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Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 6:47:53 PM   
slaveladyj


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Status: offline 		refer to themselves as Daddy's? it bothers me, because one thing I'm definitely not looking for is a daddy. I had one, and have no desire to even think in those terms in a sexual relationship.
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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 6:57:23 PM   
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refer to themselves as Daddy's? it bothers me, because one thing I'm definitely not looking for is a daddy. I had one, and have no desire to even think in those terms in a sexual relationship.


I totally agree with this.. but it to each their own.

Some prefer to be daddies.. others.. Lords... Masters... etc... it's all in the Dom you are intending to be with. If the daddy aspects bother you.. be up front about it.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 6:58:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's ok that it bothers you- it's good to know what will work for you and what won't.

But for some people, creating a daddy type relationship can be very nurturing, healing, and secure for them. It doesn't mean they want to actually have sex with their fathers, any more than wanting to be spanked means that you actually want to be beaten up in an alley. It can allow people to express things in a certain dynamic and fit well within it.


this is al ink to a recent discussion of the topic, as well as to several other links to discussions on collarme

are there any daddies here?

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 7:04:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		nothing wrong with the fact that it bothers you or that it is not for you.... but also consider that for others such term is used very rewarding and functional relationships. It might not be your kink.... but that doesn't make it wrong for those that it works for.

Personally, I do not want or desire such a term to be used for me. But, I am very comfortable with those that enjoy it's use... and I do know a few. It is also pleasant to be around those that are enjoying there thing... even if it's not mine kinda thing.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 7:21:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveladyj

refer to themselves as Daddy's? it bothers me, because one thing I'm definitely not looking for is a daddy. I had one, and have no desire to even think in those terms in a sexual relationship.



Personally... I agree with you. I have a Daddy... have no desire to have another one. But I also know several that function in that type of relationship. I feel that knowing what works for you is the first step to a happy fulfilling relationship.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 7:24:14 PM   
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refer to themselves as Daddy's? it bothers me, because one thing I'm definitely not looking for is a daddy. I had one, and have no desire to even think in those terms in a sexual relationship.


Because a Daddy-girl or a Daddy-boy is a relationship model that some people are looking for. If that isn't the type of relationship you want, don't approach those people for a relationship.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 7:45:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		My first D/s relationship was a Daddy/little girl dynamic. For me, it created perfectly the kind of safe, nurturing atmosphere I needed to allow myself to take those first steps in BDSM. I wanted to taste the excitement of submitting but subconsciously I was afraid I would get in over my head.

The safety of a Daddy helped me take those steps.

Since then, I have had other D/s relationships and not one of them was a Daddy/little girl, and that was fine by me. I feel that my need for that dynamic has changed, but it worked well at the time.

I have a great relationship with my father, and never felt a conflict at all about calling my dominant Daddy.

All in all, it suited my needs at the time, and I agree with what the others had to say, if it doean't appeal to you, pass on it...Not everyone helps themselves to everything at the salad bar...Nothing wrong with that.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 8:40:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Its a wonderful feeling for me to shift into lil foxglove mode... maybe its a more selfish form of submission as i tend to be needy, and thats how kids are. When I let my innerkid out, Im always eager to please, maybe I will fingerpaint a picture for my daddy or make him something out of macaroni, or just covering his face in kisses, selfish too... *I* want some more candy. *I* want to jump on the bed. *I* want to watch Scooby Doo in my underwear. Exposing the very precious core of me that has always ignored the demands to "grow up" and have someone love and nurture that, is a very powerful thing. It could be an ideal dynamic for someone like me who isnt very keen on pain, but huge on discipline and d/s.

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 8:45:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		For some submissives it gives a feeling of innocence and vulnerability. They feel protected and sheltered by a greater force. They feel nothing can hurt them when in Daddy's care.

i do not call my Master Daddy, nor does he refer to himself as such. But in his tender moments he does call me his little girl, and when he does my heart fills up and becomes warm, and i feel so small compared to him (moreso than usual). He has some other pet names that do the same, however, so it's not a Daddy thing for us, but i have friends who have that dynamic and find it most rewarding.


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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 8:46:34 PM   
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Its a wonderful feeling for me to shift into lil foxglove mode... maybe its a more selfish form of submission as i tend to be needy, and thats how kids are. When I let my innerkid out, Im always eager to please, maybe I will fingerpaint a picture for my daddy or make him something out of macaroni, or just covering his face in kisses, selfish too... *I* want some more candy. *I* want to jump on the bed. *I* want to watch Scooby Doo in my underwear. Exposing the very precious core of me that has always ignored the demands to "grow up" and have someone love and nurture that, is a very powerful thing. It could be an ideal dynamic for someone like me who isnt very keen on pain, but huge on discipline and d/s.


Awww, what a sweet picture you paint, foxglove. Makes me want to come over and watch Scooby Doo in my underwear, too!!!!

On a serious note, yes, you are right about the pain dynamic. That was one reason I enjoyed the daddy aspect too. I had little urge for pain play. (Still a mediocre masochist...LOL)

Cin


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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 8:54:31 PM   
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Awww, what a sweet picture you paint, foxglove. Makes me want to come over and watch Scooby Doo in my underwear, too!!!!


Cool! Ive got hi-C and pixie stix. Lets party!

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RE: Why do some Dom/Masters - 2/15/2006 9:06:43 PM   
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Cool! Ive got hi-C and pixie stix. Lets party!


Oh neat-o!!! Pixie Stix?? My daddy never let me have THOSE!!!

Cin <~ is packing her My Little Pony underwear and her Scooby Doo toothbrush.

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