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Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 6:42:18 PM

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I am head over heels for my Mistress. I mean, totally heart and soul in this relationship. But soon she will be moving 200 miles away for a job she deserves and will thrive in. I will see her once a month and my heart is breaking thinking of being apart from her. I know when I'm away from her I ache for her... like physically need her. And I'm terrified I'll lose her, that we'll lose our closeness and when we do see each other it will be awkward. My question is; how can this work? What can I do to make this new transition easier? How can we stay close? Any advice from people who have been through this would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 7:28:28 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that :( Two things that have helped me in this situation...webcam/pictures to keep the libido going...hehe...and physical letters. Attach a little something, spray it with some perfume, use nice stationary, whatever. They are a sure way to keep your SO thinking of you and anticipating the next letter :)

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 8:08:38 PM

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assuming that she feels the same about you.. it can work. My husband is on the other side of an ocean. It's working.

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 8:28:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: pridedenied

I am head over heels for my Mistress. I mean, totally heart and soul in this relationship. But soon she will be moving 200 miles away for a job she deserves and will thrive in. I will see her once a month and my heart is breaking thinking of being apart from her. I know when I'm away from her I ache for her... like physically need her. And I'm terrified I'll lose her, that we'll lose our closeness and when we do see each other it will be awkward. My question is; how can this work? What can I do to make this new transition easier? How can we stay close? Any advice from people who have been through this would be greatly appreciated.

I met my fiancee online. she lives in edmonton, I live in AL. our personalities attracted one another immediately (this was around a year ago). we, without the expectation of anything, grew closer and closer until last december we spent 10 days in Las Vegas (granted it's a tacky city, but it's cheap to travel there). it went wonderfully. she came down here to AL for a week in april. we're getting married here in early august and then I am moving up there to live with her for a few years so we can have a family/I can make money. the distance has changed nothing. we're constantly on skype, even when she's at work in her office or I am at work for school and talk for extended periods of time daily. though it's not as if we can reach out and touch one another, seeing one another in real time does take a LOT of the edge off of a long distance relationship.

it's worked for us.

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 8:33:24 PM

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LDRs are a difficult situation and it does take more work to keep it thriving. For some, they are able to make a LDR work and usually it's by keeping in contact through mail, phone,email, IMs during the time they are apart. When both deeply feel that the relationship is well work the separation and willing to put extra effort into keeping it strong and thriving them they have my kudos. I wish you both all the best and if the long term goal is you moving to be with her then that will greatly help the relationship.

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 8:33:59 PM

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Anything is possible as long as you are willing to work at it, when necessary. I've seen quite a few couples on here make LDR's work out and they give me hope for mine. We are about 250 miles apart, and so far so good. My best to you in making it work.

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RE: Long Distance Relationship? - 6/21/2009 8:46:19 PM

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They can work as long as BOTH parties put the effort into keeping in touch. When they fall down, it's usually because one person feels like they are putting in all the work, beyond allowances for the ebbs and flows of daily life. For eg, at the beginning, you would want to cut your Mistress a bit of slack as She will be settling into a new place, new job etc while you are in the "same old" ... but after the first say couple of months, you'd want to hope She would be doing Her fair share of keeping in touch with you.

Also, I don't know too many LDRs that work indefinitely with NO prospect of seeing each other again. (I've seen one or two, just not many). It's so much easier to cope when you know that it will end, that you will see each other again. And beyond the monthly visits, it would be great to have a long term plan that involves being together again full time. Maybe that's you moving to Her, Her moving back if the job allows Her to springboard into an equal or better position back in your hometown ... or both of you moving somewhere else! Look at all the options and see what may be brought to fruition over time.

Meantime - use voice and cam where possible, make things for each other, send unexpected notes, hopefully She will also set you some tasks that will keep you focused. I have a few ideas for those if She'd like them!

Good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A] (who was LDR with Master over 5000km/3000 miles for nearly a year, now 5 years 24/7!)

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