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Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 1:46:57 PM

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Any thoughts?

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 1:52:14 PM

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I've been thinking of switching by the way..why I asked..

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 1:53:59 PM

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But what did you ask? Domme vs switch....why? In what sense? For what reason?

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 1:56:21 PM

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I think dommes who switch are effing hottttt.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 1:57:44 PM

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If you want to bottom, go ahead. It is amazingly fun... I do advise you to bottom to someone who isn't deluded into thinking that you are "submitting".

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 3:10:08 PM

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If you want to bottom, go ahead. It is amazingly fun... I do advise you to bottom to someone who isn't deluded into thinking that you are "submitting".

I agree 100% with this, bottoming can be fun but I am totally Dominant, he does what I tell him, when I tell him. No submission to be found here, but then again my sub knows that

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 4:44:22 PM

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I'm going to assume that you really want to bottom. I know od two ways to do that.

One is to specify just what you want: "I want to be flogged, then have nipple clamps added, then to cum..." If that's your style, then you want a service Top, someone who will Top you in your own manner. The other is to just hand over control and rely on your safeword and nothing else.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 5:08:50 PM

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When I bottomed, I made my NO list really clear. I also made sure that my top understood that when I say "put nipple clamps on me and I will smash your big toe with a ball peen hammer," there would be actual follow-through---ie my boundaries are NOT to be pushed. Otherwise, shoot, let 'em have fun! No one enjoys a script, eh?

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 5:38:34 PM

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No pushing of boundaries, Lady Hib? Bit cowardly, isn't it, hmm? Wouldn't you be missing out on fun being so strict on limits? (Not about nipple clamps in particular - but in general, I mean.)

I like the colour-coding strategy. Green = great, more, yellow = you're approaching my limits, steady on, red = stop, right now, black = stop, you're a fjoeken lunatic, let me go, and I don't want to see you again.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 5:53:28 PM

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But I am not a submissive, Peon! I have a really short NO list, too... so believe me, there is lots of room for entertainment.

Or at least there was, back in the day!

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 6:08:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessAmanda

Any thoughts?

Sure...

Be a Domme to a deserving beta-male, and be a sub to a deserving alpha-male. Then enjoy the best of both worlds, as you learn if either role is better suited for your inherent nature.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 6:40:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessAmanda

Any thoughts?

Yes.

Some do.

Some don't.

(I'm available for similar depth any time).

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/15/2009 10:22:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessAmanda

I've been thinking of switching by the way..why I asked..

It would help if you defined in what way you want to switch. Are you talking "play only" or do you want to give up control of other parts of your life too? If the latter, are you looking for an ebb & flow of the balance of power in your relationships?

Switching can be defined in many ways. As others have said, bottoming may be more of what you had in mind. If the latter, then I'd say "go for it". Nothing wrong with enjoying sensation play. You can always decide to direct the play, or "give up control" temporarily and allow your partner to use their creativity for the scene.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 3:31:57 AM

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Not sure of the intent of your question OP, but in my relationship with my Dom partner I find myself frequently switching roles. He's the most Alpha Male I've ever met, and the first man I ever felt even a twinge of submission to. I've gotten some grumblings from some who insist this doesn't make me a "true" Domme...but at the end of the day it makes ME happy, so I say go with whatever feels right to you.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 5:58:32 AM

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<She becomes arrogant for a second>-I am a DOMINA, not a DOMMY MOMMY- sorry, that Domme thing chaps Me--

I am a Dominant, it isn't a role I play, it isn't dress up for Me, it is what My life needs to be--switching? not an option, it isn't play for Me, it's what must be to co-exist in My life.

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 10:08:10 AM

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In reference to this line of questioning, I agree with Cat on this. To truly be Dominant is to true to Yourself. I am a very Dominant female in every aspect of my life, be it with my slaves/submissives or with my "family" (children included).

It keeps order in the midst of chaos. I've had men try to "play Dominant" with me and they got the shock of their lives when they're the ones kneeling in front of me begging for mercy.

So, I don't "Switch" for nothing. Not even the "Right Man".

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 1:50:34 PM

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If you're a switch then you're a switch, why does one have to be more desirable than the other? I switch..... and im very happy in both roles.... submissive and Domme, both have positive and negative aspects to them.... i think what is important is how you feel and if you will be comfortable and competant in both roles.....

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 2:14:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: TEMPERANCE

If you're a switch then you're a switch, why does one have to be more desirable than the other? I switch..... and im very happy in both roles.... submissive and Domme, both have positive and negative aspects to them.... i think what is important is how you feel and if you will be comfortable and competant in both roles.....

Exactly. Whatever floats your boat....

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 6:20:42 PM

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If that is what you are called to do, go for it. Likely you'll have different energy with different people...and they'll push different buttons in you. Sometimes it's an evolution of your personal growth....drawn to one side of the kneel for a few years, figure yourself out a bit, and then then gravitate more toward one or the other.

The beauty of life is that you create your own reality. Find a good, compatible partner or two and experience life!

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RE: Domme vs. Switch? - 6/16/2009 7:38:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

<She becomes arrogant for a second>-I am a DOMINA, not a DOMMY MOMMY- sorry, that Domme thing chaps Me--

Dom and Domme are pronounced the same, FYI. Like fem and femme. One syllable.

Edited to address the OP:

Explore, and have FUN!

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