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cuteeslaveboy -> How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 2:45:27 AM)

I have been searching for a dominant female for a while now and i havent had much luck. Maybe its because im young or too unexperienced ? I've tried writing a descent description of myself and what i want from this lifestyle and a couple of good clear photos but it hasnt seemed to help much. I know that male subs clearly out number dommes but could anyone give me some advice on how i can prove to a domme that im 100 % genuine and truly want to serve ?



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 3:00:46 AM)

Forget that she is dominant, and court the lady you are interested in...  If you do it right, you'll end up with a fem dominant.     
Stella didn't copyright this advice, but I felt I should give the credit where it is due.    M



DarkSteven -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 5:58:13 AM)

I'd remove that bit "can express herself and her dominance without having to be extremely dangerous and unfair."

I understand what you're trying to say, but the word "unfair" is something I never want to hear. 



daddysliloneds -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 6:13:46 AM)

honesty usually works.



LadyPact -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 6:33:07 AM)

This comes up from time to time and I'm going to zone in on it.

First of all, you can't *prove* anything by words that you type up on a screen.  The words that you write up are no more or less legitimate than what anyone else writes.  You may be sincere in your intentions, but they are the same words used by those who aren't.  Frankly, I could write up a submissive profile that would probably be better than the one I have as Myself, because it would all be make believe, and fiction is easier to write than fact.

The only way you prove anything is to do it, not just talk about it.



cuteeslaveboy -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 7:00:56 AM)

I agree LadyPact but its difficult to prove myself in any other way either then the internet because not some but all of my friends are vanilla :P I am aware that there are clubs and munches but i dont have the courage to attend them alone hehe. Hopefully i can meet some people here and make some friends who i can tag along with. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post mwaah.



LadyPact -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 7:33:08 AM)

Anytime.  Just remember.  No guts, no glory.



RedMagic1 -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 8:14:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cuteeslaveboy
I am aware that there are clubs and munches but i dont have the courage to attend them alone hehe.

To meet dominant women, there are only two things you need to be able to do.

(1) Be a gentleman.
(2) Be unafraid of meeting people in real life.

People say, there must be more to it, I've been looking for months, and no one even writes me back.  But the harsh reality is that if you do those two things, you will have an advantage over 95% of the men on this site.

Look at it this way.  You're a woman.  You're looking for a partner.  A man writes you, and says, "I like the idea of flirting with women when I am behind a computer, but I am too afraid of women, and my own sexuality, to meet someone in real life."  Would you feel flattered?  Or would you think, "Oh no, another guy who is cruising for some free interactive computer porn."

If it helps, remember that courage is nothing more than acting as though you are not afraid.  You can be freaked on the inside, as long as you don't let it affect what you do on the outside.



penitentialarts -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/4/2009 8:24:18 AM)

>I am aware that there are clubs and munches but i
>dont have the courage to attend them alone hehe.

You have to get over that. 

Everyone is nervous when they first start attending munches and such.  Just do it.

- Jesse



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 2:38:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
I'd remove that bit "can express herself and her dominance without having to be extremely dangerous and unfair."

I understand what you're trying to say, but the word "unfair" is something I never want to hear
I agree with you Steven...  Unfair is considered a four letter word when approaching or speaking with me.   I just think, there's going to be far too much explaining if you still haven't learned the world is unfair, and I at least give you fair warning.    M



PeonForHer -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 3:33:32 AM)

I, and I think possibly a lot of subs, get off on the 'unfairness' of D/s.  But it's got to be unfair in a fair way. [;)]



CatdeMedici -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 5:27:40 AM)

Oh Lord, not another midriff abs pic with a dorm room--oy oy oy--you won't stand out with those and you won't be taken as much more than a nightrider ( someone who gets online, whines to get attention and has not one serious intent when the sun comes up).
 
And at 19 you've been looking how long?  Entering BDSM and proclaiming yourself a submissive, is no different than walking into a stadium and proclaiming you are a fan--no one is going to fall at your feet, especially Dominas---I'd suggest coming in to the light of reality--interests, hobbies, honest talk about the things you are or may be interested in--WHAT YOU FEEL YOU BRING TO A DOMINANT--after all it isn't all about you now is it?
 
And don't whine--you have just started your search. If you are that desparate find a Pro.



chiaThePet -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 6:48:01 AM)


These?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDF04M3ALEs

chia* (the pet)





angeldmort -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 1:24:13 PM)

4:09 PM Now, see, I am on the other end of this. I have request after request that seem to be form letters. (Often from places too far away to be realistic, but that's a different problem.) "hi Mistress" "im male submisive looking for dominant woman to use me as male slave" "may I worship your feet?"
These men often have mostly empty profiles, respond to a reply with another form letter-like response, and as far as I can tell, the only thing they know about me is that I'm female and list myself as Dominant. Hmmm… so.. They can look at a picture and want my attention, but won't devote the extra 2 minutes to read my whole profile or even remember who they are writing in order to tailor the email to what they see in the picture.  
I can't say that I have enough experience in the lifestyle to promise what anyone else wants, but no one is going to stand out by sending spam. (Not saying that's what you're doing - just suggesting that you make sure your emails don't look generic enough to be spam.) Random, mass emailings are just a little insulting, in my opinion. Everyone wants to feel special, and if you can send that same email to 25 other people, then I won't feel special when I get it.   
If you want to stand out, be personal. Show that you're actually interested in the Domme herself, that you've made more than a minimal effort before you contact her. Be interested, and that is interesting.   



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: How do i stand out from the crowd ? (7/6/2009 11:36:34 PM)

I don't know about unfair in a fair way Peon...   For all I know (to some boys), I am extremely fair; I certainly have been incompatible because of being so called "too nice."    I would say that I'm fairly unfair in relationships though.     M



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