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To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/13/2009 3:55:28 PM

MistressLavinia

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As far back as you can remember is there one specific incident that you identified with that totally let you know this was a submissive feeling and it felt right.
I believe we are destined to our paths in life whether genetically, emotionally or a physical reaction. Mine was all three. Id love to hear the stories behind how you knew you were a submissive and what gave you insight to it.

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/13/2009 4:40:29 PM

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It wasn't until last year that I fully came to realize that I was a submissive. But as I thought on it I always have been. I remember as a kid sitting on the floor next to my mom when she had friends over and just leaning against her legs quietly listening to them all gossip, I was never one to be running around, I much prefered just sitting there quietly listening. I still enjoy sitting on the floor, to me its comfortable.

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/13/2009 4:58:49 PM

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And by opposing, find a new dominant

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/19/2009 12:34:04 AM

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I also only got into the lifestyle last year. I am now living as a sub 24/7, but in fact not much is different for me from when I was in vanilla relationships. Apparently I've always pretty much behaved as a sub and just never realized that was what people meant by it.

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/19/2009 1:43:53 AM

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I have always been submissive to men...up for anything they wanted to do to me or with me, never realy instigating anything but open for anything.
I do not seduce but rather be seduced, i easily share and never fight to be first in the que.
I always had subbie/slave type of fantasies too...
...but i never actually spend much time thinking about any of these things in order to put myself in a box...things just were as they were.

Then when my marriage was going through a particularly bad patch and my Husband did not seem interested in me anymore i started playing on-line...mainstream chat programs...one-of cyber sex sessions...i easily follow a lead and have plenty fantasy...i was quite happily entertained...and masturbating with someone i like so much better than doing it on my own.

Then on one such sessions it happened...first we chit chatted a bit, it did not really feel anything different but general chat, vaguely where do you live? are you married? what do you look like? are you enjoying your partner and so on... He told me equally things about Himself and He was incontrol of the conversation... I wondered where things were going, then all of a sudden He seemed to change His tone, He told me some things about me He had derived at by the way in which i had answered His previous questions and He was spot on...Then He stated that He wanted to instruct me...something shifted in me and i felt a sort of bearing down feeling and the urge to bow my head.
Over the next hour He had me do depraved things and report back to Him, short clear commands and a very easy way for me to give Him the answers back...i was totally obeying and seemed to have no choice... He played me so good...
He had me hurt myself with a plastic ruler and report back pain on a scale from 1 to 10...it was delicious...the rest of the afternoon my breasts felt hot and tingly... I had understood something about myself very clearly that i had somehow missed before...i cried with relieve.
The whole experience was mind blowing for me...for weeks afterwards i dwelled on it...i could never find Him again so i started looking for other men like Him on-line...

Eventually i was clued up enough about myself and my own needs to draw my Husband in...i had help from an on-line persona with that too...it is so much easier for me to follow orders...

When i eventually asked my Husband to be my Master i cried too...and He responded: "But I have always been your Master, don't you know?"........i did really, i just like the show

Everything is so much easier now i understand who i am and what i need

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/19/2009 6:20:16 AM

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I used to watch Snidely Whiplash tie Nell to the railroad tracks. That sparked my interest in rope.

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RE: To Sub or not To Sub that is the question - 6/19/2009 7:37:25 AM

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I was born this way. Even as a child i like to do for others then myself. Even with my vanillia b/fs i did things for them (non sexualy) that would make their life eaiser. When i was about 30 i met my mentor first on line then r/l when he moved to my area. I never knew what this feeling was he could telll just from talking to me i was a sub. At first i resisted then as we talked and i began to do research on my own i realized he was right. If was a relief to know i was normal and not a bit warped. It is just what i was born to be. Now i belong to the most wonderful man in the entrie universe.

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