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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/17/2006 2:41:49 PM

HoosierScorpio

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As for me I enjoy talking over the phone and like to hear their voice. I also use a e mail but my typing skills is not the best so verbal communication it better for me so I can set back and talk away so I can get to know them that way. I know there are some who want to call so they can talk dirty on the phone but for me allow me to focus on that person. I am not like allot of guys but that is who I am. When you type some times you can not judge how they are doing but I do understand your desire to just use e mail.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/17/2006 5:58:08 PM

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Well, there are two real questions here: a) does the fact I don't seem to be as into 'extreme' submission as the majority of people here mean I shouldn't be here at all...? and b) the question I asked before but new views are sought - how much time would you be willing to allow someone who is uncertain and new to 'get used' to things?

Going back to Penelope's original post, we have all kinds and all levels of expertise and depth of desire and experience. Ergo, you definitely belong here.

Further, I can't countenance any hard and fast rules about 'time'. As a friend of mine used to say, "Things take what they take." In other words, it depends on who you're involved with, the chemistry, and what your plans are.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/18/2006 8:58:29 AM

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The only RIGHT way is what feels right to you. Everyone has their own level of comfortableness and anyone trying to drive you out of yours may be one you wish to think about before continueing with.

Take your time, enjoy the journey because this is definitely one fun journey with lots of interesting people and places along the way.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/20/2006 4:55:39 PM

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Help! so many things to reply to!

First off, I am an Irish Mist fan. I won't feel quite so worried about illusory conventions so much now. Yay! Where is the Anarchy pudding?

I am also a RavenMuse fan, in a platonic (non-poly) way because it means so much to me that here I am in this huge board and he has taken the time to listen to my ravings several times now in a way that few others have. And yes you have understood what it is I am asking, and reassured me with your reply. Greatly!

Hoosierscorpio and TallDarkAndWitty ...thank you for aiding my understanding and helping me see that for some people a voice is more intimate. I think that has highlighted a problem I'm having: in these early stages I like to 'hide' but that is an issue I'm going to need to come to terms with... okay I admit it. I'm shy. I like to hide behind words. I get stage fright on the phone. I think the people I will get on best with are going to be people who also like to express themselves in writing.

I cab see I'm going to be a fussy sub.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/20/2006 5:08:15 PM

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I cab see I'm going to be a fussy sub

HOORAY for fussiness

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/20/2006 5:40:29 PM

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I think I might pull my profile and just haunt these boards, y'know.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/20/2006 6:08:20 PM

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Don’t go, you should not be upset because you have not yet found someone you fit with, I think it is perhaps because you are looking to build a relationship slowly where as I find most of the people I meet online are far more interested in some instant gratification before they move on to wanting to consider things in the longer term. I don’t think looking for someone who understands you and moves at a pace you are comfortable with is being fussy, I think it is being sensible.

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/20/2006 6:11:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger

Don’t go, you should not be upset because you have not yet found someone you fit with, I think it is perhaps because you are looking to build a relationship slowly where as I find most of the people I meet online are far more interested in some instant gratification before they move on to wanting to consider things in the longer term. I don’t think looking for someone who understands you and moves at a pace you are comfortable with is being fussy, I think it is being sensible.

Well I'll be...no truer words were ever spoken

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RE: I don't know if I'm expecting too much - 2/21/2006 2:08:49 AM

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Penny,

Most of my time here is spent on the boards. Does it mean I am not looking? Nope it means I accept the fact that the search is more likely to be a marathon than a sprint. I'm in no rush, the girl I am looking for will turn up sooner or later. In the meantime I enjoy the discussions here, I learn new things, I make new friends, all the benifits of a good forum. But I won't take down my profile till I find her because for her to find me I have to still be out there for her to find.

Glad you decided to stick around petal and glad several people gave you reason to realise you DO belong here too.

Oh and BE fussy petal, be VERY fussy. You are a great lass and DESERVE a great master. He's going to be hard to find but you owe it to yourself. Find the right one and BOTH of you will have reason to be glad you where fussy.

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