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GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is this no... - 6/28/2009 1:27:00 PM

ten0eight

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i've always had some release at least every other day, but since i met my current girl, she told me that i can't cum unless i'm with her and she allows it. while i'm not in chastity, i haven't cummed in the last 10 days. i've jerked it but not to the point of release. just this morning i noticed that when i urinate, and after i flush the toilet, the water would be bubbly. i thought it was the toilet until i flushed again right away and it was all clear. i urinated again later, flushed, and bubbly again.

so i'm guessing since i haven't cummed the last 10 days, when i urinate, a little bit of cum comes out too because my balls are full?

i'm seeing her tonight, so hopefully this won't happen again, or too soon ;)

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 1:55:44 PM

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Hey there ten0eight:

As someone who participates in the bdsm community as a domme I must say that your GF is acting in an irresponsible manner. It is necessary to any healthy relationship -- vanilla or otherwise -- that all the parties involved negotiate emotional boundaries that make every one happy. It is particularly troubling when a dom/me refuses to acknowledge (or ignores) her sub's needs and concerns.

My advice: Talk things through with your GF. Being a sub does not mean you have to endure unhealthy or unfufilling relationships. You probably joined this lifestyle because you sought a truer expression of your individual needs or desires. Stay close to that thought.

Wishing you all the best!

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 1:56:17 PM

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I'd say that's not normal for me.

But what's normal for you is something I can't really say.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 3:06:15 PM

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How come I never meet women like this who want to take control right out of the gate? I always meet women who want to befriend me and then end up being really nice to me. Woe is I. sniffle

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 3:16:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: scribeofclio

Hey there ten0eight:

As someone who participates in the bdsm community as a domme I must say that your GF is acting in an irresponsible manner. It is necessary to any healthy relationship -- vanilla or otherwise -- that all the parties involved negotiate emotional boundaries that make every one happy. It is particularly troubling when a dom/me refuses to acknowledge (or ignores) her sub's needs and concerns.

My advice: Talk things through with your GF. Being a sub does not mean you have to endure unhealthy or unfufilling relationships. You probably joined this lifestyle because you sought a truer expression of your individual needs or desires. Stay close to that thought.

Wishing you all the best!

He never said he didn't want to do this. Since she didn't lock him in chastity while asleep, or at all, he could stop obeying any time. If he wanted to. Which obviously he doesn't.

He just asked about bubbles in urine. Which appears to predominantly be associated with protein in urine. However since he did say he edged right before he urinated I'd imagine that a little cum exited with the urine and it isn't anything to worry about. OP, you're seeing her tonight so tomorrow don't edge before you pee and see if it still happens.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 3:21:57 PM

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I think the message is that there is no normal, only what you two agree to. If you haven't agreed to her controlling this part of your life you certainly should discuss it. The urine is likely the precum that you normally leak prior to orgasm from your jerking, no big health concern. I hope you have a good time tonight

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 3:59:21 PM

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Basic human biology shows that if a male hasn't ejaculated in 3-4 days the sperm is reabsorbed into the body.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 4:56:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ten0eight

i've always had some release at least every other day, but since i met my current girl, she told me that i can't cum unless i'm with her and she allows it. while i'm not in chastity, i haven't cummed in the last 10 days. i've jerked it but not to the point of release. just this morning i noticed that when i urinate, and after i flush the toilet, the water would be bubbly. i thought it was the toilet until i flushed again right away and it was all clear. i urinated again later, flushed, and bubbly again.

so i'm guessing since i haven't cummed the last 10 days, when i urinate, a little bit of cum comes out too because my balls are full?

i'm seeing her tonight, so hopefully this won't happen again, or too soon ;)

Double check next time before you flush and see if you see any of those little bristly foaming guys zooming around the edge of the bowl getting rid of your toilet stain....if you do, it's not you....they're probably just filming a toilet cleaning commercial in your bathroom and no one told you.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 4:59:51 PM

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LMAO......

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 5:14:14 PM

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What's "normal" for you is a combination of what you enjoy and what you have negotiated with your partner.

I'm not interested in female dominants who are into enforced celibacy/chastity, cuckolding, or humiliation, but some people love that. To each their own.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 5:26:26 PM

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You are lucky to have a GF like that. I would love for a FEMALE to control me like that. Not even my Dear Wife want's to do that for me. HA HA HA

Also welcome to the group.

Welcome to the group too Scribofclio. It is always nice to see new Females here, since there are so many Male subs. I hope you have FUN here, and look forward to reading your posts.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 6:04:40 PM

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Yeah, no profile, so congrats on getting your wank on.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 6:07:37 PM

ten0eight

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the bubbles are AFTER i flush. i don't think it's anything with the toilet and chemicals since i clean it. i'll have to observe more, but i'm going to see her in a few hours so i probably won't reply until next week ;)

oh and i guess the "is this normal" question was referring to the bubbles in the toilet after the flush haha. i love how she doesn't let me have any release unless i'm with her. sooo hot :)

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 6:10:49 PM

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Well, as was said, bubbles in urine can indicate protein "leaking" out, which could indicate kidney issues. Your doctor can do a simple test to check kidney function if it's something worrisome.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 6:12:31 PM

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Pee and semen do not come out of some magic pee/semen holding pouch in your abdomen. Pee and semen come from a magic caterpillar that lodges in your pee hole and waves a little tiny sceptre to allow the pee or the semen to pass. Obviously his sceptre is broken. See your local neighborhood magician or dry cleaner for instructions on how to get a new sceptre to the caterpillar right away.

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 6:13:02 PM

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I dont know about the bubbles part, but that orgasm denial or forbidding / witholding certain pleasures or cherished acts is far from a unique thing. Its one of the first things(along with punishment) that I learned of when I first came into the lifestyle afew years back. I agree with scribeofcleo in spirit, its not the type of dynamic I have with my pretty one. Even if it was something I got off on if I forbade her orgasms, either coaxed out of her by me or by herself, she'd be a basket case in no time&, well, I need her on top of her game. She needs to cum on a pretty frequent basis & I dont deny her needs.It wouldnt work for us, but its not an uncommon thing in our lifestyle&community. As long as its negotiated & both partners are happy / satisfied in what they're doing then its fine. You use the word "normal" , tenOeight & what many consider normal just as many or possibly more dont. Dont be concerned whether its normal for others, if this isnt working for you then I'd say it would be time to renegotiate. We've been together almost a year&a half & we used to spend a lot of time negotiating, but not so much now. But its "normal" , even healthy, to negotiate&renegotiate if somethings not feeling right......

Good luck on the journey......

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 7:02:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Racquelle

Pee and semen do not come out of some magic pee/semen holding pouch in your abdomen. Pee and semen come from a magic caterpillar that lodges in your pee hole and waves a little tiny sceptre to allow the pee or the semen to pass. Obviously his sceptre is broken. See your local neighborhood magician or dry cleaner for instructions on how to get a new sceptre to the caterpillar right away.

(I knew this).

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 7:05:49 PM

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And what happens when you take a dump?

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 7:10:24 PM

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OP:::

GO TO www.innerbody.com

GO to MENS Reproductive organs

then go to URINARY system

LOOK...READ....LEARN..about YOUR BODY...

good heavans..do you realize sperm makes a baby..??

sperm comes out when you have "cummed"

GQ

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RE: GF not allowing me to cum for a 10 days now, is thi... - 6/28/2009 8:41:50 PM

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http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1585224/what_causes_foamy_urine.html

No you won't leak semen when you pee, if you go long enough without an orgasm your body will relieve itself through nocturnal emission http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nocturnal_emission You might also experience this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_balls

Orgasm denial and orgasm delay are a relatively common practice in a D/S relationship. Personally I'm a huge fan of the practice though my sub definitely has mixed feelings about it

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