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MissDominae -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 12:24:42 AM)
Yes, I thought you would turn out to simply be a troll looking to start an argument. I suggest you read your own posts, very carefully, as I doubt many others here are going to bother to; I know I won't be bothering from here in. Have a nice day.

MsIvena -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 12:26:20 AM)
yes i didnt think u would lol u can dish it out but you cant take it. have a nice day dear.

DavanKael -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 12:32:06 AM)
Lol, you're obviously confused as well as uncouth; you're mushing quotes together from different people and attempting to insult and shout people into submitting to your ideas rather than accepting the genuinely asked questions posed and feedback given WHICH YOU ASKED FOR. You don't get to control who posts or what they post on a free public forum upon which you've started a thread. Get used to that idea if you plan to stick around. If you don't want feedback, if you're not willing to hear what's said, don't post. Simple. I think that your demeanor may be your relational problem; you do not seem to relate well with others. You started off in an offensive fashion and you've continued. That type of demeanor does not make a domme. Oh, and take a look at the number of posts by the people who have responded to you: they range from nearly 10 times your current number (Which I believe are from this post only) to about 250 times your current number. And, I'd bet that none of us who have responded to you claim to know everything...yet you, who have just gotten here are blathering on and being offensive. Davan

MsIvena -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 12:41:54 AM)
yummy i think i like you lol

pyroaquatic -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 1:24:20 AM)
1.) Use proper grammar and spelling. 2.) Read what you post before you commit to the post. 3.) Be clear and concise as to what questions you are asking. 4.) Be honest and forthright as to what answers you are giving. 5.) If no respect is given YOU WILL GET NO RESPECT IN RETURN. Welcome to the Forums, have NICE day.

littlewonder -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 2:49:26 AM)
Why not just try being a normal human being with a whole range of emotions, views and thoughts and getting to know a man in the same way? If you are dominant, that will shine through your personality and actions on an everyday basis and will attract the person you seek. I know...such a strange concept.

CatdeMedici -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 4:02:35 AM)
One of the biggest failings I see in Dominants, both male and female is the mistake of equating Dominance with domineering. A Dominant need not be beligerent, arrogant, crude or defensive to succeed as a Dominant. A good Dominant, is IMHO, firm but fair and should exude an air of quiet confidence. I believe a Domina should be all woman, understanding and exhibiting all aspects of her womanliness and femininity while steering the ship with a firm hand. However, My style is not suited to everyone. I am hardly in the position to admonish someone who may chosse to behave otherwise or even behave as a domineering shrew--it is My choice, however, not to align Myself with such behavior giving the mistaken belief that I approve. <edited for a precoffee typo>

masmiss -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:03:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena NO not at all. i believe the Softer side to be should be shared ONLY with the 1 that i CHOOSE th share that with. NOT just any and all slaves. So, you will be all fire and brimstone, hard ranting and tough lining on line and hope that attracts a slave and then, if it does, show them an entirely different side of you; one which didn't attract them? Good luck with that. I have a different approach; it's called openness and honesty about all parts of yourself. Being open about one's self and spelling out your qualities, strengths and nature as well as your requirements is, in my opinion, a sign of strength, not weakness, and generally gives the Dominant a far better chance of attracting suitable submissives their way. That said though, if your way works for you, then go for it~! YES THIS IS ALL IN CAPS AND FOR A REASON! READ WHAT I SAID! quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena NO not at all. i believe the Softer side to be should be shared ONLY with the 1 that i CHOOSE th share that with. NOT just any and all slaves. WHERE IN THAT MESSAGE DID I SAY So, you will be all fire and brimstone, hard ranting and tough lining on line and hope that attracts a slave and then, if it does, show them an entirely different side of you; one which didn't attract them? Good luck with that. ????????????????????????? I DIDNT!!!! SO BEFORE YOU GO GIVING YOUR SO CALLED GREAT ADVICE GET SOME OF YOUR OWN LOL. I SAID... quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena NO not at all. i believe the Softer side to be should be shared ONLY with the 1 that i CHOOSE th share that with. NOT just any and all slaves. I DIDNT SAY WHEN OR THAT I WAS GOING TO WAIT TILL THE VERY END. DO NOT ASSUME ANYTHING DEAR. IT TENDS TO MAKE AN ASS OUT OF PEOPLE. Umm, you posted on here to get others opinions and that means that you won't agree with all the replies. I know I'm not the first one to make that observation but in your case it's worth repeating,

LaTigresse -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:13:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici One of the biggest failings I see in Dominants, both male and female is the mistake of equating Dominance with domineering. A Dominant need not be beligerent, arrogant, crude or defensive to succeed as a Dominant. A good Dominant, is IMHO, firm but fair and should exude an air of quiet confidence. I believe a Domina should be all woman, understanding and exhibiting all aspects of her womanliness and femininity while steering the ship with a firm hand. However, My style is not suited to everyone. I am hardly in the position to admonish someone who may chosse to behave otherwise or even behave as a domineering shrew--it is My choice, however, not to align Myself with such behavior giving the mistaken belief that I approve. <edited for a precoffee typo> I am just going to ignore the obvious bait from the OP, (for now cuz I might change my mind after the coffee kicks in [:D]) and say that I agree with Cat.

slavekal -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:15:11 AM)
A woman's sensuality is often what makes her a great domme. That's where female power comes from.

DesFIP -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:20:32 AM)
I think it is a good thing that the op has shown herself to be entirely selfish, unwilling to do anything for her potential sub, hateful to anyone who disagrees with her etc. She makes it entirely clear what life with her would be like; unpleasant. As such, no intelligent sub would be willing to get involved with her. She has just stopped wasting any potential sub's time by showing her true self in her posts on this thread.

sirsholly -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:20:37 AM)
quote: : quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena OHHH no not asking the sub dear dont get me twisted lmao. im seeking the Advice of my peers. other trolls? [8\|]

MsFlutter -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:26:11 AM)
Any Domme can have many many facets to her personality. By nature I am a rather laid-back, calm person devoted to the comfort of the humans around me. I also happen to have other aspects - up to and including that of a competent sadist. All of those aspects are consistent. It is easier on the people in my life that they can make certain assumptions about the range of my nature. "Shrill harpy who has gone off her meds" is not part of my repertoire. I dont need to raise my voice to make my point. If I'm screeching at someone, it is because they are about to step in front of a bus. The dynamic of the moment determines both the facets and the degree to which they are revealed.

Level -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:32:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsFlutter I dont need to raise my voice to make my point. If I'm screeching at someone, it is because they are about to step in front of a bus. Very well said.

DarkSteven -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:35:55 AM)
First off, .MsIvena, welcome to the forums. Regarding your questions: A Domina can and should do things her way. If she follows some written-by-another Domina Handbook, she's really just following orders, and she'll never get as much out of it as if she does it her way. That said, the more must-have demands you place upon your ideal sub, the longer your search will be. I'd recommend against exclusing sensuality from your relationship. I have had discipline-only relationships with no sex, and they took almost as much effort as a full relationship, and were far less rewarding. Every time you relate to a person, the way in which you relate should be different according to the personalities of you and that other person.

DontLookBack -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 5:47:13 AM)
Usually I just read the posts I don't comment but............I have to. There is an old cherokee saying....nothing as strong as gentleness, nothing as gentle as true strength. I am never a total cunt, I have never found it necessary to be so. I am a strong, loving, caring person who knows what I want and need. I am the one who sets the boundaries and perimeters in all things and I certainly never give up my sensuality to be Dominant.

beargonewild -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 8:05:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsIvena YES OR NO DOES SHE HAVE TO BE A TOTAL CUNT? CAN SHE NOT HAVE A SOFT SIDE WITH HER SLAVES AS WELL AS THE FIRM HARSH SIDE? CAN SHE HAVE MULTIPLE SIDES TO HER PERSON? CAN SHE NOT AT TIMES BE ROMANTIC AND AT TIMES BE A SADIST? IS THIS NOT IN MOST FEMALES ANYWAY? AM I THE ONLY DOMME THAT THINKS THIS WAY? OR AM I IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD HERE LOL. SOME ANSWERS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.I want a man that can be everything. my knight in shining armor when i want him to be. my slave when i tell him to be my sub my bitch my whore whatever. my everything. he MUST support me 100% in everything mentally emotionally financially. IS THAT TO MUCH TO ASK FOR? LOL It is common sense knowing that a person is attracted to the multifaceted aspects of another person. This is also applicable in the realm of a D/s relationship. Frankly who the hell wants to be in a relationship with a one dimensional dominant partner? I sure the hell don't and it is guaranteed that any pets I seek will be multifaceted in nature. One sided cold as ice dominants are a dime a dozen and a waste of tiem. btw.....fixed your typos. You're welcome.

thetammyjo -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 8:07:14 AM)
I would say that if you feel you must give up a part of yourself to be a role, whatever that role is, and that giving that up is a problem for you or causes you harm in any fashion, then that role is not the appropriate one for you OR the person you are with is a very poor match for you.

MsIvena -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 8:10:16 AM)
Rofl i soooo agree with you my darling... and thank you for the VERY kind words. it was a change. are people always so mean here? damn i thought these forums were for US Dominants to HELP each other not bring each other down lol damn. what a sad sad world we live in today. SMH

MsIvena -> RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMINANT? (6/28/2009 8:12:35 AM)
Thank you.

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