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Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 8:49:28 PM

Prime28

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Hey there fellow members with the advice i have gotten from members of the community i have changed my name and approach. I am new to the lifestyle as i said once before and i am seeking advice and wisdom from other dom men to guide me to becoming a good master.

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 8:55:19 PM

Asherdelampyr

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I like it
much better
and I was right, which I always think of as a good thing

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 8:55:31 PM

SirMIkeSD

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This is now your 3rd post on the same thing, you could have just posted something to original question to let us know. Slow up and think before you leap, learn to excise control over yourself before you try and control someone else.

Mike

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 8:57:07 PM

DarkSteven

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Much improved.

But... if you want a slavegirl... what's she going to be like? Age range? Education? Etc.?

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 9:00:23 PM

Asherdelampyr

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Between 18 and DEAD
and he wont be pushed on that!

j/k

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/16/2009 9:45:36 PM

TreasureKY

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prime28

Hey there fellow members with the advice i have gotten from members of the community i have changed my name and approach. I am new to the lifestyle as i said once before and i am seeking advice and wisdom from other dom men to guide me to becoming a good master.

Kudos to you for not crumpling under the barrage of criticism you've received thus far. You've shown great self-control and grace under pressure.

Now... to answer your question...

I'm not a male dom, but I'd like to impart the first bit of advice... don't overlook the opportunity to receive advice from female submissives. A master can learn much from all perspectives.

I'll conclude with a few excerpts from posts made by my own dominant that might help you determine where you need to start...

"To me, the first, primary, and main part of being a "dominant" is self-knowledge and confidence in your own abilities, desires, and limits..."

http://www.collarchat.com/m_365788/mpage_1/tm.htm

"1. Know yourself.
2. Be true to yourself.
3. Look at yourself from other's point of view."

http://www.collarchat.com/m_373226/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#373226

"A special note: Because many of the submissives who have been operating as "strong women" in their lives seek submission, there is a conundrum for them to overcome as well. They have a need to submit, but at the same time they are hardheaded about the realities of life. It has been put to me this way: It's really difficult to grasp the concept of why someone who is more than capable of leading, would want to follow.

As a maledom, YOU must answer that unasked question."

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RE: Thanks New and improved - 6/17/2009 8:58:02 AM

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Treasure said:
I'm not a male dom, but I'd like to impart the first bit of advice... don't overlook the opportunity to receive advice from female submissives. A master can learn much from all perspectives

Heh, for me at least, I would say I've gotten way more usable input from the subs than the doms. That is, afterall, the "other side of the coin" from me and the part I am going to be least cognizant of. Also, I find that looking at me from the other side of that coin as they do, submissives have a sense of objectivity about it all that most other dominants do not. Sure, I get good advice from all sides, no question about it. But since (assuming I were searching), it's the female subs that I want, it kind of makes sense that those would be the opinions of most merit.

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