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Bill48 -> Brand New at This (7/10/2009 11:53:05 AM)

This is an interesting an informative thread for another new person to try to understand the dynamics of these relationship(s).  I have never acted on it, but I have submissive fantasies, and enjoy it very much when a female takes an active role in lovemaking.  But I get a sense this d/s isn't about making love or being sexual.  My fantasies involve women who are strong but basically benign.  Not sure if I want to be a submissive outside of the erotic stimulation aspect of it -- perhaps I have a very one sided or unidimensional view of the process.

This is my first post, and I would be happy to hear from anyone who would want to help me understand and appreciate the process initially on-line, and if the vibe is there maybe go a little further,



mnottertail -> RE: Brand New at This (7/10/2009 11:57:01 AM)

There are many strong, attractive, iron-willed, benign women out there..............if you can think it, there is at least a handful of folks in the world newly engaging in that behavior, every second.

Ron



Lockit -> RE: Brand New at This (7/10/2009 12:00:36 PM)

Bill... first of all, welcome.  Secondly you posted this on a thread already and now start a thread with it.  You may be seeking information, but seeking someone to guide you or teach you online is something that your profile is used for.  So I thought since you posted it twice, I would explain that to you.

You can learn a lot from the message boards and do searches from this side of the site that will be helpful in many ways if there is a certain topic you wish to know about.  You can also start threads of course and it helps to have a specific topic or question that we can answer or discuss.

There are many types of d/s or bdsm relationships and some people are based in the sexual aspects, some into other things.  We are all different.  I am a sensual dominant more than sadistic, but I am not all about sensual and do have the d/s dynamic's in other area's of life and not just in the bedroom so to speak.  There are others who don't have sexual things in their bdsm.  We are very varied! lol

Have fun...



PeonForHer -> RE: Brand New at This (7/10/2009 12:40:29 PM)

When I came here a year ago I found this forum to be a great place to learn about all sorts of things - what you might like, even what you are.  People are keen to keep threads on subject here, though.  I'd say, do a search first if you have a question, but then ask - by starting a new thread if need be - if you still want to.  And by all means join in with threads that are already going.  As Lockit says: have fun. [;)]



Bill48 -> RE: Brand New at This (7/10/2009 12:46:22 PM)

Tnx for your encouragement and reply.  Being new at this, I didn't understand the "profile thing", but after finding my way to yours, I think I get it.  I will be working on my profile.

I will have to spend time perusing the Boards, and get the hang of how to secure info.  I'm a fairly quick study, so it shld go easy.

Again - tnx for the intro.

Regards, 

Bill



LadyPact -> RE: Brand New at This (7/10/2009 2:34:12 PM)

Welcome.  Of course that's first.

As the others have said, there is a vast amount of information to be found in past threads dealing with online or bedroom only submission.  I think either one is going to limit your pool of potential partners, but that's just My personal opinion.  That doesn't mean it won't happen.

The profile is probably the more appropriate place to write out what you're looking for.  While what you posted as a topic is not an overt ad, you'll come to find that the Mods frown on it if you go too far in placing your personal search on the discussion forums.

Enjoy your reading.  There's a lot of it.



TexasMaam -> RE: Brand New at This (7/12/2009 12:12:32 PM)

hmmm. delicious.  a mature newbie!

I'd like to know a little more about your 'submissive' fantasies.  What exactly do these 'strong but basically benign' women do in these fantasies of yours?

Start your exploration there, and see what develops.

TexasMaam



Bill48 -> RE: Brand New at This (7/17/2009 11:14:37 PM)

I fantasize serving a strong and powerful woman who respects and values the attn rec'd from me.  She knows what turns me on, and what frustrates me.  She rewards for devotion and teases/denies when she is not getting what she wants.

She utilizes my hair fetish as a powerful means of control over me.

She wears her hair in ways that make me be the most attentive. 

She's in tune with my fantasies, and enjoys indulging them periodically.





AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Brand New at This (7/18/2009 7:50:42 PM)

Hi.

It's pretty common for some guys to only want to submit in the bedroom. Some guys start there and might get into submission outdoors or doing 24-7 full time but some stay with only submitting in bed for whatever reason (sometimes because of job or family). Don't worry about trying to fit in and being like everybody else in bdsm. Everyone is different and likes to try it their own way. Find your own interests and find someone to play with who shares your interests then go from there. What you like now might change down the road and other interests you might develop more. Don't worry about those changes until you come to it.

Have fun.



Bill48 -> RE: Brand New at This (7/18/2009 10:32:36 PM)

Great advice --  Appreciate it.



Mistressbinature -> RE: Brand New at This (7/19/2009 1:36:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Bill48

This is an interesting an informative thread for another new person to try to understand the dynamics of these relationship(s).  I have never acted on it, but I have submissive fantasies, and enjoy it very much when a female takes an active role in lovemaking.  But I get a sense this d/s isn't about making love or being sexual.  My fantasies involve women who are strong but basically benign.  Not sure if I want to be a submissive outside of the erotic stimulation aspect of it -- perhaps I have a very one sided or unidimensional view of the process.

This is my first post, and I would be happy to hear from anyone who would want to help me understand and appreciate the process initially on-line, and if the vibe is there maybe go a little further,


As long as you, at least for now, label yourself as a bedroom submissive and only approach women who are bedroom Dominants, you should be fine



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