abuddingdom
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Funnily enough I just spoke of this in another thread acouple days ago m but I'll give a better detailed account here.. A couple years ago, brand new to the lifestyle, I put up my CM profile. Did the usual exchanging of emails, some I made 1st contact & some not. I saw my pretty one's profile one day & was struck by it - the intelligence&self awareness of the words & the beauty I saw in the pic. I emailed her&never heard back. Some time later I went to a local play party & there she was, with her master of several months. Funnily, I couldnt place her- I just knew, for certain, that I knew her from somewhere. I didnt feel right in any direct approach , as her attention & obvious mindset was on Him, but it was really bugging me trying to figure out from where I knew this woman . At one point she spilled some food on the floor & I handed her some napkins which forced eye contact & I was hoping if she recognised me from somewhere the SHE might say something but I saw no recognition as she said "thanks". At sometime during the evening it hit me who she was - she'd obviously impressed me, you know? I'd emailed her many months, maybe even as long asa year ago, & forgot about it after no reply but she was still there in the memory banks. When I went home that night I got on the machine & searched her out, though I couldnt recall her screename. I found her, & her profile satrted out with the word "Taken!"......
I wasnt able to get to parties or munches forafew months & I pretty much- but not completely- forgot about her, again. Sometime diring these few onths I deleted my profile. I explianed this in the other thread also, but essentially , over the year & a half that I'd been going to munches & parties&even playing someI was figuring out that even though I'd been topping for almost 4 decades I wasnt prepared for D/s, & D/s was calling me. I'd been in 2 relationships long ago which were very much D/s but there was no community, no reading materials, no guidance(no internet) & the D & s words never even were conciously thought & I ended up in a pretty long&unhealthy marriage which eventually imploded. I realized I had no business having a profile & no business seeking a partner until I'd figured out what my dominance consisted of(& how to seperate the sex&kink from it) so I deleted it, knowing I'd be back here one day. Afew months after THAT, I walk into a local munch one fine Spring evening & there she is again- this intriguing woman who unbekownst to me would soon be my pretty one - & the only empty chair in the room is right next to her. Found out within minutes that she was free- newly, like 2 weeks free . I told her most of the above, &, funnily, though she had no recollection of me at that party- ouch!! - she vaguely recalled my long ago email to her. I emailed her afew days later, & we exchanged several emails for a week or so & we met up one day. Went for a walk, then for coffee, then for some falalfel. Fresh off &somewhat drained from an intense M/s relationship she wasnt looking for anything(she didnt want a "D" flag stuck in her ass is how she put it to me),& she had some trust issues. But -she knew she needed to submit &she wasnt closed off to the right thing if it came along. I felt similair - I was coming off something too, nothing like what she'd experienced but it had been a long&somewhat intense & a bit draining story in its own way, & I was still trying to establish my own "D" style(but, in retrospect, how do you do that ina vacuum?) We started spending LOTS of time together, I got Dom fever & we butted heads over D/s issues, & I still havent figured out what kept her with me for those first few months but attatchment grew, & grew, & grew some more.A little less than 5 months after that munch we went 24/7 live-in, & 12 months after that munch - the one with the empty chair next to her - I put my collar on her. she obeys &serves&takes care of me &we anchor each other as best as we can, & the attatchment continues to grow.
I'll tell her to reply to this thread whan she gets to it - she's at work now & today's her birthday, so she may not get to it forawhile. But comparing notes on this topic should be interesting......
Oh - is "funnily" a word, & did I spell it correctly?
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RE: Where did you meet your current partner? - 
Profile
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I also met my last boyfriend/dominant online, though on a different BDSM personals site. I met my previous boyfriends through vanilla circumstances, and told them about my BDSM proclivities around the 3rd date. I didn't have anyone turn me down or freak out at me over it.
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