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masmiss -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 1:51:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DemonKia FR, after read thru I hear what you ladies are saying about wanting to be with someone who genuinely desires the extra poundage, but on the other hand, for me, if that's all someone can come up with as to why they're interested in me, that's a red flag for me . . .. . . I've had extensive experience with people who play at being a chubby chaser but they're really desperation chasers, thinking that chub = desperate . . . . . I can be remarkably (or not so) naive, & this one has taken me some time to be able to spot . . . .. (lol . . . . Some of it is that I have to watch the desperation level within myself . . . . . ) The thing about dishonesty is that it's not necessarily immediately obvious, at least it's that way for me . . . . . . I hear that there are those with much better bullshit detectors than I have . . . .. . Thus, I consider all of this as learning & growth opportunities, & y'all have definitely been teaching me a lot . .. . Especially to trust my gut instincts & not talk myself into something that 'feels' wrong for me . . . . . . [:D] Oh lordy, what I wouldn't give to be blessed with a better bullshit detector!!

Politesub53 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 2:52:19 PM)
Another "Whats wrong with subs thread " Is it friday already Ladies [8D]

thetammyjo -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 2:58:37 PM)
May I ask why you even invite someone to chat with you if you find their initial posts or their follow-up to be rude or stupid or whatever that you dislike? Wouldn't your annoyance be curbed if you just didn't talk to them at all?

LookieNoNookie -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 3:20:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LovingMistress45 Ok, I am in a pissy mood, but I don't think it is just my mood. I have a very detailed profile. There is (are) plenty of things in there about me, my thoughts, what I am look(ing) for - so why do I get stupid responses to it???? (Hmmmmmm) I don't really expect an answer, it is just (that) I (get) pissed off. Tonight wasn't the first night I have had a stupid response. This particular sub had responded a while back and then I didn't hear from him so I deleted the emails. Yesterday I get an email saying he had been on vacation and that was why he hadn't responded. So, I didn't remember what he had said that interested me enough to respond back, but I invited him to chat as in general I find that easier and quicker than emailing. I asked him what had interested (him) about my profile - of all things he could pick - his responses was (were that) he wanted to submit to a "bbw". First I don't use that acronym, but that is not the problem. Of all the things in my profile that is the "one"(?) - so basically what I hear is all I want is to be with a "fat" woman. Hey, I am fat and I am well aware that there are men that find that attractive, there are men that are turned off by it and men that don't really care. My description is very clear in my profile, but to me even if it is an attraction for that to be the only thing you can tell me interests you is just a turn off for me. I get a lot of responses to me that are just what I view as "I will submit to anyone to kink on" and it just pisses me off. Ok end of rant. (Ok)

Venatrix -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 3:25:32 PM)
Oooooh, a grammar fetish. Kinky!

LovingMistress45 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 4:11:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo May I ask why you even invite someone to chat with you if you find their initial posts or their follow-up to be rude or stupid or whatever that you dislike? Wouldn't your annoyance be curbed if you just didn't talk to them at all? I didn't invite someone to chat that offended me in his initial cmail to me. His first cmail was polite, he then didn't respond back for a couple of weeks but when he did he said he had been on vacation. It was in the chat I got irriated. People that offend me in the cmail get deleted.

LovingMistress45 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 4:15:12 PM)
Ok, so I probably shouldn't post when I am tired and irriated. [:)]

bootlckr57 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 8:12:36 PM)
(This is meant to be a funny comment). So he is kind of clueless, doesn't communicate well and says stupid things that make you angry, but doesn't understand why.. That sounds like a pretty average male to me. Best wishes to you.

littlesarbonn -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/26/2009 9:56:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Politesub53 Another "Whats wrong with subs thread " Is it friday already Ladies [8D] This is part of why I find myself apprehensive about continuing to look for someone here. There are so many people who are so negative that I get the idea that people are only here to seek out problems rather than to meet new and interesting people. It gets so annoying when you end up having to apologize for the users, abusers and players before you even contact someone or get contacted by someone. I don't play games with women, but I sure get the feeling that I'm always going to be treated as one who does just because there are less than desirous ones out there.

LovingMistress45 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/27/2009 2:26:01 PM)
littlesarbonn anyone that would judge you based on interaction with someone else is not worth your time anyway. I know my title to the thread probably seems like I am lumping all submissives together but I am really not. I know there are plenty of sincere real submissives out there unfortunately I am not finding them.

MrMoJo1007 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/27/2009 2:34:20 PM)
I my experience being a sub, I have found that the relationship between a Mistress and sub is more mental than physical. The physical part of it is enjoyable by all means but it also establish's the idividula roles of the Mistress and sub. I personally love the mental aspects of completely serving a Mistress with no hesitation and with the pleasure of knowing that I am fulfilling my Mistress's commands and desires. It is an incredibly pleasurable experience to release all contorl of one self to a Dominant woman.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/27/2009 2:39:02 PM)
A few weeks ago, I posted a list of the unattached nice guys from here that I know in realtime. They were pleased, but even strangers wrote to me to say what a good idea that was! The decent men of any orientation do not get enough credit. That does NOT mean that I don't need to vent sometimes, or just laugh out loud at some of the sheer doofiness I encounter.

OttersSwim -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/27/2009 6:36:04 PM)
I think more appropriate might be "what is wrong with stupid people"? If you generally count on people to be stupid, you will rarely be disappointed. You will also be pleasantly surprised when you find the opposite. [;)]

ShaktiSama -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 12:09:21 AM)
I actually think most of the men who post here regularly are pretty attractive. Certainly this forum is where I first noticed my own submissive. I tend to make a sharp distinction in my mind between losers who show up once to post a thread bitching about how dommes won't cheat with a married guy or dommes all want money, and the real people who show evidence of real personalities. As for crazy emails--yeesh, who doesn't get those on a sex site? And seriously, have you seen some of the emails that people who identify as dominant are sending people? [:'(] I would be really embarrassed if people were constantly identifying me with the idiots who send emails threatening to rape total strangers or giving them an unsolicited "kneel bitch". Yuck.

pyroaquatic -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 12:12:41 AM)
I will be the first to let you know that I am stupid. Guess what. I R STOOPID. Now that is out of the way. It is not a pleasant thing to do, lumping people with other people. I am, good lady, offended.

NihilusZero -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 12:17:50 AM)
Too many prerequisites and people get called unrealistic. Too few prerequisites and people get called single-minded.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 6:19:22 AM)
First of all, click on the person you want to reply to before you do, because otherwise we will think you're not making sense either. As for the fact that you is/might be stoopid, it's perfectly okay. Please stay and enjoy the boards, and don't take offense to much of anything, especially if you're not being called out by name. [8D] M

thetammyjo -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 7:57:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LovingMistress45 quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo May I ask why you even invite someone to chat with you if you find their initial posts or their follow-up to be rude or stupid or whatever that you dislike? Wouldn't your annoyance be curbed if you just didn't talk to them at all? I didn't invite someone to chat that offended me in his initial cmail to me. His first cmail was polite, he then didn't respond back for a couple of weeks but when he did he said he had been on vacation. It was in the chat I got irriated. People that offend me in the cmail get deleted. Ah, see if someone starts a conversation with me then just disappears, it has happened on Collar a few times, then comes back with an excuse, I say "thanks but no thanks" and ignore after that. Because contacting me to start a conversation then disappearing is rude. Thus they would never be invited to chat in the first place. If a person is rude in one area, I consider it likely that they will be rude in other areas of life and communication.

LovingMistress45 -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/28/2009 8:54:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic I will be the first to let you know that I am stupid. Guess what. I R STOOPID. Now that is out of the way. It is not a pleasant thing to do, lumping people with other people. I am, good lady, offended. I am guessing this is in response to my post. I generally don't lump people together as it is not fair.

AAkasha -> RE: WTF is Wrong with subs? (A RANT) (6/29/2009 9:51:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic I will be the first to let you know that I am stupid. Guess what. I R STOOPID. Now that is out of the way. It is not a pleasant thing to do, lumping people with other people. I am, good lady, offended. pyro..I think the subs that post here on the forums are an entirely different breed from those that contact the ladies on the other side of this site. I'm just sayin'!... :) And I didn't take you as being "stupid" at all...! Akasha

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