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Jasmyn -> RE: Gynarchy and Female Supremacy (2/17/2006 3:37:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MysticalPhoenix - (Pheonix, this post is not directed at you, just a general statement)
Female Supremacy is an accepted part of the bdsm spectrum
I don't believe it is that accepted at all. Whenever this topic is raised nothing about 'fem supremacy' as a 'kink' is ever actually discussed; rather men who believe in it are told they are moronic to do so (referencing general comments, not anyone's comment on this thread in particular) and a woman who believes in it is told she is delusional (again referencing general comments and sentiments bandied about in the past).
This reluctance to give ‘gender hierarchical’ relationships the kudos they deserve as unique D/s practices with unique dynamics not present in other D/s relationships is oppressive to those who follow 'gender heirarchical' practices.
Perhaps it is the 'supermacy' label that irks people so ... but it does frustrate me that as apparently self professed openminded souls pursuing our kinks...people can't see past the label. Much like 'rape' or it's lesser agressive term 'ravishment' fantasies once caused much consternation for those who did not understand how such a thing could work in a consensual relationship/scene.
Because we, society, etc, do ascribe to ‘genders’ all styles of domination will be variants of male or female domination and depending on the style of d/s employed, there will be less importance placed on one gender having superiority over the other that gender domination requires.
A couple may readily employ traditional fetish and other elements of ‘female/male domination’ in scene but do not ascribe to ‘female or male superiority’ as a concept, thus the dominant being ’gender superior’ and the submissive being ‘gender inferior’ states do not need to exist outside of a scene for the ‘dominant/submissive’ relationship to exist.
Whereas a couple who ascribes to ‘female or male superiority’ may or may not employ any traditional fetish or other elements of ‘female/male domination’ to a scene but the ‘gender superior’ and ‘gender inferior’ states never change from one moment to the next, if they did the relationship would fail to exist as a ‘gender hierarchy’.
Given there is no forum for followers of female supremacy but there is for followers of male supremacy by the way of Gorean boards, then Ask a Mistress is the very next best thing, infact the only thing available to them, and I'm asking, nay I'm pleading, tolerance and understanding is required here, take an interest, find out why a fem supreme sub feels the way he does rather than ruling it out as something unrealistic.
Something from a recent contact:
Wow, I really do think you must be one of the only dominant women who has grasped, what I believe, to be superior female domination. Stunning and with words that strike a cord deep within what I am seeking, a goddess to be owned by, love, worship and care for....one to dream about yet one who will inspire me too helping me flourish. It never occured to me until I read your ad the right dominant female who is able to understand my deepest, darkest secrets, desires and find them all, know my mind inside and out, surely she is the one best placed to guide me to my potential in all aspects of life. Truely amazing.
In a few words he has managed to sum up the essence of being a superb dominant (fem supreme or otherwise), one who can and does inspire ... each and every fem dom has this part to her... it is what draws the moth to the flame. Even the man who professes no interest in female supremacy will seek a fem dom who is superior to all in his eyes. He's worshipping your womanhood as much as he is worshipping you. You are his Goddess whether you want him to worship you as a Goddess or not.
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