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protocol question - 7/14/2009 2:39:30 AM

slavegirl0000001

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Hello,I am the junior slave in a D/s household. I am in a primary r/ship with my Mistress who is also a slave. Together we are slaves to a Master.I am looking for some clarification on a incident that happened recently.Master and i played one night and had a really good interaction, my partner was in the room but did not play.We have training collars from him but just recently D/s had been suspended due to a unrelated incident.As part of the healing we decided to have a play interaction which was really positive.
After the play i was pretty happy and in a really nice space and he took me to the shower. In the shower it became a little too sexual for me and i had to say No to him. We have in our contract that there is to be no sexual or bdsm related activities without both slaves present.This advance left me feeling very uncomfortable especially when i had to say No again some minutes later. (No.. with a full explanatioin as to why was given)To me it showed a somewhat breach of trust and respect to my partner also.In my view as a Master he does have a duty of care of a slave in this situation, especially when the slave is in subspace.
I would like to hear other peoples views on this, and how i should approach this issue with him ?He is experienced in some areas but is new to D/s
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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 4:42:09 AM

DarkSteven

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I'm surprised that you're surprised.

The guy is new. How he could get two slavegirls to call him Master beats me. And he gave you training collars while knowing little of D/s...

The play left you in subspace, and it got him horny. So he brought you to the shower and made a pass at you. Twice. And it ruined your subspace buzz.

If he has any Master in him, he'll come to you and apologize, and work with you to get past it. But if he's just a horndog who's getting off on topping, it ain't gonna happen.

Again, he's new and unused to the responsibility of owning two girls, and I suspect owning even one. Spanking/flogging/whipping/playing with you got him hot. To any non-Master, the self-control to NOT make a pass at you is simply not there. It sounds to me like you elevated some guy to Master and are surprised that he's not fitting the role well that you selected for him. If you two are up to training him and he's receptive, go for it. But at this point, I would prepare to walk.

And I know you don't want to do this, but you really need to discuss this with your Mistress.

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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 7:59:47 AM

SmokeSerpent

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Your primary relationship is with your Mistress, and together you have agreed on a limit which he violated. You need to get her involved and have a group discussion.

As DarkSteven said, you are probably are barking up the wrong tree if you are putting someone in a position of control who cannot even control himself.

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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 8:53:32 AM

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Sounds to me like the only one being trained around there is him. Keep working at it. I'm sure that as he gets better trained his behavior will be more to your liking.

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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 9:24:17 AM

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Holy cow! Stop the presses! Leonidas and I actually agree on something.

Then again, I didn't especially say the 'master' in question couldn't use a little training.

Better than answering your question, OP, I have one for you instead. How much trust do you have in this person who doesn't seem to want to abide by the agreement he made in the first place?

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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 10:18:38 AM

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lady has asked the most important question of all. i'm with her on this, how much do you trust this guy? If your answer isn't 99.9%, i can't see it working out well when you deny your master. it almost sounds like you don't know him all that well.

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RE: protocol question - 7/14/2009 1:21:31 PM

petmonkey

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I'm surprised that you're surprised.

The guy is new. How he could get two slavegirls to call him Master beats me. And he gave you training collars while knowing little of D/s...

The play left you in subspace, and it got him horny. So he brought you to the shower and made a pass at you. Twice. And it ruined your subspace buzz.

If he has any Master in him, he'll come to you and apologize, and work with you to get past it. But if he's just a horndog who's getting off on topping, it ain't gonna happen.

Again, he's new and unused to the responsibility of owning two girls, and I suspect owning even one. Spanking/flogging/whipping/playing with you got him hot. To any non-Master, the self-control to NOT make a pass at you is simply not there. It sounds to me like you elevated some guy to Master and are surprised that he's not fitting the role well that you selected for him. If you two are up to training him and he's receptive, go for it. But at this point, I would prepare to walk.

And I know you don't want to do this, but you really need to discuss this with your Mistress.