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Communication is KEY~ - 7/3/2009 8:47:58 PM

Iamsubfkme

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Does any Mistress's have any suggestions on how I can make my intentions and what I'm looking for very clear and upfront when meeting my potential Mistress?

What kind of methods helped make communication between you and your Subs clearest?

I understand some Mistress can be rather sadistic and ect.. but in the end even the cruelest are still ladies inside, and I know women like to be heard. So, is that one of those times to try and show I see her viewpoint, or is that kind of conversation a "stamp my foot down, and talk about ME" moment?

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/4/2009 5:11:52 AM

MsFlutter

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I've never been a foot-stomper. I don't even really like to raise my voice.

Until/unless I tell you to do otherwise, look me in the eye and show me you are invested in the conversation and engaged in the possibility. Be 50% of the effort. Apply all of the foundational components you call upon as a regular everyday human male. Be well-groomed, polite, attentive, intelligent, funny, accommodating, treat waitstaff and animals well. Be as alpha as you like - but do it with style and grace. If you profile as a 'doormat', believe you are worthless, bring nothing to the table and flourish only at the hand of a domineering, self-absorbed female, I would have no interest.

if the male interests me, I'm more inclined to have interest in the submissive. If you are given the chance to serve (however that is defined), you dont have to guess at what to do next or how to make me happy - I would simply tell you.

ETA: I got around to reading your profile. It's rather narrow but that isnt really a surprise since you're 18 yrs old. A degree in Feminine Psychology - wow. I can just hear the rest of the Dominas now LOL. As a Domme, I interpret your profile thusly: here's one who is either just a kinky boy or (as he ages) a do-me sub and wants a Domme he feels he can control. Its all on his terms. He is apparently interested in a kink delivery service.

< Message edited by MsFlutter -- 7/4/2009 5:29:35 AM >

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/4/2009 6:40:05 AM

LadyPact

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I think that screen name will have most realizing what you want right up front.

Enjoy your day.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/4/2009 6:45:15 AM

subtlebutterfly

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think that screen name will have most realizing what you want right up front.

Enjoy your day.

She said it!

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/4/2009 7:20:51 AM

MsFlutter

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think that screen name will have most realizing what you want right up front.

Enjoy your day.

LOL - I've wanted to say that about several screen names lately and yes, even about this one, but you ladies took the high road and actually answered the queries. This time I follow your previous lead and you take the opposite tack!! I want a re-count !! :)

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/4/2009 7:29:37 AM

LadyPact

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LOL. Sue Me. The caffeine hasn't kicked in yet.

Here's the method I use. If the screen name is kink related, fetish related, even if it's a hard limit of Mine related (but still within TOS.... you get where I'm going with that) are all good with Me. If the handle is just screaming 'fuck me' I'm probably not going to take the question seriously.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 8:02:41 AM

SthrnCom4t

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Don't you just love it when they are so up front and make it easy for us?

MsF - well said in your first post :) Now there is no saying we didn't try! Thank you!

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 8:10:23 AM

GYPZYQUEEN

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ORIGINAL: SthrnCom4t

Don't you just love it when they are so up front and make it easy for us?

YES ..
pisspot...nope..
rimjb..nope
usemyass..nope
suffocateMewithyourGsizetitsThenQueenME nope

now if I see
pastryChefforyou
catertoYourwhims
chocolateErrandsrunforyou
fanUonaHotday

I'm in...
GQ

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:06:00 PM

LadyNTrainer

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Iamsubfkme

Does any Mistress's have any suggestions on how I can make my intentions and what I'm looking for very clear and upfront when meeting my potential Mistress?

Certainly. Pick a sexually explicit screen name so that we all know exactly how shallow your interests are and can block you, thus saving us any further hassle and annoyance.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:29:01 PM

PeonForHer

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A lot of us choose screen names that are a little on the pisspoor side, LNT, and later come to regret them . . . .

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:37:12 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Iamsubfkme

Does any ("Do any") Mistress's have any suggestions on ("as to") how I can make my intentions and what I'm looking for very clear and upfront when meeting my potential Mistress?

What kind of methods helped make communication between you and your Subs clearest?

I understand some Mistress can be rather sadistic and ect.. but in the end even the cruelest are still ladies inside, and I know women like to be heard. So, is that one of those times to try and show I see her viewpoint, or is that kind of conversation a "stamp my foot down, and talk about ME" moment?

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:40:42 PM

Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

A lot of us choose screen names that are a little on the pisspoor side, LNT, and later come to regret them . . . .

Well, you could always change your name. With those photos and your cheeky attitude, it's not as if you'd be mistaken for anyone else. Perhaps you should try TeaOnForHer. Sounds a bit more service orientated.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:47:28 PM

PeonForHer

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What are you talking about, V? I'm never cheeky. I have a regard for all femdoms that borders on the reverential. I have only to hear a woman announce that she's a femdom for me instantly to realise that everything she says or does is perfect in all ways.

Anyway, re photos - I seem to remember you promising us some new ones on your profile a while ago . . . .

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:50:22 PM

Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Anyway, re photos - I seem to remember you promising us some new ones on your profile a while ago . . . .

I lied.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 2:52:56 PM

LadyPact

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Believe it or not, one of the best screen names that I fondly remember is pizzaandbeer. I'm not a beer drinker, but I thought to Myself, "Damn. Now there is something that made Me see what this person was about." It gave Me a picture of someone laid back, comfortable with who he is, and someone who could at least enjoy a slice once in a while.

I know. I have weird criteria.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 3:00:27 PM

PeonForHer

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I know. I have weird criteria.

Indeed.

I wonder how many hits I'd get on my profile if I ditched "PeonForHer" and came back simply as "Slob"?

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 3:03:53 PM

PeonForHer

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Anyway, re photos - I seem to remember you promising us some new ones on your profile a while ago . . . .

I lied.

Well, that was very unladylike of you, then. This concerns me, V.

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/5/2009 4:32:08 PM

Politesub53

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It was a close call between Politesub and Reallysarcasticbratwithsenseofhumour

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 3:49:17 AM

BICMAN1156

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I'm looking for a NYC area Mistress that would like to nurse me while she gives me a hand-job. Are you out there?
BICMAN1156

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RE: Communication is KEY~ - 7/8/2009 4:04:40 AM

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I'm looking for a NYC area Mistress that would like to nurse me while she gives me a hand-job. Are you out there?
BICMAN1156

Perhaps you misunderstood the concept of "Mistress". A Mistress is in control and gets served.

You have your fantasy and want someone to carry it out under your orders. You are looking for a submissive.

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