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ShaktiSama -> RE: Are my profile "Interests" valid? (6/27/2009 6:34:26 AM)

Kind of an odd thread title, but here's my Fast Reply two cents to the OP question:

When you fill out your interests, the two things that will catch my eye most as a domme are your "Lives For" and your "Hard Limits".  Essentially, my concern when looking at those extremes will be whether I see anything on the "Lives For" list that I cannot stand, or on the "Hard Limits" list that I cannot live without.

You should be as honest as you can about your level of experience and interest in various activities, in the written part of your profile.  "Curious About" is a great generic check mark for kinks and fetishes that seem sexy and figure in your fantasies, but that you have never actually tried in real life.  "Tolerates" should be used sparingly, about something you have really tried but that did not give you any pleasure--but wasn't too awful to endure either.  Or to fetishes that might be important to some dommes, but which don't seem sexy to you at the moment.

As to whether your interests are valid--the list you give will be interpreted in light of the summary you write on your profile.  If you say "I've never been dominated in real life", or "my list of interests represents things I would like to try, rather than things I have already tried", all of your interests will be taken with the appropriate grain of salt. 

Good luck and welcome.  [:)]



danielh -> RE: Are my profile "Interests" valid? (6/27/2009 10:20:23 AM)

LP and MmeGigs,

Thanks for your feedback and perspective. No lecture here... or anger, just no acceptance of toxicity or malice. Very simple. I was swatting a fly.

I'll accept Yours, the board is dedicated to you... that's the basis of the site, as established by the operators. I actually read this stuff. I'll defer to that, and you. If the basis is just to be negative, from someone who has no interest in anything productive, reponding to something not directed towards them... nothing to backfire here... just ignorant garbage. I would have ignored had I realized that men lurk in your room to jump into your conversations. Pretty weird to be a self- described male dominant, and hang out in the women's room to start shit, when the site operators give them their own board. Creepy.

I have long time pro web background in user interface... I'll leave it there. Just manners 101. Sorry if I'm slapping a fool down in your living room. Because it's Your domain, I'll process what you're saying, and stick to topic in consideration of your interests. I did ask.

And thanks to those that have actually responded to my question, I do appreciate all your time and effort.

ShaktiSama.. very clear, that's what I was asking, thanks so very much. I'm good here

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