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RE: re: feedback from sweetpleaser re: hard limits - 8/24/2004 8:50:36 AM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		sweetpleaser,

Hi, no problem re: hard limits. He is what i wanted when i went looking for advice and it turned around. i need the hard limits Dom type, it is not for all and i understand that. Just as though i am not for on line Doms and it is for some.


i do not judge sweetpleaser we all have quesions and its up to the receiver if it is answered i try to. He is a kind person but i do know He knows me well enough to not ask anything of me He feels i am not capable of. I know this now, Since first posting my message.

I knew the word hard would set some off *giggles but that i s o.k.

*hugs*
jade

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 8/24/2004 8:55:32 AM >

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RE: re: smoki's here ya go dear. - 8/24/2004 9:00:03 AM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		i needed to learn patience. He did not say i could not i just forgot to ask. i did wrong sending too often at the beginning and since He seen me off line so much i did not think to ask.

i will when the time is right, right now is not the right time. re: hard limits please claify what you mean by hard limits we may not be speaking of same. Hard limits can be one of two things. i know what i seek and He has what this one desires no neeeds! . i am in no rush for the next task test but if He were to say i am i, i have no doubt He would Know more than this one.

let me explaiin i like a dom w/ hard limits that pushes my limits beyong the normal Dom style. I too like a Dom who is Gor and more.

NO, he is not married that i am 100% sure on giggles* sorry inside joke.

i want you all to know i understand your feedbacks and take all in but follow my own advice ... i have no doubt He is for me or His type of Dom. to me hard limits may not be the text your looking for.

Stori hope this helps clarify.

*hugs*
jade

ps i already took up too much of His time this week. Like always it seems to always be something extremely important to me to need to discuss but... He has a crisis on His Hands and i have to be patient. i wish i could say why i can't but it is not me to post His affairs.

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 8/24/2004 12:12:47 PM >

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RE: re: smoki's here ya go dear. - 8/24/2004 10:36:22 AM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		In the face of your responses,

this girl wishes you the best.






stormi is slave to a Gorean.... and has Leather flowing thru her veins.
Interesting combination.


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RE: re: smoki's i see so you know what this one needs. - 8/24/2004 11:52:44 AM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		storiknightbear. ahh so You know of what this one needs. (smile at stori)

i am not collared thus i can continue to look but do not wish to do so...and am in no rush to collar... as in years... this one knows better. Why do i not contiune to look.. it is something i can't explain i only feel.

"it is not in stone color of my eyes with lust i see Him, but in this heart of mine He dwells"

*hugs*
jade

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 8/24/2004 12:09:05 PM >

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RE: re: feedback from twisted - 8/24/2004 1:17:05 PM   
January


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jade4Wings
Hi,

Twisted

<snip>

In closing i do understand your concerns and thanks *smiles but the topic was not if He was real but i should be more careful when posting.


ty
jade


Hi! Please forgive me for thinking you were online only.

Your use of abbreviations (ty as opposed to thank you, g/f and so on), and your written cues as to your actions (*hugs*, smiles), made me think you could be an online D/s player. Your extreme respect toward the one dominant male who replied to your post made me think the same. And then there was your sweetness towards "sisters" whose behavior you have judged compassionate and supportive and truly submissive.

Sorry for not giving you the answers you want. I do promise not to bother you with warping your chosen topic again with my questions or opinions. Luckily you are finding the answers you want from others. That's what g/f are for!

January

P.S. My name is January. Only my friends are allowed to call me twisted! (*really big smile*)

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RE: re: feedback from sweetpleaser re: hard limits - 8/24/2004 1:32:15 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry Jade that i also misunderstood some of what you said earlier. I wish you the best and hope this relationship works out for you.

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RE: to proudsub and jan. - 8/24/2004 3:10:29 PM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		This one is on line a lot thus knows how to chat. i too chat in open format chat here on this site and other sites on the WWW thus know the lingo. But no i don't date on line Doms as a general rule.

i guess where i am at right now is i am under consideration? Is that the term when a Dom checks to see if Your right for He. i know i need Him, but will He see the qualities in me He needs.

i am one full of questions yet, i want to ask only He as only He knows the whys etc.. i am just tryng to still learn all this Gor and Dom/s texts and more. its hard work. But see gals i knew He would be not the normal Dom to seek, and to be honest i always did go for the type who was unique. He is that. *giggles

So remind me not to complain as i seeked Him out first ,but not as a Dom, as a person do date as in reg. life. I was shocked when i discovered He was a Dom and He is the first one to make me shy and bold and daring at the same time.

So He got in my heart and no, i did not want it at first. Now i need Him to need me but i know it is not that simple. Hope this helps to understand me when i talk of hard limits etc gals. Does it?


so Jan or twist which is it dear?

ty for the caring words... i do understand *smiles

"jade"

ps number 26 kicks out the vanilla lol

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 8/24/2004 4:31:10 PM >

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RE: question for sub/slaves/Doms re: love - 8/24/2004 4:37:31 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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if you wish to contact this girl, you may by using either
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stormiKnight_Bear



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RE: question for sub,stori, jan (aka twist) - 8/24/2004 4:54:30 PM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		Gals, gosh i got my supper done dished done and came back this is addictive lol
He may wish He never brought me here.. *giggles (yes, i giggle a lot).

i am [email protected]

i will get in touch soon.

"hugs g/f"

jade

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 8/24/2004 4:57:55 PM >

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RE: question for sub/slaves/Doms re: love - 8/24/2004 7:05:29 PM   
cheeba0228


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Status: offline 		I have a question for you. Does he want a comittment. if the answer is no then I suggest you do 1 of two things first leave well enough alone and figure out what you want first and see if it matches what he wants. Second in a word carefully.

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RE: re: love and Kind re: proudsub hope this is clearer - 8/25/2004 1:56:23 AM   
NascentMistress


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Status: offline 		Hi, I'm confused...I thought you said he is the hubby of a friend?

Good luck,
NascentMistress

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress - 8/27/2004 2:40:34 AM   
Jade4Wings


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Status: offline 		Sir and Madam,

This one thought she stated it clearly many times but to be sure i will clarify.

`1. The Sir i seek is a real person off line whom i have dated and been watched over by as i attended events.

2. i am not in a situation to offer myself to anyone 24/7

3. He is not married for sure.

4. He had in the past talked of a 24/7 and His needs if this was to occur.
Yes, in time He has stated I am one setep closer to collaring.


Hope this answers your questions.
jade

< Message edited by Jade4Wings -- 9/3/2004 1:05:23 AM >

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress update sadly i... - 9/13/2004 6:56:35 PM   
Devra


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Well, i am sad to say i may have to eat my words. i truly made an error as the Sir i though seeked me does not need me the way i thought. He said, He seeks me only but i don't understand His actions. He knows i can not explain thing correctly in letters and on instand messages Yet i have not seen Him in a month. Oh, i am hurt... and i fear the worst.

i need to talk to Him and He is not concerned of the issues i have nor does He show he cares by actions. i told Him the things about the old Master and His slave but seems He doe not believe me or does not care or has not even bothered to read my letters... i am heart broken, and do not know what will happen between us... i am a slave and i am His so i thought.

Now i feel confused and need to find out should i seek the submissive side not the slave. i am hurt and i feel so alone .. but i can't wait anymore for a Dom who does not need me. i am told if not collared i can seek, i feel owned but will seek on as i am sure He does not want to tell me fear of hurting me or maybe He is just another wantabee., but this one knows for sure He is not a wantabee, He is so real that is why it hurts so...

Now, this one has doubts and i should not but i do.. i needed Him and He would not see me, yet He finds time for other activities. i so wanted Him to say you are not collared but i am seeking You and that You passed my worthy test but sadly i failed, somehow why i am not sure.

He has been home and i have not been able to talk to Him regarding all the issues i posted. i surely am having doubts. i have a father dying and more in my life and He does not care. (read past posts), He had a crisis and i understood and did not bother Him untill He returned back to the state. He did say he promised not to be as busy but still He punished me and i don't know why. i did as He said and i got told i did wrong.

i am so confused.. and i asked for text to read while He was gone and none given and i need to be busy so my mind is not so rushed into thinking so i can stay focused on He and He returned i asked again and still no texts to read. i am so bewildered and lost.

i now must seek the submissive side of me as He has made it clear i can date and seek and i so wanted to hear that He needed me and He did not want me to seek, i was being considered to see if i am worthy... i must have failed badly. i do though love Him but love ....My love for He is strong but my trust is fading ... and without trust where can love go. Please over look my typoos. i pray this is understandable as i surely don't want to discuss it again.... please don't say i told You so... it is hard enough.

To those who warned me .. i sadly say you may be correct. i pray it's "may" but sadly inside i feel lost.

< Message edited by Devra -- 9/13/2004 7:26:33 PM >

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress sadly i may be... - 9/13/2004 7:02:14 PM   
stormiKnightBEAR


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Status: offline 		Devra,

stormi's heart goes out to you.
If you need a friend or shoulder this girl is here for you..

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress update sadly i... - 9/13/2004 8:54:17 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

the Sir i though seeked me does not need me the way i thought.


Hugs (((((((((Devra)))))))) so sorry it didn't work out.

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress update sadly i... - 9/14/2004 6:09:47 AM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		My heart goes out to you as well. I'm sure you are going through a lot of pain right now. I am a sub and if you want someone to talk to, email me. I think you need to work on yourself right now. Find out first what YOU want in a relationship, any relationship. If you want the 24/7 dynamic, then fine; stick to your guns girl!!! It is helpful to write in a journal your priorities. It gives you a guideline of what to look for in the next relationship. And btw, I'm sure you did nothing wrong (even though we as women always blame ourselves) to the Sir you were seeking, he had other wants that did not include you. Quit beating yourself up over it!!
Again, I hope you heal quickly and consider me as one of your friends.

Sincerely,
ann

PS: Why did you change your name? I like Devra but Jade4Wings was beautiful as well.

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress update sadly i... - 9/14/2004 6:27:59 AM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		*hugs* i am so sorry to hear this Devra ....

i was hoping things would work out for you. i am online a lot if you need someone to talk to. my yahoo ID is imjustfukinpeachy and you can IM me anytime to chat. It helps to talk about things, maybe help you see things clearer. Be strong and i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers...

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RE: re: feedback from twisted - 9/14/2004 1:56:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		from what i know it is fairly common to fall for your "top" be honest... say exactly what you feel and no regrets

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RE: re: love post to cheba and mistress sadly i may be... - 9/17/2004 10:40:47 PM   
Synocense


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quote:

You passed my worthy test but sadly i failed, somehow why i am not sure.


In your post, all of your pain and confusion came through. I am so sorry this happened to you. I would like to help, if even in the smallest of ways, and give you something more to think about. You seem to have it in your head that somewhere you failed. It is So common for the submissive person to 'blame' themself when something goes wrong like this. In some cases, it may well be true, but I am having a terrible time believing that is the case here, even though I have little detail concerning your relationship. We, as slaves, are expected to obey. We are expected to be subservient and pleasing. We are Suppose to be guided in this process, so if we are doing exactly what our owners want of us, how can we fail? I don't want to be misunderstood here...I am not relinquishing all responsibility of my actions. I am human, not a robot. When I screw up, I own it. From what I have read it seems to me that it was your needs that went unfulfilled and your soul that is starving. That is not your fault. It may be no ones fault....simply it is as it is. Not an easy pill to swallow I know.

Good luck to you.
Syn

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RE: re: love post to.. my errors i keep making them wh... - 9/23/2004 12:48:07 AM   
Devra


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Status: offline 		Thanks for your kind words...

i did wrong i did not understand Him... i do now and know of what i did wrong. it is not His fault it is this ones.

i was told i passed the test. i expected feedback afterwards or processing as we did discuss this was an issue i needed when He first seeked me.

i fail in the way i communicate and i write too much, instant message too much and now i know i must be patient and wait. He is punishing me with distance. i see that now.

He is not the typical Dom i knew that going in. this one has always seeked high goals. So i will wait till He contacts me as He deltes all my mail and that tells me STOP. So i will stop and seek others as i asked Him should i and He replied i have someone i want You to talk to yet... to date He has not sent me to anyone. That again must be an in my time not yours as i see it now.

For those who do not know i know, met him in person at muches, yet no one at the much new i seeked Him. (bye the way He even makes sure i found other subs to talk to as i am new to this life), and more. He is not an interenet Dom. But a Dom of 17+ years and with many references. He is kind, and has much going on in his vanilla life... even a past and recent crisis. He is fine in vanilla dating other etc but in D/s He has put me (so i feel) on the back burner till He can deal with me correctly.

instead of this one being upset i need to appreciate Him, but how do i date when He is in my mind... He said i should date but then He said that He wanted me to talk to someone.
i am trying hard to learn patience this is all new to me. i have dated some in person (i do not like internet meetings due to past expeiences and i know it is for some)

Hope this is understandable.

< Message edited by Devra -- 9/23/2004 1:41:15 PM >

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