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lost - 6/30/2009 1:54:32 PM

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Im lost here trying to find my place, and going no where! I know this is a community, how does one fit in?belong,Im very interested in finding my plave just comeing up short? tried chat rooms they really dont chat unless they know you so here is the question whats the best way to connect with the lifestyle?

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 1:58:14 PM

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The best way to connect with the kinky people out in the world is to go out and meet them. Go to events, munches, and demos in your area and that's where the kinky folks will be.

If you're talking about here on the site, post on the forums and give folks a chance to get to know you that way.

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 4:28:05 PM

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You've been on CM for 10 days. It takes a while to connect with any community. One needs to hang around, be patient, and let folks get to know one.

You may want to reconsider your profile. There's no picture of you and you don't say anything about yourself except that you're interested in whips, canes, etc. Your interests list is all kinky stuff - there's nothing about what you enjoy outside of kink. Your CM friends are women half your age with pics that look like they've been taken from a magazine. I suspect that many if not most dominant women would look at your profile, assume you're a wanker and move on. If you want to fit in/meet people/connect, it will help to show folks that you're a real person. Post a pic and tell folks a little something about who you are and you may find that you're more well-received.

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 4:53:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: MmeGigs

You've been on CM for 10 days. It takes a while to connect with any community. One needs to hang around, be patient, and let folks get to know one.

You may want to reconsider your profile. There's no picture of you and you don't say anything about yourself except that you're interested in whips, canes, etc. Your interests list is all kinky stuff - there's nothing about what you enjoy outside of kink. Your CM friends are women half your age with pics that look like they've been taken from a magazine. I suspect that many if not most dominant women would look at your profile, assume you're a wanker and move on. If you want to fit in/meet people/connect, it will help to show folks that you're a real person. Post a pic and tell folks a little something about who you are and you may find that you're more well-received.

So far I'll just have to chime in to agree with the previous answers.
The best way to meet people IS to get out in the real world, go to munches, dungeons and the like...

If you are mainly interested in just kink without any kind of personal involvement, then your profile is perfect. Most of the dominant women on these boards are looking for much more than to be a service top, which is what your profile sounds like you need.

good luck in your search.

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 6:21:03 PM

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 6:28:17 PM

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The best thing to do is realize that because this is refered to as a lifestyle and a community doesnt mean it behaves like one necessarily. The easiest way to meet other people that might be into what you are into is to look carefully at profiles on here. Real life meetings are best, because you get a better feel for the community around you locally. The lifestyle is not one big happy interactive community of likeminded people. Each area has groups, and people make connections online the "old fashioned" way, by talking to others and on the forums. If you make yourself presentable and interesting, and set yourself apart from every other person on here in some way, shape or form, then you will start meeting others. And, a personal note, you might want to limit a friends list to actual friends you chat with, not people you think will look good in your friends group. Thin your list to only those you actually consider friends, or starting friendships and dont try and look like a popularity contest. The more you say you cant find anyone but yet you have a huge full list, the less credible you sound.

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RE: lost - 6/30/2009 6:29:17 PM

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Even your user name reeks of do me submission. Waiting to recieve? What are you giving? You're profile indicates nothing about what you are offering to a potential dominant.

Remember, this isn't a sex supermarket. Dominant women do not live "the lifestyle" 24/7. They have lives, families, work, interests, hobbies, likes, dislikes apart from beating someone up and dressing them as a girl. Who are YOU?

Until they know even a little about who you are as a person, why would anyone want to include you in anything?

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RE: lost - 7/1/2009 2:50:44 PM

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Yhank you all for your advise, I will try to make the proper adjustments!

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