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Voltare -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/9/2004 6:07:23 AM)
The morality has been beaten down, so I'll be short. Dominance, as a personality trait, never gets 'turned off.' When and how it is applied, on the other hand, does. I don't tell my boss that if she's late with my paycheck, I'll put her over my knee. This works the same with submission - my boss is clearly a submissive woman, but if I stopped showing up for work, you bet your bottom peso that she isn't going to fire me. Dominance and submission are qualities we all possess in some degree or another. The application of those qualities differ with different people and different situations. Many Dominants, submissives, S/switches, etc etc live double lives in a manner of speaking with a vanilla partner, but a BDSM outlet somewhere else, with their partners consents (and many...many without their consent.... "he without guilt cast the first stone, etc etc") The question of right and wrong has been addressed - but the question of "is it possible?" Of course it is. Stephan

TaurusMCMLVIII -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/9/2004 9:49:15 PM)
quote: I know we should of talked much sooner but it just didn't happen and our sex life was getting more boring by the day. Now things are better than ever with all the new things we are discovering and trying, and hubby is becoming a very adept Master. I guess i was very luck he forgave me and things worked out for us. I would never recommend the path you took because of the potential risks but I am glad you beat the odds and everything worked out well for you. I'm sure this was not accomplished out of pure luck. I have a feeling that although you strayed a bit your marriage still had a strong foundation with a lot of love. I love a happy ending!

MasterDerek5 -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/16/2004 8:19:07 PM)
Dear usedslut, To a great extent I agree with Sundew02. I am married and my wife is vanilla but I have several slaves both male and female. I am a Dominant it is what I am, part of who I am but I show varied degrees of this to different people. I would never tell a waitress or my wife to "kneel" or "present" but my slaves hear it all the time. I have no problem having dinner with my wife or going shopping then later having several sessions with naughty slaves or meeting for sessions (training) with paying clients. Most people I know on varing levels defer to me, wife askes if she can buy something, coworkers look to me for advice, various people look to me for solutions... that's just me. Regards, Master Derek

wetrope -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/19/2004 12:46:43 PM)
Y - E - S !!!

MemphisDsCouple -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/19/2004 2:05:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: usedslut can anyone tell me if Master can lead 2 seperate lives, with his sub and also his wife!! I cant turn of my submission so can Master turn off his dominance? Are you asking the right question? Rather than the question you posted, I suggest you ask yourself: How can a man be dominant and at the same time submit to his wife? How can a man deserve to be called "Master" if he does not even rule his own home? Then after you answer those questions to your own satisfaction, you might want to ask yourself: Ok, if he can't be dominant and submit to his wife.... And, if he doesn't deserve to be called "Master" if he can't even rule his own home..... So, since there is an obvious contradiction here..... in which case is he "faking"? The short time he is talking to me, or the long hours he spends in his life submitting to his wife? After you sort through those questions, I don't think you'll need any advice from anyone on this message board.

softysub -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/19/2004 8:19:53 PM)
Sure they can, my Dom is married, He has been my Dom for the last 3 years, but before i became His sub, W/we sat down and talked about lots of things, setting up rules, limits etc.... My only concern is that at one point it would be too much for Him...but i would never make Him choose, i would ask to be released before. So far its working great cause of the mutual understanding W/we have. softysub

proudsub -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/19/2004 11:41:58 PM)
quote: Sure they can, my Dom is married I am curious, does his wife know of your arrangement?

softysub -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/20/2004 4:11:51 AM)
no she doesnt know about it.....and please no flaming :) i know i am not the only one out there with that same kind of arrangement. But i am being honest about it and not pretending. I am not saying that i am all pleased with that. I know some ppl will say that even if you arent having any sexual contact that its still cheating, but i didnt make that choice, He did and i respect His choice. What Sir and me have is more like a buddy/friend/confident relationship....and i do believe that a man and a woman can be friends without the sex part :)) softysub

proudsub -> RE: can a Master also vanilla (11/20/2004 8:56:03 AM)
quote: no she doesnt know about it.....and please no flaming :) Don't worry i would be the last one to flame about that, since i had an affair with my first dom. I was just curious of your situation.[:)]

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