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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 11:01:10 AM

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The real challenge is that in some cases the male submissive fantasy and ideal is that he doesn't have to woo the femdom; part of the allure of the "dominant woman" is that she is the one being the aggressor, making the moves, initiating the contact. Or, in a best case scenario, competely seducing him and giving him no choice.

It puts the submissive into an awkward position -- he wonders how is a submissive man to "court" a dominant woman? Doesn't he just state that he is available, willing and able -- and then she will have her way with him?

I've seduced and had my way with a lot of men. I think that's a huge rush; finding a guy, deciding I want him and then pursuing him, seducing him, romancing him, coercing him and eventually dominating him. However, I only do this when I find a man that I'm *really* attracted to, and in most cases he's not portraying any submissive qualities, nor is he just kind of putting himself out there with a sign that says "Free to good home."

The only way that works is if a guy is drop dead gorgeous and when he walks into a room he takes every woman's breath away.

If you are not that guy, then you have to actually be the one pursuing.

The opposite question is this:

How does a femdom woo a submissive man?

Answer: Just say hi to him.

And sadly, this is NOT a good thing. Sub men are *way* too "easy."

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 11:03:37 AM

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And sadly, this is NOT a good thing. Sub men are *way* too "easy."

unless they are brats, Ma'am...like me...

"i may be cheap, but i'm not easy."

LOL

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 12:43:06 PM

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Brats are fun. My boy is a brat and that's what attracted me to him, His sense of humour. He could be serious in all the right places but every once in a while when you least expected it a little Brat would sneak in and I would giggle for hours over a single line in an email. I thought it was flash in the pan but even after several months he's still doing it. I never know what I am going to wake up to and it brightens every morning and makes my wait shorter. He joins me in body on Mar 31, his sprit is already here.

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 12:53:05 PM

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that's cool, Ma'am...i wish You luck and long happiness.

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 5:03:17 PM

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LOL Michael you like living dangerously I can tell!!

I hate to sound just like everyone else .. but the submissives that have caught my attention have been gentlemen first and foremost .. and have wanted to share all aspects of my life with me... NOT JUST the dungeon,.

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 6:10:59 PM

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dungeons would be so much more fun with ballons, streamers and a disco ball hanging in the center...just to liven things up

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 8:24:43 PM

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i may be cheap, but i'm not easy."

You know someone has to ask this... just how cheap are ya, Michael? ;)

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/17/2006 8:26:43 PM

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that is something for "The Discovery Channel"

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/18/2006 3:19:24 PM

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gretings goddess athena
i am happy to read your reminder on how a slave must be ,also a romantic ;a pleaser and, a companion.
sometimes we take each others' rep., for granted, when its granted with love in the bedroom,
not as a rule,with a list of particulars on what this slave wants,so
thanks, for your posting ,goddess,
i hope i never ,forget,not even, for a second...

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/18/2006 10:07:50 PM

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Great thread, Ms. Sandi. We can only hope that submissives profit from real life examples that have worked.

One of the keys for my submissive to woo me was PATIENCE. He initally thought that because of job commitments, he couldn't offer what I needed or deserved, but he still wanted just to be able to talk sometime. He seemed nice, so I said sure, but definitely did *not* put him on the front burner.

For the first month after that, he would send non-pushy little chit-chat notes throughout the week, telling me what was going on in his life, showing me who he was. Since I continued to like who he was, near the end of the month I told him he could buy me a cup of coffee and I set up a date. But then for the next month as it happened, I had to cancel every single date *I* set up. This was even more frustrating because he was very local, but I still couldn't find the time for him. Not once did he whine, bitch, moan, complain, call me a fake, or any of the myriad of unattractive behaviors of frustrated "submissives."

Finally, things worked out, and I met him for that first cup of coffee. And as they say, the rest is history...???...No, of course not! That was just a cup of coffee. But I liked him enough to agree to lunch, and then, later, to his preparing me dinner (after sending him out to munches for him to make an informed decision about offering himself to me.) And we found we liked each other enough to work out the logistics that at first look seemed impossible, with next month being a year since we've been together.

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RE: How to woo a Domme - 2/18/2006 10:15:16 PM

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Thank you everyone for posting. :)

I hope the male submissives reading this thread will take it to heart. You are more than a list of your submissive desires and limits. She is more than a sum of her toys and talents.

If you want to really reach her, talk to her not her boots.

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