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New london member here - 2/13/2006 4:23:15 AM

londonmale5

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Hi,

Just wanted to say hi an introduce myself. It seems i'm one of the few on this side of the atlantic so it'd be great to hear from others. My picture doesn't have a profile because i don't like upload profile pics on the internet. Have no problem with sending pics though so just let me know if you want it.

It also says on there that i'm switch which is a guess more than a fact. I have very little experience with domination/submission and can't be sure. I know that i'm definately sub and have always been. I'm interested to try domination though but am far from certain i can do it.

I know i'm young, but here's what i'm thinking: I've had a couple of quite heavy relationships and have definately loved and been loved. what i've come to realise though is that i am - and have always been - very indecisive and terrible at taking control of my own life. I'm one of those people and isn't really great at anything, but not bad at anything either, and maybe this is the basis of my indecisiveness. Anyway - when it gets to the point in a relationship where i realise i love someone, it always makes me want to give up everything for that person. Let that person take responsibility of me and my life and everything i do. Protect me and guide me and help develop all good aspects of my personality and talent. This is such a strong feeling that if someone i love and admire does that for me i'll want to give them something back. That something is everything i have. My whole life and my possesions which doesn't mean anything to me anyway. I've always had a strong urge to please people i love. Not mindlessly suck up all the time. I have my own soul and mind and both of them are quite strong. I do not want to be a doormat for the rest of my life.

So... what i'm looking for is a dominant woman who's looking for more than a no strings relationship. I'd like to write/chat, meet up if things work and see how it goes. It is important to me to have love. If i don't love someone i cannot submit to them and it's important for me to find someone who loves me too and wants to do me good. If that involves being a doormat for a few hours to correct my behaviour or attitude or what have you, then i'll be happy to do that. I just need someone that wants the best for me and doesn't just want to take her aggresions out on me.

I stop and let you off the hook now. Thanks for reading. I know what i'm looking for is hard to find, but do message me whether it's you or not - it's always nice to talk to people - and i do not (ever) copy/paste messages or write standardised messages. I think quite a lot about these things and write from my thoughts - not my harddisk. Thanks for reading,

take care,

rick

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RE: New london member here - 2/13/2006 4:41:22 AM

RavenMuse

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Nice to see another Local on the boards. A lot of great folks, good info. plenty of sound advice and interesting opinions to be had.

You seem to have a good attitude and here's hoping it won't take you too long to find that someone special that you are looking for.

Welcome to the forums.

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RE: New london member here - 2/13/2006 5:06:31 AM

IrishMist

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Hello Rick, and welcome to the boards. RavenMuse said it best, so I will not repeat it. Have fun, and I hope to see you posting later in the future.

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RE: New london member here - 2/14/2006 12:30:54 AM

londonmale5

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Thanks for reading and thanks for the welcome. I'll have a look around the forums. Hope to talk to you later.

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RE: New london member here - 2/15/2006 12:45:45 AM

londonmale5

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Just to clarify. I have changed my profile to submissive from switch as it was causing some misunderstandings. I am submissive and am looking to become a sub to the right domme. If it is ok with her, and the chance comes along, i'd like to try to dominate once. I think it is important to get to know yourself and determine your place in the spectrum. I have no desire to be dominant, but think i should try once and want to. It's a way of confirming my submissive personality.

Just thought i should update this introduction too. Please don't hesitate to send any questions, comments or criticism.

rick

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RE: New london member here - 2/16/2006 1:42:30 PM

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You probably will never be a true DOM. Subbissives need DOMs to help with maintaining control in their life. You need to find a great DOM that is willing to take you and make you their property so you will have someone in control of your life. This sounds silly, but until I had my DOM, my life was out of control. My DOM helps keeps me focussed and is in control of everything. from my orgasms to my bank account. HE keeps me on top of everything.

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RE: New london member here - 2/16/2006 2:16:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: thewarriorwoman

Subbissives need DOMs to help with maintaining control in their life.

No, we don't. *You* might need that but it's a far cry from saying all submissives do.

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RE: New london member here - 2/16/2006 3:08:35 PM

JohnWarren

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thewarriorwoman

You probably will never be a true DOM. Subbissives need DOMs to help with maintaining control in their life. You need to find a great DOM that is willing to take you and make you their property so you will have someone in control of your life. This sounds silly, but until I had my DOM, my life was out of control. My DOM helps keeps me focussed and is in control of everything. from my orgasms to my bank account. HE keeps me on top of everything.

That may be true for you but it isn't for everyone. Libby and I are partners and her competence was one of the things that drew her to me. I wouldn't want a submissive who wasn't capable of handling her own life without me. I want a person who wants to be my submissive, not one who has to be.

I don't know who you were referring to about not being a "real dom" since the original poster declares himself to be a switch looking for a dominant woman, but I'd suggest that no one has the right to decide that another person can't be "real". You can only speak for what you want.

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