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seaturtle50 -> RE: Falling in love... (2/15/2006 9:35:45 PM)
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i have met someone and know that w/We are falling in love with e/Each other. it is really hard because She does not know if this is a good thing and i feel that it is wonderful to connect and be close and still respect Her as a true slave should.
i would love to hear opinions on whether this should happen or if it can happen and whether or not it can work or if i am just kidding myself.
i Love this Mistress/Woman and She has told me that She loves me. She feels out of control and has started to work it back to much more formal and sterile between u/Us and i wondered also what the process might look like from those who have been through it.
Hi Tim, Well first of all, congrats. Many and perhaps most of U/us seek what Y/you may have found!
In my personal experience (to date i have only "fallen in love two times in my life) confusion and a sense of "out of control" are components of the "falling in love" feeling.
i place that in italics as i have found that people tend to identify many different feelings with that of falling in love, and i have also found that there are different "levels" of passion in that falling.
i can also remember feeling like i was the "strongest man in the world" and the "weakest man in the world" at the exact same time. Very strange feelings indeed.
The first time i began to "fall" i tried to stop it within myself, as it took me rather by surprise, and i intellectually wanted other things for myself. what amazement i experienced as my very self mocked me. It laughed right out loud at me ;-)
i learned that a true "falling in love" can no more be stopped while in progress than it can be created when one wishes for it. It is a most natural occurrence. It seems to happen "in spite of oneself."
Today, i also understand that falling in love itself is not "good enough" in itself. i am not going to get into my thinking on the psychological aspects at work, but rather will jump to the chase. There comes a time when the process requires a conscious decision. Where two people each at the same time, select and chose the other to "stand in love" with. meaning ... chose that person to do the "work" of loving with. <please note the apparent importance of dreaded timing in this flow of things.> Technically speaking, so much of the (significant) pairing of two loves is about timing.
If she is working it back to more "sterile," between the two of Y/you, i personally do not see how that impacts or takes away from the issue of loving O/one another at all. Since, your ultimate desire is to serve Her, so shall it be.
Personally i seek this "passionate love" as i seek my Domina. i do not however require for it to be reciprocated. i understand that when i feel the feelings of passionate love for a Woman, they are my feelings. Self-contained within me, and not contingent necessarily on the reciprocation, especially in the context of a D/s, M/s relationship. That said ... i also understand that one hand cannot clap without the Other.
No matter what ... try to have fun and enjoy the moment. It is not so much about getting the butterfly’s to go away ... but rather to get them to fly in formation. [:)]
st50
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