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LadyElizabeth -> validation.... (2/17/2006 10:48:57 AM)
Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation?

jimej6 -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 10:59:51 AM)
i think every one does in one form or another we are socal animals after all. RP

BitaTruble -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 11:18:22 AM)
quote: Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation? No. Celeste

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 11:22:55 AM)
Support and perspective? Absolutely, that's what friends and loved ones are all about. Validation? No. For many people however, the answer is yes. Just see how many posts we get on asking "I do this...does anyone else do this? I want to make sure I'm not the only one"

Evanesce -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 12:33:41 PM)
quote: Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?.. No. I've found over the years that I have very little in common with most other subs and/or slaves, and NO need to seek their advice or approval.

nonuts4thshoney -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 1:07:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? Yes all the time in both areas. However, like L.A. states that alot want validation. "I do this...does anyone else do this? I want to make sure I'm not the only one" i do want validation but i think not to do what they say is ok or acceptable but to more use it as a way to get me to think. i think it makes me reflect on my actions more than anything. i dunno, am i making any sense here? LOL!!!

slavejali -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 1:09:51 PM)
No i dont look to other subs/slaves for validation..but i know i do look to Master for it.

IrishMist -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 1:10:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? As LA stated, for support yes, but validation...absolutly not.

sweetnessforsir -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 1:42:12 PM)
yes for support. yes for validation . . . . but not blindly because they are submissive. those who become supportive friends, and this is not different than the friends made on the playground in fifth grade when boys were beginning to become less yucky, they often see things clearly that i miss. i think friends generally do validate me in come way or another. s

Littlepita -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 2:12:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali No i dont look to other subs/slaves for validation..but i know i do look to Master for it. Me too. I have some wonderful submissive friends that I get support from and I value that more then I can say. But, validation is something I want from my Sir. I know who I am and it's his opinion that matters to me.

proudsub -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 2:38:55 PM)
quote: Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? I enjoy knowing that others have the same thoughts, emotions and kinks that I do, and i enjoy talking about them. Not sure if that would be considered validation or support, but it does help keep me sane.[:)]

littleone35 -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 3:21:04 PM)
Support for sure but validation no i don't need that from others i get that within myself. Matt's littleone

nonuts4thshoney -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 4:10:36 PM)
ya know what i'm thinking, is maybe the ones that seek validation (not for the reasons that i do) is because they're newbies and may not have a Master or they just dont know what to do period.

IrishMist -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 4:22:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney ya know what i'm thinking, is maybe the ones that seek validation (not for the reasons that i do) is because they're newbies and may not have a Master or they just dont know what to do period. Yes, but would that not be more for acceptance. I would think that if someone is looking for validation...then they are looking to have someone say outright 'what you are doing is right, keep on doing it', where as support would fall more in the area of 'I understand what you are doing and it's ok to keep doing it if that is what you want"

MHOO314 -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 6:57:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? he has sought and he has known... he has sought and he has known... he found Me and now he knows... his validation is Me and what W/we have a submissive without a Dominant is nothing more than a person seeking--as a Dominant is nothing more without a submissive than a person seeking---to seek validation from other subs is IMHO like asking "does this make me look fat?"

fastlane -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 7:55:15 PM)
validation?...Hell, I'm looking for consumation...stop confusing me.

brightspot -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 9:47:11 PM)
quote: Newbie Posts: 53 Joined: 11/28/2004 Status: offline Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? Hummmm...I am starting to want to bargain for 10%[:'(]. *Brightspot

ownedgirlie -> RE: validation.... (2/17/2006 11:34:42 PM)
No. i turn to a couple very close friends to bounce thoughts and feelings off of from time to time. It helps me process.

mystiquenz -> RE: validation.... (2/18/2006 2:27:07 AM)
[&o] quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Do you look to other sub/slaves, for support and/or validation?..Is the 'need to please' others tied in with the need for validation? in reply LadyElizabeth, there appears to be a variety of opinion. Maybe it's nice to know that we can all be individuals, but when we associate with others, at a munch or a play party, there is a sense of belonging. As one other girl posted, she gets her validation from her Master, and surely that is all that matters. I know I enjoy the companionship and friendship of others, locally, but I do not seek their approval or validation. Just merely acceptance and reciprocated friendship. I am wondering why you asked this question.

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