yourMissTress
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Joined: 6/14/2005 From: Nashville, TN Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: nolimitslaveCA Ms Texas Ma'am i dont see where i have added you to my admirirers list there are certainley sadists here in cal , and yes i would beg not to die but i do offer total control to my Owner and seek the strictest harshest training and treatment that is possible. i am sorry if that bothers people who think they should be able to tell me what my kink should look like, my real question really stays here unanswered, talking with one Domme she kept emphasizing that i would be ok even though i would be used hard. mystery is exciting and if you trust someone do you have to say that ? I think I may understand where you are coming from... You want to EVENTUALLY have no need for limits because you would so trust your Dominant after years of playing together? Is that correct? Because that's the only sane way that I can interpret what you are saying. You clearly have limits as you said "I would beg not to die". That's a limit, a limit of death. It's a limit that my subs that I have played with do not need to state with me because it's something that we have come to understand as a mutual limit through discussion of needs, desires, and LIMITS. We have established which of our limits are compatible and do not need to be reestablished with each successive play session. We have also come to an agreement on other limits which are not shared and discuss where we are with those limits, what boundaries will be respected, and what boundaries will be expanded. Or, is it possible that your self esteem is so low that you think you are more attractive to a Domina if there are no limits to what they can do to you? Is that why you have such a problem with that word and admitting that you have some? Limits are not a bad thing. They are not negatives or draw backs to be used against a sub or slave. They are boundaries, some used for protection of life and limb, some used for protection of mental health, and others used for comfort level. Those limits that exist solely for comfort level are usually pushed and expanded on until the boundaries have been erased by comfortability, knowledge of your partner, and self awareness. Those limits that exist for the protection of mental health are debatable, some Dominants will help a sub/slave work through a difficult subject or event in their life through play, some things will forever be left alone. Whether or not they are hard or soft limits needs to be established, discussed and well considered as other aspects of play may trigger the same feelings. The goal of a relationship based on complete trust is a wonderful goal. The desire to have no need for limits to be stated is a great fantasy. But the facts of life are such that to play with anyone, ANYONE without limits is inviting the worst. Offering yourself up to any sadist that will treat you as strict and harsh as possible and saying "do what you will, I have no limits"? That is asking to be maimed at the least. I don't see where anyone is telling you what your kink should be. I see a whole lot of people giving you advice on how not to get killed. Unless that is your kink.
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Tress "If you have to tell people that you are a lady, you are not." My Grandmother
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