SimplyMichael
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ORIGINAL: pleasuredancer Sometimes, when I read threads like this, I feel like a wind-up doll with fun little buttons to play with-- an object to see what happens when each little pink bit is poked and prodded. Okay-- so does the dom in question want to learn a skill, or for you to learn a new trick, or does he want to enhance your pleasure? The more you think you 'fail' at this nifty little trick, the less able you will be to learn it. If, though, what he really wants is to enhance your pleasure, then you are inhibiting his goal by stressing about this. I don't squirt-- and I have mixed feelings about it. First of all, if I found much more pleasure in some of my sexual moments, I may not come out on the other side. Mind-blowing is about as good as you can get. If my sex got any better... well, my heart is in good shape, but still, it is hard to believe that it can get better. And then there is the bit of mess. Sex is messy, sure, but I can live without adding more. Sure, I am curious, but it will happen if it happens, and not if it is a goal. You are young-- if you like sex, you are much farther along than I was at your age. Enjoy what you have, relax and take it slow. Sure, learn from these people who have more knowledge, but there is much, much more to sex than squirting. Even those of us who are cough deprived of squirting manage to find a great deal of joy in the lovely bump and grind. I don't always agree with what you write but this is the sort of stuff that should go in a book. And as someone who has made lovers squirt, I rejoice in it but it can be a HUGE mess. And life and sex is about enjoying the ride, not punching a ticket to show you passed some imaginary goal. I have had great sex where I never came and horrible sex where I came a lot. Great sex is about having fun with someone who you greatly enjoy.
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