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Obedience training - 7/4/2009 2:58:46 PM

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I want to ask what is the best way to teach the slave to be extremely Obedient. How you can deeper and expand the slave obedience to her Mistress ? Chastity ,exercise, or please share any other good methods for making the sub as obedient to her Mistress as possible. Thank you for your feedbacks Sub and Princess

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RE: Obedience training - 7/4/2009 8:38:33 PM

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I may be missing something, but it seems to me that when a slave is yours, they are eager to be obedient and WANT to be pleasing. Unless, of course, you are speaking of a brat, who sometimes likes to be mouthy or defiant? However, if you are simply talking about methods of ensuring obedience in the beginning of service, I think many of your ideas are sound. I know that some also feel it is necessary to completely break a slave when they begin....this tends to have a very deep psychological impact, and generally provides the intense obedience you seem to be looking for.
I hope my rambling, helped some. :)

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RE: Obedience training - 7/5/2009 4:05:44 AM

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There has to be a want and a desire to obey--otherwise you are bringing a mule to the water trough and IMHO that battle of wills I have no interest in.

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RE: Obedience training - 7/5/2009 8:16:47 AM

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For what the submissive can do towards this objective, this book might help:

Slavecraft by Guy Baldwin

http://www.amazon.com/SlaveCraft-Roadmaps-Erotic-Servitude-Principles-Skills/dp/1881943143/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1246806886&sr=1-1

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RE: Obedience training - 7/5/2009 8:36:29 AM

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punishment, objectification and reward.

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RE: Obedience training - 7/5/2009 8:40:15 AM

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Submissives strive to please out of their own ambition to please. It's not as much about MAKING them obey, as it is motivating them to obey, and/or inspiring their submission.

Part of that motivation/inspiration is teaching mindfulness and focus.

Daily ritual, customized to that particular submissive is very helpful. This can include mantras, which may or may not be tied into his/her sexuality.

Anal training is very psychological, but I wouldn't advise that unless you make sure you are familar with health risks.

Most important is understanding a particular submissive's hot buttons, and using them to your advantage. Also important is the submissive's willingness to participate and not just get cranky or whiny if he/she isn't getting what she wants instantly.

Oftentimes, part of training is teaching the submissive to communicate wants, needs and desires appropriately. Of course, as the Dominant, you need to be able to do this as well, leading by example. Additionally, you have to not be triggered by your submissive, so you can give constructive guidance as your influence into the interaction.

My 2 cents,

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RE: Obedience training - 7/5/2009 8:48:43 AM

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Thanks all for your feedbacks. SthrnCom4t i would like to ask you if you can tell me the health risks of anal play which you mentioned. Last time i was with my Princess she tried milking of my prostate on me it was very humilliating and it expanded my submission to her even more. Can you please tell me about health risks ? thank you very much again. sub and Princess

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