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RE: is it worth it - 7/4/2009 3:39:06 PM

vasha

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Is it that you don't care whether your Mistress is happy or not, or that it's difficult physically/mentally to quit?

If it's the former, then M/s isn't for you.

If it's the latter, go to her and explain that quitting is tough for you. Since you quitting is her idea, she should be willing to work with you to help you.

This man is wise. heed carefully his words.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/4/2009 3:46:36 PM

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If you find yourself unable to quit readily, perhaps you should talk to Her about possibly looking into getting an electronic cigarette? If the nicotene is your addiction and not just the action and habit of lighting up and flicking the ash and such, I've heard they help a LOT, and they get rid of most of the harmful chemicals and toxins like tar and such that come with traditional cigarettes.

I would not be willing to incur my Dom's wrath over something like quitting, especially because she's probably asking you for the sake of your health as well as her own and those you spend time with.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 6:08:48 AM

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my Mistress is stoping smokeing so i have to do the same she told me if i go buy pack of smokes i am going to get punished what do you think is it worth geting punished ?

Ok, your question was * Is it worth getting punished?*. That's something only you can answer, frankly.

I have chosen to do things which I know will incur a penalty because, at the time, it was *worth it*. I wouldn't have been interested in whether anyone ELSE thought it was worth it. My situation , my choice.

If *I* wanted to give up smoking my Owner would make it so that the cost wasn't worth the benefit, over time. He'd HELP me do what I wanted to do.

If HE gave up smoking and wanted ME to also, because of the way WE operate , he'd do it in a way that would have me wanting to also. He has the ability and knowledge to have me right by his side.

At root, he woudn't expect ME to want what HE wants ..JUST because HE wants it. So it would progress from there.

If EITHER of us wanted to quit, NEITHER of us would do anything to hinder that or make it harder than necessary.

There's ways and ways.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 6:16:33 AM

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To me, if you are asking this question of strangers -- you really should ASK HER. Because it sounds like you are struggling and you are trying to rationalize if punishment is worth disobeying. I would simply take the question to her and ask. Maybe together you can figure out what you are trying for -- Is your buying a pack of cigarettes to gain attention from her, feed a craving, to get punished etc etc etc. Maybe together you two can figure it out.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 7:51:21 AM

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First of all, you are owned. What does ownership mean to you?
Obviously not what ownership means to many folk. Owners, if they are "true owners" want and take responsibility for the submissive's overall person, mine does and many Dom's in the forums do as I see what they write.

Your health is important to your owner from what you write, if they weren't, then the owner would not ask you to stop smoking as well.

Defiantly disobeying is not in the heart, soul and spirit of a submissive. Punishment is one outcome, releasing is another.
Now ask yourself, is it worth it?

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 12:20:39 PM

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Personally it's not the punishment I would be thinking about but the betrayal. She has given you an order ... you want to break it ... you are breaking your word to her that you will not smoke .... thats the issue ... not if you will get spanked or caned.

If you have a problem with being made to give up smoking when you do not wish to ... then man up and talk to her about it.

If Sir asked me to give up smoking and I didn't want to .. we would be talking ... I wouldn't be online looking for people to back me up with it being ok to risk punishment and lie to my Dominant.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 4:35:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: noname123456

do you think is it worth geting punished ?

I can't say whether or not it is worth it for you. However, the question itself raises a warning flag to me.

I regard a D/s relationship as a committment by me to follow my Owner's instructions. Sometimes I fail; we talk about it and she may chose to discipline me to help reinforce the lesson. But my willingness to accept her discipline does not excuse my conduct.

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RE: is it worth it - 7/5/2009 7:32:07 PM

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she said "If you buy a pack you will be punished " then she give the look so if i did buy a pack i would not be disobeying she didnt say dont or no just what would happen if i did

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RE: is it worth it - 7/6/2009 1:43:54 PM

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I would suggest stop smoking and don't think about it anymore...best thing for you... if you want punishment anyway then ask for it...

I would have stopped smoking long before i did of my own back if my Husband would have told me to stop that nasty rediculous expensive habit earlier...i am weak like that, use her strenght to get you through, she gave you an order that's what you want innit?

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RE: is it worth it - 7/6/2009 6:27:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: noname123456

my Mistress is stoping smokeing so i have to do the same she told me if i go buy pack of smokes i am going to get punished what do you think is it worth geting punished ?

After hearing a question like that, I would say you need to re-evaluate the relationship. Because is is not about the cigarettes, it is about your respect for your partner

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