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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 11:54:28 AM

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Jali - many thanks. I'm going to print it out and keep it! It's been years since I've read it.

edited to fix Jali's name

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 1:37:12 PM

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I find that meditation is good for my soul. Though I wish that I had the discpline to do it everyday. I tend to only do it when i am already frazzled.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 1:40:54 PM

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I find it easier to meditate if I follow a ritual before hand..smudging really helps to "center" me. I also smudge before playing. It really helps me focus.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 3:23:41 PM

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Stress is really hard on my body, i get colds, i get really irritable, i get migranes, i get insomnia, etc, so i do all i can to stay stress free.
Now i'm sure i'm just really lucky to have this ability, but i have a saying, and i live by it.
-- No Worries --
(I'm a hippy kid at heart)
I choose not to worry about anything for longer than like 5 minutes. I am buddhist and i read once a quote that was like....
If the problem has a solution, then fix it, and if it doesnt, then nothing can be done so it is beyond you. Worrying doesn't fix anything.
I figure things will work themselves out and if actions on my part are required i do them as soon as possible and get it out of the way.
other than that.....
meditation, a warm bubble bath, writing, and strawberries and icing are the key's to my happy life.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 7:13:35 PM

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A bit like the thought behind the Serenity Prayer originally written by Reinhold Niebuhr:
The most commonly chanted lines:

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference...

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 8:28:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Masturbating. Sexuality is my energy source. Tapping into it and going through the ritual of connecting to myself and feeling that is a lovely warm touchstone that helps calm me and bring me to my center. I become very unbalanced if I don't.

yeh thats funny it works for me too! stop and my bp slowly climbs 5 - 10 points LOL. in 20 years i will have to find something else or i will be in trouble LOL

Otherwise i am very driven to go all the time sometimes skip sleeping but i am so relaxed massages really do not make me feel any more relaxed after i get them than before.

also good diet, exercize, and pretty much anything else that can capture your interest and force you to focus for long lenths of time such as self hypnosis works quite well too.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 8:56:27 PM

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I used to cycle 11 miles a day to work. I found this so therapeutic, all of my thinking was done whilst cycling.

Since emigrating, i have taken up walking, which gives me the same sense of calm. I go to the bush to do this. Nothing but me, nature, and my baby rotty, kevin. Having the dog as a early warning system for creatures i do not wish to meet, allows me to drift away, into my space. Daydreaming, or considering a issue i am facing, whatever. I return feeling on top of the world. Sometimes i do this with a friend, most of the walk is silent for us both. Neither wishing to intrude on the others space.

Dogs. Walking, playing with my two, is so relaxing. And the best, is to combine the dogs into the bush walk. Soon, the pup will be old enough to endure a day walk. I look forward to that.

Gym. I body builded for a year. This was excellent for focussing on the here and now. Total concentration, breathing, and the relaxation after a session, would last me throughout most of the day. I have yet to find the 'right' gym again since moving. But i shall.

Art. I sculpt/paint/draw. Again, total absorption for hours.

I used to write diaries. Not daily, but say twice a week. But found, that i could be too negative in my writing. When i re-read them, they tended to be full of lifes woes, and there were a few, and i didnt personally find the time writing them useful.

And i smoke pot. There are times, when my stress levels are overwhelming. One smoke and im chilled to the core. Others drink alcohol, i smoke pot. Its my glass of red.

Tried transendential meditation. Wasnt for me. Yoga, same. I find my body being active whilst i relax, such as in the walking, allows my mind to stay still.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 11:25:06 PM

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Reiki--- giving or recieving. Opening yourself to the healing and energy for your greater good is a powerful thing. I also try to remeber that I only have to do and live and be just for today.

Just for today I will not worry,
Just for today I will not be angry,
Just for today I will honestly work on myself,
Just for today I will be greatful.

It's not something I can do everyday, but taking a moment to breath deep and be calm does wonders.

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/16/2006 11:35:13 PM

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Nice post, Candles. Have you read Desiderata? i recommend it to anyone. It has its own calming effect on me. A good friend sent this to me years ago and i loved it.

http://marilee.us/desiderata.html

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RE: Calming Behaviors - 2/17/2006 12:20:46 AM

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Losing myself in communications with someone where we both talk and listen. As I experience the other person in every way, I am calmed and changed for the better. There is a reason we feel better when we do ordinary things with someone instead of alone.

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