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LadyElizabeth -> security... (2/17/2006 11:07:54 AM)
Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned?

Elegant -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 11:10:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? Yes..and no. I feel more secure in that he is responsible for me and my well-being. But, on the other hand he does have the option to release me at his will.

BitaTruble -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 11:17:07 AM)
quote: Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? No, but there is a great sense of pride that he chose me and keeps me for his own. He could get rid of me tomorrow should he desire it. I try to please him so that doesn't happen. Celeste

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 11:21:51 AM)
I echo Elegant and add that there is a security of being true to myself and giving myself the experience to become more of who I am.

littleone35 -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 3:23:18 PM)
yes it does have a sense of security being owned. The fact that i chose him to give my submission too and he accepted it as a gift (to him it is a gift)and wanted me also makes me feel very secure. Matt's littleone

Littlepita -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 8:41:01 PM)
Yes there is since he wants to own me. He takes that responsiblity so seriously I know that I will be very secure, loved and taken care. Of course anything can happen and he could let me go, but I plan to not let that happen. [:)]

brightspot -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 9:43:40 PM)
quote: Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? Yes. are you writing your thesis or what? *Brightspot

ownedgirlie -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 11:37:46 PM)
Yes i feel a sense of security that he owns me. He has the option to release me any time, however and i understand that. i also trust when he says as long as i am pleasing to him i will remain his. So....i work hard to retain that security.

tendergirl -> RE: security... (2/17/2006 11:52:25 PM)
Yes, I feel more secure now than ever before in my life. When He and i are together, i feel so safe, protected and secure, even when we are deep on the edge in play. I know He wants to preserve me for His pleasure always and i have given Him what He has searched for all His life in a submissive. Things He could never get anywhere else. This makes me valuable to Him and that makes me feel secure. We are also involved vanilla, so i have the added security of knowing that He won't want to release me due to vanilla pressures. love from tendergirl

1wildwolf -> RE: security... (2/18/2006 2:46:51 AM)
i agree with tender......being owned makes me feel far more secure because there is always someone i can rely on to help me and look after me if i need it... yes i also have a lot of responsibility to my Domme, but i think the reward is far greater than any price i have to pay

DelRey -> RE: security... (2/18/2006 5:21:16 AM)
As a Master, it is my sincere motivation to make my sub feel secure and make that a very real asset she can hold close to her heart. Security is like "TRUTH", when you have it and believe in it, it is very powerful. To me Security is one of those gifts or building blocks that assure happiness. As with other stong foundation elements of a great relationship, it does not happen overnight so it is impossible to offer security with a fling or in cyber-space. Since no one here is guilty of that (~laughing) happiness and security should be in abundance. Yeah Right...

strongnsubmissiv -> RE: security... (2/19/2006 10:34:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? There is certainly a huge sense of freedom and liberation that comes from a bdsm relationship vs a vanilla one. Being owned helps me feel secure in expressing who and what i really am, without having to modify or hide it, in order to fit into the vanilla world. Having no outlet to express my true self, and having to stifle that on a regular basis is immensely difficult to accept and live with, yet for circumstances beyond our control, many of us do.

DragonNphoenix -> RE: security... (2/19/2006 12:40:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? For me most definantly. I rely on My Dragon to help keep me healthy and to provide guidence in my daily life. 1st Girl Phoenix

Submotive -> RE: security... (2/19/2006 6:12:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? i find it so. the security i feel is in knowing He is happy and pleased and i have done what is natural to me to do - serve Him

absublutely -> RE: security... (2/19/2006 8:44:06 PM)
it might just be me, but security is vital to me in seeking a Mistress. i find that i'm most comfortable when a Woman is pleased with the way i serve Her.

devotedsub4one -> RE: security... (2/19/2006 10:13:19 PM)
I get a tremendous sense of security from being owned by my Master. There is nothing quite like feeling my Master's arms around me and hearing him say, "you are mine". If my Master didn't make me feel secure i don't think i could open up to him and trust him like i do.

destinykitty -> RE: security... (2/20/2006 5:32:18 AM)
There is a huge sense of security for me in being owned. Being owned I am secure with who I am and can express who I am better. I am secure with my master and i agree there is nothing better then feeling Masters arms wrapped aorund me saying you belong to me.

perverseangelic -> RE: security... (2/20/2006 1:00:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyElizabeth Is there a sense of security, in serving as a submissive, or in being owned? Not in being owned, in being owned by -him-. I have been in relationships where the ownership aspect put me more on edge, and required me to be someone other than who I -am- in order to be pleasing to him. This can be interesting, and I enjoy modifying myself to make my owner happy, but at the same time, it ended up coming down to the fact that I need to be with someone who loves the core person that I am, and makes changes to the superfluity (hrm. is that a word?) I get security from knowing that the person I am with loves and owns -me-. The core bit that makes me who I am, but also feels free to modify the edges to make me into more of what he wants. I -don't- feel more secure belonging to someone who feels the need to remodle my entire identity. Though it -was- an interesting excercise.

slavejali -> RE: security... (2/20/2006 1:26:25 PM)
ok, im saying this with tongue in cheek..but hey... i really dont know how much security there is in being owned i sell things i dont want or no longer need all the time....is security too much of a romantic notion for a Owner/owned scenario? Forgive me, im playing.

ownedgirlie -> RE: security... (2/20/2006 4:51:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: perverseangelic Not in being owned, in being owned by -him-. Bingo

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