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Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 10:27:04 AM

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I just saw a profile from a Male Dom in another geographic location. He had viewed me so I viewed Him. His profile clearly said there could be no R/t in his life right now - didn't say why - and thet He was looking for 'cyber only', including 'cam, and cyber tasks given', ect, ect.

Without going into my overall opinion of cyber affiars, I was fascinated by two added words - Blackmail okay.

Now, I have blackmail fantasies, and I can certainly imagine arranging to play with them. But how could I do that safely with someone I've never met? How would someone keep it from turning into real blackmail?

No matter who you did it with, that is bound to be a risk - I think in a commited relationship one of the thrills of doing it would be the declaration of trust involved. But with someone I've never met? sounds like someone would be setting themselves up for a potentail HUGE crash and burn of their whole life.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 10:32:03 AM

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I think in a commited relationship one of the thrills of doing it would be the declaration of trust involved.

In my opinion, in a committed relationship it's not possible. What, exactly secret would I tell Carol that she doesn't already know? And how, exactly, would she "blackmail" me when I know all her dirty little secrets too? Were it possible though, I think in a committed relationship would be the place.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 10:51:22 AM

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But how could I do that safely with someone I've never met? How would someone keep it from turning into real blackmail?

I have no idea how that would even work. But some like to walk the edge - did you ask him how?

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 1:25:36 PM

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antipode - no. His profile made it clear he didn't want 'time wasted' by people who were not what he was looking for. Master allows His sluts to corrospond with whomever we want, but no cyber, so I would clearly be a 'time waster'. So I brought it here - it is only idle chatter, anyway. And, to be honest, idle chatter is all I use the boards for. I would never come to this board for advice on real, heavy problems, like so many who want to know rather to stay or go in a relationship, ect. I am not going to ask a random population rather to stay in my relationship. From random chatter on assorted topics, though, I actually can and do learn things all the time - but in a way that is not 'unsafe' to my emotional stability. When I have something heavy on my mind that is personal to me or my life, I take it to safe places than an open internet board.

leadership - I have had fantasies about having a file box full of disclosing picutres, along with envolopes I made out to family, friends, church contacts, ect - having to go through them and pick pictures to go in each envolope from time to time. But even in my fantasies, this is a play practice with a trusted partner, someone who would nevre carry through with it, just a mind fuck. I can't wrap my head around even fantasizing about it really happening.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 1:56:58 PM

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Committed relationship or not, some fantasies should stay in the mind, IMHO.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 2:33:11 PM

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oh, yea, CatdeMedici - that sentence you just uttered describes a LOT of my fantasies. Have I mentioned the burning at the stake fantasies, lately?
I think someone fantasizing about how great it would be to be blackmailed is probably better off leaving it as j.o. material.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 2:42:33 PM

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I agree totally with CatdeMedici.
No matter how 'safe' one feels in a relationship allowing another person to have that kind of power over you is just stupid.
Don't people have enough power over others already in society?
I'm still suffering from the after affects of getting the sack because I was open about my BDSM lifestyle at work.
These were I thought professional people I was talking to.
Social Services are supposed to be anti-discrimatory.
If they couldn't handle a social worker being involved in BDSM why should anyone else be able to?
I learned the hard way not to allow anyone anymore power than was absolutely essential for everyday living.
Mind fucks are stupid because they do in the end fuck up the mind.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 2:44:56 PM

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what you described about the mindfuck is the point of blackmail play...the unfortunate thing is you have to do that with someone trusted.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 8:27:46 PM

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I don't know how a blackmail fantasy would play out in real life. I suppose that is why the word fantasy is included? The only way I could see doing it with someone cyber would be if I used a fake name from the start, (like velvetvixen, maybe) with a fake location and fake blackmail material. I would also assume that the person on the other end was making stuff up as fast as I was feeding it to him. So yes it would still be a fantasy and somewhat safe and played out? That is more complicated than I want to get involved with. Just smack my ass and send me to bed.

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 8:31:04 PM

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I have seen and met more than a few people who were blackmailed and the threats of exposure were followed through. Employers, family, friends, get the low down ... I don't know. Having seen it happen it doesnt seem that hot to me.
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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 8:34:46 PM

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To dare is to dream....sometimes dreams suck..sometimes..hhmm..grins

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RE: Blackmail Okay - 6/12/2009 11:35:41 PM

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It only works in real life roleplay between two people that have trust in each other. Dont ever try that stuff in cyber with some stranger you never know who might be watching or recording it. Be careful in all things on-line of course.

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