlaveGirlNihel -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 5:10:36 PM)
i would have to agree with you, i think He is only trying the issue cause im bi-curious and im having problems exploring, but i have told Him that it will happen when it happens and the more He pushes the issue the less i wanna try it

DarkSteven -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 5:40:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne Which brings up the question of how the heck did the sultans in the Ottoman Empire kept all 4 of his wives and numerous comely slaves happy? Eunuchs watched over them.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 6:02:48 PM)
I have been through this some myself, so I am speaking from experience. My M has wanted to add another to our relationship for awhile, and each time I have to say no. It's not because I don't want to please him, it's not even because I haven't ever thought of poly, it more has to do with the fact anytime you add someone else in, you bring not only them but their baggage and drama also. We work to find time together, we are both pretty busy people. If we brought someone else in, it would only be harder for us to find alone time if that even existed anymore. I am also very protective of my relationship, and most women I have known are more interested in ruining the one I have instead of coming into a family and becoming part of it. I understand the fantasy behind this, I probably have a few of them myself. I think the problem comes that most don't realize it's not a threesome all the time, you have to learn to live, work, play, and exist with another person and all of their quirks along with the ones you already have. I am in a little different situation in that I am married to my M, so I might have more ability to stand up and say NO when it comes up. I think though that no matter the dynamic, if either person is always going to feel that pressure there, it's going to eventually hurt what exists. I don't know anything about your contract or your relationship, I guess if you are Master/slave only, then it might be a bit different, but in the end we all know you are actually free and clear to move on if things are happening you don't want to be a part of, contract or not. Best wishes

leadership527 -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 6:07:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveGirlNihel how do you handle your Master wanting a new slave along with you when it was never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed? Personally, I couldn't care less about contracts and the entire concept of a "slave contract" seems counter-intuitive to me. No worries though because I still think the answer is obvious. If you put this in the contract, he had to have known that you already thought this would be unbearable to you. The only thing I can read into this situation is that he wants the other girl more than he wants you. If I were you, I would take that information and then act accordingly.

windchymes -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 6:33:06 PM)
Shoot him. Okay, that's drastic, but I wanted my 5000th post to go out with a bang.

breatheasone -> RE: i have a question.. (6/11/2009 7:28:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveGirlNihel how do you handle your Master wanting a new slave along with you when it was never agreed upon when the contract was 1st signed? How would i handle that?...... Walking out the door comes to mind.

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