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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/6/2009 10:24:42 PM

justme1980

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ORIGINAL: destinywillbe

i was in a profound relationship with someone and we are now over, it was a very painful separation because as many of you know these types of relationships are like no other and HE knew and controlled me the way no one ever has...i was addicted.

The separation anxiety and fear is over and i am fine.

However i do miss him terribly even though he threw me away....

Do i beg HIM to take me back or begin a fresh start?

If you had a slave that you treasured for years and you released her would you want her to beg or move on?

i do apoligize in advance if this is not approprite discussion.

If He released you then that is it, accept it and move on

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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/7/2009 5:06:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: destinywillbe
i was in a profound relationship with someone and we are now over, it was a very painful separation because as many of you know these types of relationships are like no other and HE knew and controlled me the way no one ever has...

I beg to differ with the highlighted part, destinywillbe. "These types of relationships" are not significantly different than any other type. Lots of people make the mistake of thinking they are. They're no better, no worse, no more complex. People are people no matter the relationship and all that jazz.

Now, that said: No matter the relationship dynamic, begging to get back together doesn't seem to be the sensible thing to do. If he threw you away like trash, as you say, why would you even want to get back together? As someone who was with an ex-husband for many years and was often treated as you've been, take it from me that getting out and moving on has been the best thing I've ever done. Sometimes it's hard and you want to run back to the "security" of what you had but (in my case at least), it was so not the right thing to do.

Be strong and push forward. I can (almost) guarantee it'll be worth it. Sorry for your pain...............luci

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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/7/2009 9:04:11 AM

RealGirl4One

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The separation anxiety and fear is over and i am fine.

If the addiction is over then why would you BEG him to take you back. You are not doing a good job of convincing me OR YOURSELF that you are over him and you sound exactly like that which you say you are not. You are anxious and fearful and addicted and you want him back.

Being a submissive has nothing to do with being a doormat.

It sounds to me like you are in denial and indeed are addicted to whatever he supplied for you.

I do not say that lightly, I have been where you are so I am not trying to be unkind.

You have to keep your own personal welfare as the ultimate priority and begging to be taken back by someone who treated you badly will only result in more harm.

Embrace the pain, don't hide from it, feel it, beat it into submission, REALIZE your innate goodness and quality of character and walk away. Some day you will look back with pride. Until then, keep yourself safe from harm and those who would use you.

< Message edited by RealGirl4One -- 7/7/2009 9:10:51 AM >

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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/7/2009 9:32:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: destinywillbe

i was in a profound relationship with someone and we are now over, it was a very painful separation because as many of you know these types of relationships are like no other and HE knew and controlled me the way no one ever has...i was addicted.

The separation anxiety and fear is over and i am fine.

However i do miss him terribly even though he threw me away....

Do i beg HIM to take me back or begin a fresh start?

If you had a slave that you treasured for years and you released her would you want her to beg or move on?

i do apoligize in advance if this is not approprite discussion.

i'm not a Master (am a slave) but this is so close to my thread 'asking for a collar back'....
i got very very good advice here and by private mail....
so far I haven't asked and it's working out fine despite missing him...
there was and still is a reason why you are not together anymore.

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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/7/2009 1:12:39 PM

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It ended for a reason. If you haven't dealt with the issues that caused it to end, then why go back into the same nonworking relationship except this time with something extra; hurt, distrust and anger from the break up? A recipe for disaster.

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RE: Beggin to be taken back - 7/7/2009 1:25:43 PM

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profound relationship

Ahh, another anonymous caller... just what I needed... is it a man? a woman? a Ford Edsel? a cat? one way traffic will never cease.

The entire world is not as skeptical as you are.

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RE: Begging to be taken back - 7/7/2009 9:06:58 PM

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