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When did you know? - 2/12/2006 5:57:55 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		When did you know that your domly or submissive partner was the one?

The second time we "played" together was with something she was interested in and I hadn't done in a rather long time. We were making her sleeves out of some plastic wrap and lets just say the wrap flogged me. I got the wrap stuck to the roll, split down the middle and was feeling embarased, frustrated and thinking if I was on the other side I would not be letting me restrain me. She giggled and that caused me to start laughing, we looked at each, I tossed the wrap, picked up a piece of rope, and thought damn we were made for one another.

Kyle
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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:15:50 AM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:18:00 AM   
michaelGA


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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:49:35 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		I had a inkling that she was the one before we actually met... but this was confirmed during our first meeting. I didn't reveal it to her until a few meetings later.

We had 6 months of getting to know each other before our first face to face meeting. We talked nearly everyday (phone & web). It wasn't even about a possible relationship either... it was pure friendship. She shared a magazine article that was written about her... called One Woman's Journey... a piece written about her transition. So many of her quotes could have been my own words when talking about the trials & tribulation of growing up with my own 'differences' regarding my being a dominant, a person naturally drawn to D/s. I sensed the same confusions she did in many ways... we both knew their was something that made us different than others.

Anyway...

About 2 months into our dating relationship I could no longer deny what I felt in my heart or deny what I saw in her eyes. We have now been together over 2 yrs & it still feels like a first date in many ways.

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:50:31 AM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

When did you know that your domly or submissive partner was the one?

Kyle


It started when we were chatting and talking, he never missed a day of communication, he was always open and honest with our conversations--but that never replaces actual meetings--but I began to feel him becoming such a part of Me--then when we spent this past weekend together--I knew---because I responded to his submissiveness--I felt all that I was, it was comfortable and natural, whether we were in "play" or in what appeared to be a vanilla mode--the thread of the dynamic always existed--I could at any moment bring him to his knees with a look, a word, a touch--and I LOVED it, I felt alive, whole for the first time--I knew he had been with more experienced Dommes in the past, but none that could take him where he longed to be but Me---

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 8:27:45 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Well we were terrible from the start. We threw every rule and shred of common sense out the window. We passed our first emails on a Sunday and by Tuesday evening she had invited me over (which she can still not believe she did), I had to decline because I had something else going on. Thursday I asked if the offer still stood and she responded by giving me directions. (helps when everybody is only 15 minutes apart) The first time we were in the same room we both knew something was different. It was obvious there was something special going on. From that first meeting we have been able to just look and one another and have entire conversations with out anything but eye contact, we have been perfectly able to read one anothers minds and it has spooked people who are around us more than once. We have been together ever since.

K

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 8:30:27 AM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

When did you know that your domly or submissive partner was the one?

The second time we "played" together was with something she was interested in and I hadn't done in a rather long time. We were making her sleeves out of some plastic wrap and lets just say the wrap flogged me. I got the wrap stuck to the roll, split down the middle and was feeling embarased, frustrated and thinking if I was on the other side I would not be letting me restrain me. She giggled and that caused me to start laughing, we looked at each, I tossed the wrap, picked up a piece of rope, and thought damn we were made for one another.

Kyle


By the way i felt when he spoke to me. i had never been dealt with with such clarity, sincerity, and honesty. i felt his power in our first conversation - which was an online argument over something i said. Something about the way he came across just moved me. He was very "no bullshit" and his views, though widely disagreed on by many, touched something inside me. We spoke daily (phone, email, IM) and often, and did not meet in person for 2 months.

He was the first to use me as he did. And as much as he pushed me on our very first night together, i never felt scared, never flinched. never felt embarrased about what i had to do. i felt this drive inside me to give him all that i could give him. It was the most amazing feeling for me. He continues to amaze me....

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 8:36:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Well we were terrible from the start. We threw every rule and shred of common sense out the window. We passed our first emails on a Sunday and by Tuesday evening she had invited me over (which she can still not believe she did), I had to decline because I had something else going on. Thursday I asked if the offer still stood and she responded by giving me directions. (helps when everybody is only 15 minutes apart) The first time we were in the same room we both knew something was different. It was obvious there was something special going on. From that first meeting we have been able to just look and one another and have entire conversations with out anything but eye contact, we have been perfectly able to read one anothers minds and it has spooked people who are around us more than once. We have been together ever since.

K



how marvelous! at times rules are made to be broken! The boy is 3000 miles away so a trot over is a tad harder---but you can bet he won't be that far away for very long--smiles, I can feel the pure joy and happiness in your tone--is it indeed awesome when the BAM factor sets in and you just know---smiles

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 8:50:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I've "known" many times, and each time I was wrong.

ha!

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 9:02:35 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Thank you MH, it is nice to see other happy couples.

She tells me a few nights ago that when we first started chatting and she looked at my profile she noticed a few things, one of them my mentionng having a sadistic streak, which she didn't take seriously, she thought it was just a little window dressing based on her experiences talking with others. She says then after we talked a bit more and met the first time, she realiazed that no everything I said and represented myself as was real and she got a little scared (this from the girl with the profile where she was not looking for a pain centered relationship). I asked her why didn't she back out or slow things, she looked at me with her little grin and said, "oh it was too late, I was already gone".

Funny how things change when the match is right, the little girl who once liked a little pain now ask to be beaten

K

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 9:47:55 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

When did you know that your domly or submissive partner was the one?

Well being poly there's a lot of "ones" in my life.

Generally it's just been a sense of being with that person and having the realization come over me, usually during a very muncane outing.

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 10:51:13 AM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Thank you MH, it is nice to see other happy couples.

She tells me a few nights ago that when we first started chatting and she looked at my profile she noticed a few things, one of them my mentionng having a sadistic streak, which she didn't take seriously, she thought it was just a little window dressing based on her experiences talking with others. She says then after we talked a bit more and met the first time, she realiazed that no everything I said and represented myself as was real and she got a little scared (this from the girl with the profile where she was not looking for a pain centered relationship). I asked her why didn't she back out or slow things, she looked at me with her little grin and said, "oh it was too late, I was already gone".

Funny how things change when the match is right, the little girl who once liked a little pain now ask to be beaten

K



PlayfulOne.... MHOO.... (dries happy tears)... You 4 remind me of Master and myself.... Master approached me as a vanilla.... our relationship did start off good. It got to the point I felt I should share with him something about myself (my submissivness) only because I felt something about him... a pull... strong hold over me. When I approached him.. told him I had something to expose to him... he smiled... said to me.. "What? That you are submissive?" I about died!...... then it came to light that he knew it was time to tell me of his Dom side. He said he knew who I was in the way I talked with him, handled myself around others. He watched me... he knew. I asked him one day why he didn't tell me before hand.. his answer was simple... he thought I was trying to move from this life to a non BDSM life. And he wanted to mak sure what way he himself should go. Because he knew he wanted to be with me... in any way he could... if that too ment giving up his life as a Dom. He was willing. But we discussed this.. and both found... together.. we could have both. Things have been great sense......... yeah I know sounds all mushy and all.... but I love him.. and I know he loves me too....

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 11:07:09 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		True, lol, we are all just a happy, mushy, in love bunch it seems. Isn't it wonderful?

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 2:18:54 PM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

True, lol, we are all just a happy, mushy, in love bunch it seems. Isn't it wonderful?



You know it is... and I wouldn't change anything about it either.. other than perhaps meeting alot sooner... but then it was not ment to be i guess.. so now I have the best years of my life to look forward to again... so lovely a feeling...

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 5:43:42 PM   
Evanesce


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When did you know that your domly or submissive partner was the one?


When we went to a Ren Faire about four months after we met, and He spent over an hour picking out dresses and corsets and having me try them on... getting more turned on with each outfit I modeled for Him. That was beyond endearing to me. And then, when He shelled out $300 for one of those dresses, I knew He was keeping me.

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:00:40 PM   
michaelGA


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Status: offline 		ok, so my jokes aren't funny enough for a reply...i can take a hint...LOL...i won't quite my day job

wait, i don't really have a day job...i'm just on hold...as usual...LOL

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 6:44:28 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		i had a feeling the first night we "played" together, and knew for a fact after the plastic wrap incident. :) It was priceless....and from the moment you smiled at me and got the rope..i knew.


---PlayfulOne's little one

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 7:28:51 PM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: Merritt27

i had a feeling the first night we "played" together, and knew for a fact after the plastic wrap incident. :) It was priceless....and from the moment you smiled at me and got the rope..i knew.


---PlayfulOne's little one


Nice to finally "meet you" Merrit..... we've been hearing alot about you this weekend from PlayfulOne....

< Message edited by truesub4u -- 2/12/2006 7:29:29 PM >

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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 7:50:34 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		Thank you truesub, it is very nice to meet you as well. i am a very lucky girl...to have finally found what we are all searching for....unconditional love. It and He are truly amazing. i am happy to hear that there are other couples out there as happy as W/we are!


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RE: When did you know? - 2/12/2006 7:50:49 PM   
DragonNphoenix


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Status: offline 		I knew that my Dragon was my one before we started this lifestyle together. We were already in a relationship at the time and I already knew that I loved him and that I wanted to spend my life with him.

Now.... The one that we have found... she might be our other one.... We will let you know.


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