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questions to TV/CDs - 6/24/2009 4:23:46 AM   
LadyEllen


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Right, now it isnt really pure bdsm I know, but it could be (once we have some answers) so here's a reasonable enough place to ask, so there!

Some crossdressing guys get all dressed up and then seek out sex with one another - nothing new there. These guys are often otherwise (in day to day) heterosexual. They say that the dressing gives them permission to indulge in what are homosexual acts, but there being no romantic element to it all (ie its just sex), theyre not gay or even bi.

All this stuff above has been done to death on here so its not that entire field of behaviour that the question is about. Rather its a more specific question that might shed light on that generality. So here it is -

To the crossdressing guys who do this stuff - is it more important that you are dressed up, more important that your partner is dressed up or is it essential that you both are dressed up?

I guess what I'm asking could be summarised alternatively as
1) would you feel permission to have sexual intimacy with another male, if you were dressed and he were not? or
2) would you feel permission to have sexual intimacy with another male, if he were dressed and you were not? or
3) is the permission contingent on both you and he being dressed up?

And from that - I can see how the permission thing works prior to intimacy, but does the permission not evaporate once intimacy begins and reality as it were intrudes into the scenario?

And one more question - following on from the episode, does the male side of your personality ever regret what the female side did?

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RE: questions to TV/CDs - 6/24/2009 6:43:31 AM   
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I don't know that I identify as a pure TV/CD...I have always considered myself transgendered - i.e., the clothing is not completely sexual for me.  I would wear girl clothes all day every day if I could.  But...here are my responses.  Hope they help! 
 
Is it more important that you are dressed up, more important that your partner is dressed up or is it essential that you both are dressed up?

For me, it is important for me to be dressed.   Again, part sexual, part just me being allowed to be my whole self.

1) would you feel permission to have sexual intimacy with another male, if you were dressed and he were not?
There is certainly part of that guy on girl thing going for me there.  There is "permission" in that if I am dressed and he is still wanting me, then he likely wants me for what I am (a girlie boy)...I would not just be a hole...if you take my meaning.  That would make a big difference.  

2) would you feel permission to have sexual intimacy with another male, if he were dressed and you were not?
Again, I would not feel my complete self in that circumstance, so I would find it a barrier.

3) is the permission contingent on both you and he being dressed up?
Not for me.



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