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Venatrix -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 4:44:36 PM)

I suppose that it's really up to the bloke to decide how much effort to put into pursuing someone who sends a one-line email.  I really liked LadyNTrainer's response above.  If that doesn't open a door to further communication, it's anybody's guess what will.  I would caution Littlesarbonn against accepting dating advice from any of the single gentlemen who post frequently on these threads.  A word to the wise and all.



purepleasure -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 5:12:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

You bloody sod.  I look like *Michael* Douglas, not Kirk.  Hmmph.


I think you look a bit like Nicole Kidman in Moulin Rouge, but prettier



PeonForHer -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 5:27:28 PM)

I would caution Littlesarbonn against accepting dating advice from any of the single gentlemen who post frequently on these threads.  A word to the wise and all.

Miaow. [:D]




LdyyR -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 6:24:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

I'd recommend a cut and paste polite response that isn't much longer, like, "Thank you for your interest, Ma'am.  I would be open to conversing in more depth if You wish it; otherwise, please have a good day and thank you for the compliment."



That's great advice, unless one is truly dense, I don't see how an individual could miss what is being implied by the sender of the message. 



Venatrix -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 7:11:42 PM)

Why, thank you, PP.  That was a lovely thing to say.  It seems as though *some* of the men around here could take charm lessons from you.  No names mentioned, of course [;)]



PeonForHer -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 7:13:04 PM)

Bollocks!  Are you saying I'm not charming?



Venatrix -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 7:21:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Bollocks!  Are you saying I'm not charming?


Why do you think every post I make is about you?  I could have been referring to, umm, err, I could have been talking about . . . oh, never mind.



playfulotter -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 7:50:37 PM)

If a one-liner written to me is not rude I just say thank you for your interest in my profile but if you had read the first two paragraphs I am not seeking. Then, because i can get bored sometimes...I write....we might be able to correspond as friends if we are of a like mind....enough said!



MeaganBlake -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/1/2009 11:16:16 PM)

I have my standard "Thank you for your e-mail but I am not looking for a sub/slave/sissy right now." Sometimes a boy will pique my interest, but usually they get the standard response.



Andalusite -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 8:22:09 AM)

Back when I was looking, I usually responded to one-liners with a line or two in response, depending on what they said. If their profile actually seemed interesting, or they were local and otherwise seemed promising, I tried many times to draw them out. However, I was usually unsuccessful, even if I asked them questions point blank. The responses I got tended to be minimalist, and the conversation petered out after a few exchanges.



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 9:13:37 AM)

~Fast Reply~
I will say "Thank you for your letter.  I'm always hoping to meet more friends," since I'm not available.  Of course, the last "one-liner" I got was actually a "two-worder," asking about my bra size.  I said "I think I'll field that question to Sir.  He knows the answer to that one," and so I did.  The doofus wrote back "Fair enough."  hahaha



WarKirby -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 9:23:45 AM)

If the opening one-liner contains an url or an email address, which is rather often, I report it as spam, delete the message, and block the sender.

If not, I investigate their profile, and respond to  it as best as possible, usually with a number of questions that provide more than sufficient material for a lengthy response. If their second message is a one liner again, they'll get a more curt response along the lines of "where are you going with this". If they can't be bothered putting in some effort by the third message, I delete it without responding.



lobodomslavery -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 10:12:24 AM)

My one liner i hope Your having a good day. Good luck
kevin



AlexandraLynch -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 10:46:27 AM)

I have actually had three or four real people write me locally and begin a correspondence. I was a little stunned; I'm used to an inbox full of one-liners.

I'm always polite: Thank you for your interest/ compliment.

I always indicate what the problem is: Unfortunately, I am only looking within (geographical area) or Unfortunately, our kinks do not align.

I always wish them luck in their search elsewhere. In other words, if I said no because you're three states away or no because I'm not into crossdressing as a fetish (I don't mind transwomen or transmen, though) it's not going to change if you badger me about it, so unless you specifically indicated an interest in correspondence, go away.

But that's how I do it. Of course, every now and then someone does show they're a real person, and I write them back a real person letter.



thetammyjo -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 10:50:23 AM)

Have you considered that they aren't interested in talking and are just contacting you because you touched something that pleased them and they thought you might like to know your words just don't disappear?

Sometimes a "I like your profile picture" or "I really enjoying reading your thoughts in the forum" is just a compliment not an invitation for anything further.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

This has been happening to me a lot lately, and honestly I have yet to figure out how to respond to the situation, but I'll receive a one liner from a dominant woman who says something like "You sound interesting/intriguing/or whatever." Basically, they say they either liked my profile or they liked my posts (usually they don't give me enough information to even indicate which). Now, I can do the usual cheeky response and be rude, which will end up with being blocked and never having a conversation in the future (which hopefully will kill off the 100 or so responses here of the people who have the greatest one liner response that serves to insult the woman, thus leaving her to block me forever but allows someone on the boards to believe he or she is really funny because they think they're the only ones capable of coming up with an insult as a response). I've tried just opening up a conversation, which pretty much always ends up with the exact same result.

So, how do you succeed in going from the one liner to actually getting a conversation going? I've tried, "tell me about yourself please" and that gets nowhere. It's like they contact me hoping for some super subbie response, and I don't have it. Then it always leaves me thinking that I screwed up when all I did was respond to a one liner that came out of the dark.





MissAnimus -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 2:27:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Have you considered that they aren't interested in talking and are just contacting you because you touched something that pleased them and they thought you might like to know your words just don't disappear?

Sometimes a "I like your profile picture" or "I really enjoying reading your thoughts in the forum" is just a compliment not an invitation for anything further.


That's what I was thinking too. Usually when I write a one liner it's just to give a compliment and move on. Just like if I see a woman on the street with a necklace I admire I compliment her and move on. I'm not interested in starting a conversation and it definitely doesn't convey my interest in anything else.



justme1980 -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 2:44:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

This has been happening to me a lot lately, and honestly I have yet to figure out how to respond to the situation, but I'll receive a one liner from a dominant woman who says something like "You sound interesting/intriguing/or whatever." Basically, they say they either liked my profile or they liked my posts (usually they don't give me enough information to even indicate which). Now, I can do the usual cheeky response and be rude, which will end up with being blocked and never having a conversation in the future (which hopefully will kill off the 100 or so responses here of the people who have the greatest one liner response that serves to insult the woman, thus leaving her to block me forever but allows someone on the boards to believe he or she is really funny because they think they're the only ones capable of coming up with an insult as a response). I've tried just opening up a conversation, which pretty much always ends up with the exact same result.

So, how do you succeed in going from the one liner to actually getting a conversation going? I've tried, "tell me about yourself please" and that gets nowhere. It's like they contact me hoping for some super subbie response, and I don't have it. Then it always leaves me thinking that I screwed up when all I did was respond to a one liner that came out of the dark.



if I am feeling nice I will tell them to please re-read my profile and then we might talk as I specifically say no one lines, otherwise I will just delete it



stella41b -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/2/2009 4:14:44 PM)

I'm in the same camp here as GQ. I'll respond with a 'Why thank you' and leave it at that.

The fact that someone might have dominant in the top right hand corner of their profile and I have submissive doesn't really take on any significance until there's a possibility of a relationship. Until that time for me personally it's very much a people and potential friendship issue.

If someone really wants to get to know you then they'll make the effort and you'll notice it.



MistressRENA -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/4/2009 9:35:01 AM)

I have on the rare occasion wrote a one line compliment/comment in response to a profile or post that I liked.

And it was just that ... a compliment.

If the receiver looks at my profile and decides to engage in conversation; that is nice. If the receiver just acknowleges my compliment, thats ok too.

Mistress RENA




LadyPact -> RE: Responding to one liners without being rude (7/4/2009 9:38:11 AM)

Actually, I have written a couple of one liners that panned out well.  Probably one of the cheeziest (your Mistress has wonderful taste in subs) ended up spawning a pretty good friendship.  Some things are funny like that.



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