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Born2BMasochist -> Learning (7/12/2009 6:06:00 PM)
For the last week my relationship has been a bit rocky. And as i was thinking about what was going on i was curious to something. One thing i have noticed about being a submissive is i am constantly learning on a day to day basis new things about myself and who i am and things that can be changed to make myself a better person. First off , is this concept on the right track? If so i was wondering if like subs who learn new things about themselves out of our relationships with our Doms, does a Dom go through the same as well. Is it possible for a Dom to learn things about themselves to make them a better person, or is the one you enter in the relationship with going to be the same months or even years down the road?

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Learning (7/12/2009 6:15:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Born2BMasochist For the last week my relationship has been a bit rocky. And as i was thinking about what was going on i was curious to something. One thing i have noticed about being a submissive is i am constantly learning on a day to day basis new things about myself and who i am and things that can be changed to make myself a better person. First off , is this concept on the right track? If so i was wondering if like subs who learn new things about themselves out of our relationships with our Doms, does a Dom go through the same as well. Is it possible for a Dom to learn things about themselves to make them a better person, or is the one you enter in the relationship with going to be the same months or even years down the road? I'm constantly learning and growing. That's what life is about. Why would a dom be any different from anyone else, in this respect?

SirRussellP -> RE: Learning (7/12/2009 6:33:40 PM)
As a Dom and as a person I learn and grow each day, some days more then others. Now as a Dom I believe that the only person I can really control is me, so when things aren't quite right, I first look at me and see if there is changes to be made. So I am not just learning daily but evolving.

maia09 -> RE: Learning (7/12/2009 9:00:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Born2BMasochist For the last week my relationship has been a bit rocky. And as i was thinking about what was going on i was curious to something. One thing i have noticed about being a submissive is i am constantly learning on a day to day basis new things about myself and who i am and things that can be changed to make myself a better person. First off , is this concept on the right track? If so i was wondering if like subs who learn new things about themselves out of our relationships with our Doms, does a Dom go through the same as well. Is it possible for a Dom to learn things about themselves to make them a better person, or is the one you enter in the relationship with going to be the same months or even years down the road? i learn and grow constantly - so does Chairman. Our relationship is extremely instrumental in this.

Esinn -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 9:10:21 AM)
After 3 consecutive weeks of your Dom being unable to assist you in your growth is the day you seriously considering finding a new one. I know the inquisitive desire to grow, explore and learn has very little to do with BDSM. However, in the context of BDSM this desire adds a new and exciting dynamic Disclaimer: I pulled the 3 weeks from a hat. It might be 2 weeks and 6 days or 3 weeks and 2 days. I have no data to back this claim up.

ranja -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 9:14:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Esinn After 3 consecutive weeks of your Dom being unable to assist you in your growth is the day you seriously considering finding a new one. I know the inquisitive desire to grow, explore and learn has very little to do with BDSM. However, in the context of BDSM this desire adds a new and exciting dynamic Disclaimer: I pulled the 3 weeks from a hat. It might be 2 weeks and 6 days or 3 weeks and 2 days. I have no data to back this claim up. no you are quite right... it is exactly 3 weeks

sirsholly -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 9:22:24 AM)
quote: One thing i have noticed about being a submissive is i am constantly learning on a day to day basis new things about myself and who i am and things that can be changed to make myself a better person. this is not a Dom/sub issue. We all learn, change and grow on a daily basis.

vasha -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 9:42:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly this is not a Dom/sub issue. We all learn, change and grow on a daily basis. oh no we dont. ive known many that refuse to. for some unknown reason or another. its not a good thing. imo at least. change is inevitable (sp?)... growth is not.

DesFIP -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 2:37:38 PM)
Depends. We are both in our late 50's. I doubt anything earthshaking could happen to change our inner view. Small changes will occur, but major ones are highly doubtful. By this point, we know ourselves and it is unlikely that we will suddenly discover something major that is new. I tried sea urchin last week for the first time in over 30 years. I still don't like it. The flavor is nothing to write home about and I don't like food with mushy texture.

DavanKael -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 3:08:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: vasha quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly this is not a Dom/sub issue. We all learn, change and grow on a daily basis. oh no we dont. ive known many that refuse to. for some unknown reason or another. its not a good thing. imo at least. change is inevitable (sp?)... growth is not. This is so utterly true I had to highlight it via comment. :> Davan

LovingMistress45 -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 5:28:56 PM)
The younger you are when you enter a relationship the more significant the changes. Also, the newer you are to BDSM the more significant the changes. One of the things that can cause an end to any relationship not just BDSM is when one grows and changes in ways that the other either cannot keep with or will not accept. Ideally, both parties grow and change and are able to embrace those changes in each other. Now at 46 I don't expect any huge changes in my perceptions, beliefs or values, however, I do seek growth and knowledge on a regular basis. To me the day I stop learning and growing as a person will be the day I no longer inhabit this world and even then I expect that I will still be learning.

Missokyst -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 7:21:48 PM)
eww. I feel like spitting now. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP I tried sea urchin last week for the first time in over 30 years. I still don't like it. The flavor is nothing to write home about and I don't like food with mushy texture.

Joseff -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 9:21:13 PM)
I've been with debbie for 18 years now, we're both still learning from each other.

variation30 -> RE: Learning (7/13/2009 11:04:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Born2BMasochist If so i was wondering if like subs who learn new things about themselves out of our relationships with our Doms, does a Dom go through the same as well. yes.

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