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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/17/2006 11:12:52 PM

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What have you discovered in your D/s's relationship, that you never expected?, was it a good/bad?

* my endurance

* myself

* my strength (more than i knew was there)

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/17/2006 11:47:38 PM

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thanks

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/17/2006 11:57:41 PM

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That every day taken in hand is a gift.

That I can be me, absolutely.

That unconditional love for another really means unconditional.

That not everyone will dump and run at the first sign of trouble.

That pleasure and pain and love and breath coexist in every cell of me.

That my children (15 and 17) don't care what makes me happy, as long as I am. (and that they really don't want to KNOW what that really entails - as long as I'm smiling.)

That my children (still 15 and 17) would feel more comfortable expressing who they feel they are, knowing I will accept them without question, because I expect them to do the same.

And that I love knowing, feeling, and living my place in this world and at His side.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/18/2006 5:48:08 AM

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That I'm not completely empty inside. I'm capable of loving, and worthy of having that love returned.

Unfortunately, love is a double edged sword and now that I've been released, I'm learning what heartbreak is.

And still not ready to move on.

Still, I'm stronger than I ever thought possible.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/18/2006 8:32:03 AM

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I have discovered that I need to take things very slowly with new submissives, allow the relationship to grow rather than just say "This is the way it is!"

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/18/2006 4:56:16 PM

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I have discovered that although I often bottom and seem to be quite a bit of a masochist at times. I am not submissive in the slightest. I tend to control what happens outside play, and in play when I top, even often when I bottom. The power dynamics during such play don't change. I am still Dom, even if I am the one being flailed at, and I am letting them dictate how to go about the scene.

Although I am not implicitly seeking a full time D/s relationship, I've realized myself evolving that way, finding myself more and more wanting to have the title Master, and it mean something, wanting to have a submissive or slave of my own. The ones that I "have" are transitory and friends, virtually equals outside the play. Although my primary partner may end up under me later on.

I've also found that I am becoming more and more interested in learning about both Gorean and Old Guard style BDSM, perhaps incorporating some of that into my own style, although kajira, I will never be.

I've also realized I am becoming more and more confident as I realize my own sense of Dominance, able to tackle my problems on my own, being less insecure, less vulnerable. That is all falling away: the parts of my life I've wanted to shed for years. I am also finding myself even less able to handle orders than I was before.

So basically Ive been realizing I'm a SadoMasochistic Dom, not a Switch, never a submissive, and always ready to learn everything that I can.

As I lack years of experience like a lot of folks here have, I cant exactly talk about much profound changes, just those occuring in the here and now.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/18/2006 6:10:01 PM

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What have you discovered in your D/s's relationship, that you never expected?, was it a good/bad?

I discovered that I can handle a lot more responsibility than I ever thought possible. I never thought I had the capability to do some of the things that I now do on a daily basis. So..I would say that is a good thing.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/20/2006 10:32:57 AM

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What have you discovered in your D/s's relationship, that you never expected?, was it a good/bad?

As mistoferin has said, too many things to mention here, but the most significant to me is that I am learning how much strength I actually have. Since my teen years, I have always known that I had incredible strength and depth of character, but with each new challenge and experience with my Lord and alandra I am becoming more and more aware of the strength I have.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/20/2006 10:42:12 AM

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I have discovered that when I sometimes think I'm being treated a bit unfairly, it turns out to be exactly what I need.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/20/2006 5:08:29 PM

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I haven't discovered much since I'm a newbie, but it was nice to see that the sky didn't fall and the seas didn't boil when i 'came out'.

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RE: what have you discovered.... - 2/20/2006 9:21:46 PM

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What have you discovered in your D/s's relationship, that you never expected?, was it a good/bad?

That I relate to being a slave... that I am healthier now than I have ever been and that I am a pain slut... All of these are good things.

One bad thing though.... the amount of misunderstanding that surrounds this lifestyle.

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