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Mentality vs. Personality - 6/21/2009 3:51:58 PM

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Greetings to all that dwell within,

Is there a difference between a Dominant personality and a Dominant mentality? Why or why not?

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/21/2009 3:55:41 PM

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I see a dominant mentality as a -reflection- of a dominant (active) personality (as opposed to a submissive or passive personality). The personality is the core of the individual. The mentality is how one considers situations, within the framework of a perspective that is self-directed and obtains its fulfillment/satisfaction from self-management and management of those within one's sphere of influence. In the same way, a submissive/passive mentality would be one that views situations within the framework of a perspective that prefers another to direct, and obtains fulfillment/satisfaction from yielding the management of hir path to another that xhe deems capable and worthy to handle such.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/21/2009 9:02:21 PM

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There's a difference in the words 'mentality' and 'personality.'

Since each one has multiple definitions, the context in which either term is presented trumps even the most exhaustive list of possible definitions that might be generated on a forum.

I would say, however, that the two might be used interchangeably, so if the original poster is attempting to choose between two dominants-- one with a profile using the word 'personality' and one with the word 'mentality'-- it should probably not be an automatic factor in her choice.

So, I would pose her a couple questions:

Do you have a definition of the two words, looking to apply the idea of dominance to your understanding of them?

Is there a specific context you're looking to analyze?

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 8:31:19 AM

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I'm not sure how you are thinking of those terms.

Are you asking , Is there a difference between, essentially, nature and art?
That is, assuming that you are taking the personality to be the "natural" thing and mentality to be something learned later?

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 9:26:26 AM

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Here are my preferred definitions:

A personality is the culmination of expressed thoughts, motives, opinions, and actions. In short, what makes you a person, and not a rock or dove or wolf?

Mentality is a stigmatized word. It usually carries with it some measure of groupthink, a connotation that the phenomenon cannot be controlled - it controls you. In any case, it is the way of thinking/reasoning for a person or group.

I suppose, by these definitions, a dominant personality often leads to a dominant personality. Which makes sense. The way we think and receive input should influence, to some degree, our actions and and opinions.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 9:56:37 AM

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Is there a difference between a Dominant personality and a Dominant mentality

Yes. Just take off the word "dominant" and then look up "personality" and "mentality". You did not really think that the meaning of those two words changed every time you plaster a denominator in front of them? Or am I not understanding your question (because you did not explain it)?

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 12:19:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: subNsuit

Greetings to all that dwell within,

Is there a difference between a Dominant personality and a Dominant mentality? Why or why not?

Respectfully submitted,
donna

Like others here have said, you need to remove the word Dominant and then ask the question because its the mentality of a person that makes them either Dominant, submissive or anything else they feel comfortable/safe with. Personality on the other hand is the uniqueness of a person. Its not variable, its fixed .... Your mentality is what sways you, its what drives you and its the flexible part of you that you modify to suit the company your with or the situations your in.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 5:30:26 PM

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Greetings to all that have taken time to read and respond...

I do see where I was unclear in my initial questioning and will expound...

For the sake of discussion, the adjective of Dominant needs to remain with mentality and personality.

A Dominant personality in my interpretation is how a person behaves, their character, which would be "in conntrol", a leader, more of a Type-A personality.

A Dominant mentality in my perspective is the mindset of the Dominant. This is also the tool combined with the Dominat personality in which he will "Master" his submissive.

Since the original post, I have also thought about the Dominant's creativity, which would also be a tool in his "Mastery".

I am trying to understand this because I have encountered Men that have a very Dominant personality,yet, perhaps not a developed Dominant mentality that I am acustom to. So, can a Man truly Master a girl without the Dominant mentality, but just in the born traits of his Dominant personality?

A Dominant's creativity I believe is more of icing on the cake and not a necessary requirement in the Mastery.

Thank you for anyone that wishes to share in these thoughts.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/22/2009 8:26:32 PM

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quote:

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I am trying to understand this because I have encountered Men that have a very Dominant personality,yet, perhaps not a developed Dominant mentality that I am acustom to. So, can a Man truly Master a girl without the Dominant mentality, but just in the born traits of his Dominant personality?

Oh lord, I think I may be too stupid to be a dominant. I just want to boss my wife around. I've looked at several different definitions for "mentality" and "personality" and for the life of me, they sound like the same thing.

OK, more seriously. I've been a leader all my life but it was only in the last 1.5 years that it occurred to me that I could, should, or might want to exercise those skills with my wife. Just because someone is capable of leading doesn't mean they want to in any given situation. Nor does it mean they think they ought to. None of that had anything to do with my "mentality". It had to do with what I thought was reasonable, appropriate, and likely to work out well.

In fact, if you were to meet me on the street, odds are VERY good that you wouldn't think I had a "dominant mentality" as you would register it. I don't trot out those particular behaviors for random occasions. In fact, pretty much every serious leader I've ever seen is careful to keep his or her sharp pointy teeth tucked safely away until needed. Generally, they tend to frighten the pack for no good purpose.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/23/2009 1:23:07 AM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: subNsuit
I am trying to understand this because I have encountered Men that have a very Dominant personality,yet, perhaps not a developed Dominant mentality that I am acustom to. So, can a Man truly Master a girl without the Dominant mentality, but just in the born traits of his Dominant personality?

Oh lord, I think I may be too stupid to be a dominant. I just want to boss my wife around. I've looked at several different definitions for "mentality" and "personality" and for the life of me, they sound like the same thing.

OK, more seriously. I've been a leader all my life but it was only in the last 1.5 years that it occurred to me that I could, should, or might want to exercise those skills with my wife. Just because someone is capable of leading doesn't mean they want to in any given situation. Nor does it mean they think they ought to. None of that had anything to do with my "mentality". It had to do with what I thought was reasonable, appropriate, and likely to work out well.

In fact, if you were to meet me on the street, odds are VERY good that you wouldn't think I had a "dominant mentality" as you would register it. I don't trot out those particular behaviors for random occasions. In fact, pretty much every serious leader I've ever seen is careful to keep his or her sharp pointy teeth tucked safely away until needed. Generally, they tend to frighten the pack for no good purpose.

I think that's exactly it though... you can adopt a mentality to suit the situation you are in. Adopting the right mentality is what allows us to fit in accordingly.
Therefore a mentality can be misleading.
I think when we are first getting to know someone we show plenty of mentality whilst perhaps guarding our personality but as we get to know them properly we open up our personality and relax more on mentality.

As far as creativity, I think this is something you either have or you don't. Just as importantly is the word 'motivation' because lack of it will always hinder creativity and mentality and eventually throw you into a light of having a boring personality!

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/23/2009 10:19:09 AM

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Possibly you might gain some more traction with this in the "Ask a sub" forum.
They, after all, are more drawn to dominants and have more experience with them.

As for myself, I'd say that a dominant personality alone would not be quite enough, but it all depends on what you're looking for, I guess.

And, that would be speaking in very general terms. There are exceptions to every rule, situation, and so forth.

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RE: Mentality vs. Personality - 6/26/2009 8:52:45 AM

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i believe they go hand in hand but can be separate in most.

a dominant personality can exist without a dominant mentality being present. i consider these the noun types. they have the title. they might be overbearing or merely a dominant in their head. but it doesn't mean they can dominate.

a dominant mentality as utilized in the manner you're referring will generally accompany the personality. where by the dominant (noun) has or gains the capacity to dominate (verb) by pairing his personality, mentality, with the third component not mentioned - action.

both can be mere figments of ones imagination, or valid attributes present that mean little unless they're employed and directed with activity.

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