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Deepone -> Profile city (8/22/2004 6:03:07 PM)

Many people do not wish to list their hometown in their profile. Perhaps a hint such as northern, southern or "near Saint Louis" would cut down on the tons of useless emails from people who live too far away. Meeting a person from 400 miles away is out of the question for most of us. If your looking to relocate maybe "will relocate " is a good choice for an addy. Anybody else have an opinion on this ? Deepone



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 6:34:52 PM)

Most of the time, people who don't put a geographic location down are usually just looking for online fun.

I learned to treat that as one of many "filters" when looking at profiles. No location, no contact.

Yours,
Taggard



jillwfsub4blkdom -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 7:12:22 PM)

i think You can always list it in Your profile whether You want someone local or within a certain distance. Relocation is also a selection on Your profile under interests.



Laura -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 7:45:09 PM)

I live in a small town. It would be easy for any dork to find out my name online as I have been writing on the web a long time. Thus having my name and address any dork could pop up on my doorstep. I don't especially want that. I had a stalker once and it took a lot of effort and gumption to get rid of him, with help from friends too. I don't want a round two.



Laura -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 7:49:02 PM)

That wasn't in reply to you Taggard. I'm having a busy day and clicked the wrong frame. Too many discussion boards, my circuits are fried.



Sundew02 -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 8:05:21 PM)

My thoughts are that if you are comfortable letting the world see what city you live in, go for it. If for example you live in or near NY, thats a easy choice. But living in the rednecked midwest, I am not going to put up for any joeblowtheragman to have the city I live in. I myself enjoy the emails I receive and have continued to communicate with a few of the sub/slave males that cannot relocate. But if you read my profile, I put must be able to relocate to me in it. With the insurgence of the internet invading our private life I am going to retain as much privacy as possible. Sundew



WayHome -> RE: Profile city (8/22/2004 8:32:50 PM)

Yeah, the size of your city does make a difference. I put a lot of information out there, but there is a limit to how much personal information I want to have searchable. that's the sort of info I can give out on an individual basis. Of course for me "Florida" is pretty much good enough because only the panhandle is too far away to drive on a weekend and most Floridians don't live there anyway.



Darkfox -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 12:16:02 AM)

personally I don't want everyone who can see my profile to know what city or town I live in unless I trust them and tell them myself



TahoeSadist -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 7:43:36 AM)

It's very understandable that people for various reasons do not feel comfortable putting their city in a profile. Years ago I wouldn't have because of the possible problems it could have caused with my work. Though I am of the thought that perhaps an idea of what part of a state you're in could help. After all, saying "California", or "Texas" doesn't narrow it down much, while "Northern CA, or East Texas, would at least give an idea of where a person is.



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 7:53:58 AM)

I suppose it all depends on what you are looking for. I am very "out" about who and what I am, and I certainly wouldn't be interested in someone who was worried about people knowing that she was into BDSM. (Walking around in a collar, being led by a leash down the toothpaste aisle at 2am might give people a hint. *smile)

I understand the worry about saftey for a woman, but I know there are those who are quite open and don't have any issues at all, so I am not completely convinced.

Yours,
Taggard



perverseangelic -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 7:55:20 AM)

I post "Northern California" 'cause most people have no idea where Davis is and to put "Sacramento" (the nearest big-ish city) is too misleading for me. With "Northern" people get a vauge idea and can ask me to describe -where- in the north.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 8:33:44 PM)

quote:

Yeah, the size of your city does make a difference.


There are so many kinky people in Montreal... I guess I don't have to worry.

However, on the question of relocation, I think it would be useful to have more fields in the profiles, and make those fields searchable.

E.g.:
- What are you looking for: Friends, Play partners, A relationship
- Are you relocatable?

Etc...

I know forms sometimes can reduce things, but when used in moderation and with a good choice of answers, they can be useful in getting some information across.

Just a thought...

-LA



temptation -> RE: Profile city (8/23/2004 9:04:17 PM)

I put "heaven" as my location here, simply because I'm not seeking to meet people from here for any reason at all.

I wish I could have left it unspecified in my profile also...



NightDaughter -> RE: Profile city (8/24/2004 7:41:24 AM)

Well for myself I've put all of the info, but then again Toronto is a large city with over 3 million people in it.



dixiedumpling -> RE: Profile city (8/24/2004 9:04:28 AM)

WayHome,
So, who lives in the panhandle of Florida? Alabamians? [:)]

I think it's a leap of faith to put your exact location. Went out to eat last night with an out of towner. She was asking about population of some places in Mississippi. Got out the map. Most of the towns that I think of as large are in the 40,000 population area. Not large by most standards. I don't have my town, but I have an area listed. Where I live (and this is typical of the south), people know everyone. And are related to most of them. You try to act inconspicious. Keep as much 'secret' as possible. Everything is cussed and discussed endlessly. "Dr. Whosits left his wife." That's fodder for a year's worth of talk. What would they think if they knew for sure what I like. Like many here, I prefer to keep some of my life secret.

Collar Me (and other sites similar to this) are great for people who live in small towns and think they are the only one who would ever want such "deviant" things done to them. At least we can talk about it, if we never get to live it.



afmvdp -> RE: Profile city (8/24/2004 11:23:26 AM)

Like Taggard, for me it sort of just gives me an idea of what to expect from the person if they aren't wanting to release their location it normally means they have something to hide or that they aren't focused as much on meeting someone in real life as they are online. Just doesn't match up to what I'm looking for.



WayHome -> RE: Profile city (8/24/2004 5:15:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dixiedumpling
WayHome,
So, who lives in the panhandle of Florida? Alabamians? [:)]


Hey, that's discrimination! There are Georgians there too. ;-)

In all seriousness, the population density is a lot higher in the penninsula so when someone is from Florida, it's the first guess. The panhandle is still part of the traditional "south" It's bible belt. Below that, you are no longer in "the south" except for in certain rural pockets. If your not sure, ask for "sweet tea" in a restaurant. If they don't have it, then you are no longer in "the south".



cheeba0228 -> RE: Profile city (8/24/2004 7:18:22 PM)

I think in general if you live near a large city Detroit for example you can say Detroit even if you are from a burb there, People wont know the burb but they will recognize a large city i dont think it will cause problems or at least hasnt for me yet. As a precaution meeting people at your location/house is never advisable the first few times.



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