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SimplyMichael -> RE: Just Wondering (6/17/2009 8:46:10 AM)
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I tend to be with women other men lust for. Its good to be me!
That said, how I react has a lot to do with HOW someone pays the compliment and HOW my partner reacts to it.
If the compliment is paid to me, I love it, if it is paid to her with the intent to flatter her or us, I love it. Some however, pay the compliment in such a way that their intent to pry them away is clear and while I find it irritating, I rarely get jealous because my partners are with me for a reason.
Most of the women I have been with enjoy attention from men. How they react to it has varied greatly however. My first partner loved it but was NOT the best at making sure I felt included when someone complimented her. She would sometimes turn her back to me while receiving attention or somehow not include me in it. I was too inexperienced and my relationship and communications skills were not good enough to see why I reacted and to find ways together to make it work for me.
BSB loved attention but being the classy woman she is, I never felt anything but connected to her. She would turn and grab my hand and only then say "thank you" or somehow mention me "Michael loves this dress too" or some such thing. Funny thing is too, that because she handled all that so clearly but in such a low key way, I don't think she ever got hit on while we were at a party, not even by poly people.
So, whether someone allows their partner to be complimented without jealousy is a much more complicated thing than it seems at first glance. Like most things in a relationship, there are at least two people making things happen. Working together to deal with things like this is one of those issues that can bring a couple closer together.
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