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PeonForHer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:18:20 PM)
FR Why is 'loyalty' defined so narrowly here, in terms of abstaining from sex/games with somebody other than one's main partner? 'Loyalty to a partner' means you fight as a team together, look after each other, cherish each other, in short. Pretending to love someone exclusively while going off with another is only one kind of betrayal. There are others - and, to me, they can be as bad, or worse.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:18:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit Cause we wear the caps... and tell you lower caser's what to do! [8\|] Any dominant who cheats on me is going to get her arse roasted. Oh, oopsy-daisy, I forgot my subby self there! [;)] I love it when you act all tough! [sm=mistress.gif]

PeonForHer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:20:47 PM)
What do you mean "act" tough? If it wasn't for me, your country wouldn't exist.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:21:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: sonnyb40 How much loyalty is expected out of a sub? Is it rude to see multiple Dommes? That's actually an excellent question. Come on ladies....give it up....how come it's always ok for a woman to have multiple suitors....but if a man does it....he's thrown to the curb? Hmmmmmm? Its what We do with them that makes the difference, do we need to go back to the long red fingernail being dragged across your naked torso again? I think we should discuss that again. At my house. In an hour.

Lockit -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:21:19 PM)
ROFL! Forgetful Peon... [8\|]

PeonForHer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:23:31 PM)
Well, I mean, a partner being disloyal is going to be awful. It wouldn't make any difference to me if she were a dominant partner. I'd still go bloody apeshit. Thing is, it's never happened to me before - which is maybe why I live in dread of it.

DavanKael -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:31:09 PM)
How much loyalty is expected out of a sub? **If relating with me, lots. Is it rude to see multiple Dommes? **If relating with me, yes. Rude, wholly unacceptable, etc. Davan

Lockit -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:32:28 PM)
It is a very painful thing, but you get through it. You can't live afraid of it whether it has happened or not. (And apeshit is a good way to discribe what one feels. lol)

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:34:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sonnyb40 How much loyalty is expected out of a sub? Is it rude to see multiple Dommes? Are you seeing them..dating..playing...sessioning..looking for a potential match? ARE you with one now( and in what capacity)..as in commitment..already.? WHAT was said..? about your relationship? What has been said if you are seeing several? DO they all know? IF so fine and dandy.. If not.... it is a precarious situation but not unheard of.. I encounter probably 8 out of 10 subs lying about such things and I imagine some Dommes are too MOST IMPORTANT... You will lose more if you sneak about rather than just be open.. "Hay I am seeing several Dommes right now ..in this capacity.". YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO SEE SEVERAL PPL...just like any dating...search..journey.. IF you have not been bound to ONE I value truth telling..and always say this "The grass is not always greener on the other side of the hill..sometimes it is yellow and brown.[:'(] It is rude to not be up front...or communicate..that is most disappointing. I EXPECT loyalty to me if one is under consideration or collered... We talk of the boundries and limits of the relationship wheather open or not...etc ...as our dynamics are bound together and we build.

CdnExplorer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:35:37 PM)
Indeed. I was going to say...multiple??? I'd be thrilled to be seeing just one! I wonder if he's the sharing type... [:D]

Saint -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:38:32 PM)
Peon, this is assuming that they have reached the partner stage. If they have reached that stage then yes, disloyalty is wrong and I disagree with it severally. But if it not at that stage then I see no reason not to be open and honest about seeing other people. If the person the OP is seeing casually has an issue with him seeing other people and views that as disloyal, then perhaps the issue is not with the OP but with the woman he is seeing instead?

PeonForHer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:43:54 PM)
You'd love to meet my mother, Lockit. She's a diamond. I've expressed the same fear to her before and she's always just brushed it away. Last time I mentioned it, she said "Oh, I've no doubt that happens to other men, but it won't happen to you. Not unless you pick up with a very stupid little strumpet. She'll know what she's got and she won't want to lose it." So there you are. A woman who's disloyal to me will have to deal with my mother. That would be a mistake, IMO.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:46:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer You'd love to meet my mother, Lockit. She's a diamond. I've expressed the same fear to her before and she's always just brushed it away. Last time I mentioned it, she said "Oh, I've no doubt that happens to other men, but it won't happen to you. Not unless you pick up with a very stupid little strumpet. She'll know what she's got and she won't want to lose it." So there you are. A woman who's disloyal to me will have to deal with my mother. That would be a mistake, IMO. [sm=couch.gif]

PeonForHer -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:48:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Saint Peon, this is assuming that they have reached the partner stage. If they have reached that stage then yes, disloyalty is wrong and I disagree with it severally. But if it not at that stage then I see no reason not to be open and honest about seeing other people. If the person the OP is seeing casually has an issue with him seeing other people and views that as disloyal, then perhaps the issue is not with the OP but with the woman he is seeing instead? I agree, Saint. No argument there.

Lockit -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:51:24 PM)
LOL, Peon from what I have heard about your mother... I would like her very much! I am pretty sure my um's have said something similar to 'friends'. lol I do wonder why LadyHib is hiding there... hummmm hehe The mother only goes off if you diss the son... lol

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Loyalty (6/17/2009 7:58:53 PM)
It never hurts to be cautious, Lockit! [:D]

malloves69 -> RE: Loyalty (6/18/2009 5:17:01 AM)
mals very loyal to my mistress [:)] known her for almost 8 years now ...been faithfull to her for over 4 plus years now [:)] we do have sex together and play together quite well i must say ..i have always thought what it would do to my mental being if i cheated on her when it was time to see her once again it just wouldnt be the same ...and why bother risk losing that over a one time thing ?? love our times together [:)] if you find a good lady all you need is one to share your fantasys with [:)] mal

LadyPact -> RE: Loyalty (6/18/2009 1:10:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sonnyb40 How much loyalty is expected out of a sub? Is it rude to see multiple Dommes? I'm about to drive you crazy because in the style of former President Clinton, I'm going to take a simple word (i.e. see) and fashion My answer depending on the definition. (Hey, at least I'm not trying to defend My position on the definition of "is" so cut Me some slack.) How are you defining the word see? Are you talking about dating? Are you talking about S/m play? Are you talking about sex? Are you talking about serving in some other capacity? There are so many possibilities that it makes a hard and fast answer almost impossible to give. With more information, I can answer your question properly. Failing that, I concur with Otters. What have you discussed with those you are seeing?

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Loyalty (6/18/2009 4:56:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer You'd love to meet my mother, Lockit. She's a diamond. I've expressed the same fear to her before and she's always just brushed it away. Last time I mentioned it, she said "Oh, I've no doubt that happens to other men, but it won't happen to you. Not unless you pick up with a very stupid little strumpet. She'll know what she's got and she won't want to lose it." So there you are. A woman who's disloyal to me will have to deal with my mother. That would be a mistake, IMO. [sm=couch.gif] LH....not entirely clear on what the exact topic here is but..... Just wanted to say.... Just looked at your profile....and I really feel I have to say.... Them are some truly unbelievably spectacular titties there. (I felt compelled).

Venatrix -> RE: Loyalty (6/18/2009 5:25:23 PM)
So, how's that savoir faire working for you?

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