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I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 3:08:23 PM

cellogrrlMK

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Hello everybody, familiar and unfamiliar...

I haven't been on the message boards since early November, when I went to Florida to spend my mother's last days on this earth with her. When I got back I found myself needing, shall we say, "instant gratification" from actually chatting rather than reading posts. I've been a denizen of a few of the chatrooms on collarme since then, and today I realized how detrimental that is to my life and what I want to do with it.

I've "met" some nice people in there actually... a couple of them I'm going to meet for lunch or dinner as my travels take me to their areas. I've also met some real idiots, trolls if you want to put it another way. I got myself too embroiled in chatroom drama. I dont need that crap, it's not real, which is the basis for the question I'd like to put out in this post. If it's been discussed to death already that's fine too, just give me links and I'll go look, I don't need any snide remarks about it being discussed to death!

Here goes:

This is particularly for longtimers, preferably those who've been involved with this lifestyle since before the internet (yeah, I'm asking alot, I know), but of course I'd love to hear from everyone.

What impact do you think the internet has made on the BDSM lifestyle in general?
Do you think it has made it more accessible to:
1. genuine people who want and need to explore feelings they didn't know had a name
2. players and swingers who are simply out for a little bit of wank time
For each of the above has this been good or bad for whatever image, shadowy or not, the letters BDSM conjure up?

Obviously this question is stemming from the experiences I have had in the chatrooms. For the record, my husband knows I have been in them and I have told him about some of the characters, sane and otherwise, I have met in there. I have not engaged in behavior inappropriate for me, it's mostly the drama and bullshit that has made me step back and say to myself, "wtF are you doing????????"

Best wishes to you all,

cello

PS... The day I went down to Florida to be with my mom I quit smoking

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 3:12:56 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK
What impact do you think the internet has made on the BDSM lifestyle in general?
Do you think it has made it more accessible to:
1. genuine people who want and need to explore feelings they didn't know had a name

Yes
{quote]
2. players and swingers who are simply out for a little bit of wank time
Yes
{quote]
For each of the above has this been good or bad for whatever image, shadowy or not, the letters BDSM conjure up?
Good overall. People like you and me eventually wise up to its pointlessness and move on. People who stay online are safely held online and caught up in all the drama of their own making (and I think we all know that a good 30-50% of the posters on collarme are wrapped up in the same sort of drama).

People are people, our culture has the same issues as others.

quote:

PS... The day I went down to Florida to be with my mom I quit smoking

Wahoo!!!!

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 3:14:58 PM

cellogrrlMK

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LA, some things won't change... so good to "see" you first!

cello

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 3:18:16 PM

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quote:

What impact do you think the internet has made on the BDSM lifestyle in general?
Do you think it has made it more accessible to:
1. genuine people who want and need to explore feelings they didn't know had a name
2. players and swingers who are simply out for a little bit of wank time

Yes and yes

quote:

For each of the above has this been good or bad for whatever image, shadowy or not, the letters BDSM conjure up?

Again...yes and yes...it has certainly been both.

and btw....welcome back!!!

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 6:51:39 PM

proudsub

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Welcome back cello, nice to see you. I came back about 2 weeks ago, just couldn't stay away.

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 8:20:10 PM

cellogrrlMK

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proud, it's AWESOME to see you again! :)

cello

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 9:08:07 PM

LaMalinche

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK

This is particularly for longtimers, preferably those who've been involved with this lifestyle since before the internet (yeah, I'm asking alot, I know), but of course I'd love to hear from everyone.

PS... The day I went down to Florida to be with my mom I quit smoking

Umm. . . let's see. . . the Queen of England sent her first email the year that I was born (1976).

So you want emails from before that? I will talk to my father and see if he can reply to you.

Where is fastlane when you need him. He is of the correct age.

Best,

LaMalinche

PS. . . Yippie on stopping smoking.

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 9:16:43 PM

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quote:

proud, it's AWESOME to see you again! :)

Thank you

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 9:20:12 PM

LaMalinche

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I just checked your profile. . .

32kb of ram

a golden time. . .

a time before windows. . . a time before mouses. . .

you could go to the moon, or play pong, there were no other choices.

No fancy operating screens. Until the late 70's. . . Then computers started to do a little more. . . balance checkbooks. . . write a book. . . and the men who went to the moon. . . well they did it with 32kb of ram. . .

Every OS sucks!

Thank you "Three Dead Trolls and a Baggie"

Best,

LaMalinche

Screw Steve Jobs

Everything since AppleDos Sucks.

Solitare runs great though

And Bill Gates is richer than Captain Kirk

I want to get online without a PhD.

Linuxs is for neerdy schmucks.

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 9:33:55 PM

cellogrrlMK

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche
Umm. . . let's see. . . the Queen of England sent her first email the year that I was born (1976).

So you want emails from before that? I will talk to my father and see if he can reply to you.

You're welcome to answer too! I'm not excluding anyone... please, do you have any opinions about it?

quote:

PS. . . Yippie on stopping smoking.

Thanks

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/16/2006 9:37:56 PM

cellogrrlMK

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

I just checked your profile. . .

<Big snip>

HUH?????

< Message edited by cellogrrlMK -- 2/16/2006 9:38:06 PM >

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 12:06:40 AM

LaMalinche

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche
Umm. . . let's see. . . the Queen of England sent her first email the year that I was born (1976).

So you want emails from before that? I will talk to my father and see if he can reply to you.

You're welcome to answer too! I'm not excluding anyone... please, do you have any opinions about it?

quote:

PS. . . Yippie on stopping smoking.

Thanks

My point. . . and like Ellen, I do have one. . . you want opinions that would come before I was born. Nope, do not have them (oh yeah, that would be because I was not born).

Best (with whatever you are looking for - there is no validation from me - I grant wishes though),

LaMalinche

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 12:10:34 AM

LaMalinche

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

I just checked your profile. . .

<Big snip>

HUH?????

I meant that I was checking your age. BTW I think the internet was around before your birth. Not to be a bitch (actually, I rather like being a bitch, but not to you personally) however I think that you might want to check on the "creation of what we refer to as the internet" dates.

Sleep. . . I need it.

Best,

LaMalinche

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 3:06:01 AM

Quivver

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Welcome Back Cello

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 5:57:03 AM

fastlane

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quote:

Umm. . . let's see. . . the Queen of England sent her first email the year that I was born (1976).

So you want emails from before that? I will talk to my father and see if he can reply to you.

Where is fastlane when you need him. He is of the correct age.

Welcome back Cello!
Damn, just when I was beginning to feel young again someone asks me about the history of the internet. Well, along with age comes memory degredation and quite frankly I don't remember when the internet, e-mails and cyber everything became the mainstream of communication by our culture. I think I pulled up my first porn site in the 80's and realized just how wonderful the internet could be, when I was just reaching puberty

Fastlane has fingers crossed!

What I think the internet enables in our lifestyle for the younger generation, is the ability to learn more about it in a week than many of us could learn in a year, when we began to realize our interest, many years ago. I think this is a wonderful opportunity and by and large has only helped the BDSM community grow in size as well as stature.

Just an old Fart's .02

Kevin

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 8:29:49 AM

cellogrrlMK

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

I meant that I was checking your age. BTW I think the internet was around before your birth. Not to be a bitch (actually, I rather like being a bitch, but not to you personally) however I think that you might want to check on the "creation of what we refer to as the internet" dates.

I think you missed the point of my post.... maybe you only read the questions I asked and not the rest of what I wrote. <shrug> Whatever.

quote:

Sleep. . . I need it.

I hope you got it and are a little less bitchy today

To everyone else, thanks for your warm welcomes back, I really do appreciate them!

cello

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 8:31:46 AM

cellogrrlMK

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ORIGINAL: Quivver

Welcome Back Cello

Thanks Quivver, great to see you again!

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 8:34:30 AM

cellogrrlMK

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

Welcome back Cello!
Damn, just when I was beginning to feel young again someone asks me about the history of the internet. Well, along with age comes memory degredation and quite frankly I don't remember when the internet, e-mails and cyber everything became the mainstream of communication by our culture. I think I pulled up my first porn site in the 80's and realized just how wonderful the internet could be, when I was just reaching puberty Fastlane has fingers crossed!

What I think the internet enables in our lifestyle for the younger generation, is the ability to learn more about it in a week than many of us could learn in a year, when we began to realize our interest, many years ago. I think this is a wonderful opportunity and by and large has only helped the BDSM community grow in size as well as stature.

Just an old Fart's .02

Fastlane, thanks. I don't think you're an old fart

, and I appreciate your insight. I came to the internet a bit later than many folks, so perhaps I didn't have my dates right (although I don't remember listing any)

.

Anyway, thanks again, and great to see you again!

cello

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 10:06:18 AM

LaMalinche

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK

This is particularly for longtimers, preferably those who've been involved with this lifestyle since before the internet (yeah, I'm asking alot, I know), but of course I'd love to hear from everyone.

What impact do you think the internet has made on the BDSM lifestyle in general?
Do you think it has made it more accessible to:
1. genuine people who want and need to explore feelings they didn't know had a name
2. players and swingers who are simply out for a little bit of wank time
For each of the above has this been good or bad for whatever image, shadowy or not, the letters BDSM conjure up?

Best wishes to you all,

cello

PS... The day I went down to Florida to be with my mom I quit smoking

Hmmmm. . . a serious answer. Damn I hate those.

I think the effect of the internet on BDSM has been the same as it ha been on other forms of communication. To create more global communitites instead of just local ones. Information is more accessible to individuals.

I do not think that it has increased the number of whankers and wannabees, merely made their existance more obvious. I not only know of local wannabees now, I can know about ones in Chicago or in Calcutta.

Best,

LaMalinche

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RE: I'm back... I think - 2/17/2006 10:13:55 AM

LaMalinche

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK

quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Welcome back Cello!
Damn, just when I was beginning to feel young again someone asks me about the history of the internet. Well, along with age comes memory degredation and quite frankly I don't remember when the internet, e-mails and cyber everything became the mainstream of communication by our culture. I think I pulled up my first porn site in the 80's and realized just how wonderful the internet could be, when I was just reaching puberty Fastlane has fingers crossed!

What I think the internet enables in our lifestyle for the younger generation, is the ability to learn more about it in a week than many of us could learn in a year, when we began to realize our interest, many years ago. I think this is a wonderful opportunity and by and large has only helped the BDSM community grow in size as well as stature.

Just an old Fart's .02

Fastlane, thanks. I don't think you're an old fart , and I appreciate your insight. I came to the internet a bit later than many folks, so perhaps I didn't have my dates right (although I don't remember listing any) .

Anyway, thanks again, and great to see you again!

cello

I think that you are an "old fart" fastlane. I don't believe that you ever left puberty either.

Plus, everyone knows that the internet was created so that American Military could make sure to have access to pornography in the event of a nuclear attack. The internet is really an outstanding pornography deleivery vehicle.

Best,

LaMalinche

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